My name is Ma Tianming, I am 48 years old, I work as a purchasing manager in a large company. My biggest wish is to see my daughter Ma Xiaofeng safely find a good family to marry.
After graduating from university, her daughter worked in a foreign company and met a boy named Zhang Fei. One day, my daughter suddenly called, and her tone was very excited: "Dad, guess I'm going to tell you good news!" ”。
I smiled and said, "What's the good news?" Could it be that the job promotion and salary increase? ”
The daughter chuckled, "No!" It was me and Zhang Fei who confessed to me! ”
The daughter said disapprovingly: "Dad, don't worry about it." Zhang Fei is the project manager of our company, handsome and golden, the girl who chases me can line up from the company to the door, and is a super high-quality man.
I said in a deep voice, "Xiaofeng, you can't just look at the surface. I heard that this Zhang Fei's private life is very chaotic, you have to be careful. ”
The daughter was immediately upset: "Dad! Do you know Zhang Fei? Why do you say that? I see others very well.
"I listened to others, you have to understand carefully." I advised.
"Got it, don't worry about it. I hung up first, and made an appointment with Zhang Fei for dinner in the evening. The daughter said perfunctorily.
Hanging up the phone, I felt very uncomfortable. This Zhang Fei makes me look unpleasant, and I must not let my daughter suffer grievances.
Later, her daughter really got close to Zhang Fei, and often sent a circle of friends to show affection. I became more and more worried, so I asked around about Zhang Fei's details.
I told my daughter this in a hurry, and instead of believing it, she became angry.
"Dad! How do you believe everything gossip, and ask people everywhere about gossip, it's too inappropriate. Zhang Fei and I have already confirmed the relationship, please don't interfere with us anymore!" The daughter roared on the phone.
I was angry and immediately replied: "He is obviously a scumbag with a heart, and he will only harm you in the future." As a father, I have a responsibility to discipline! ”。
"I'm 25 years old and have the power to make my own decisions! If you oppose Zhang Fei again, we will break off the father-daughter relationship!" The daughter shouted.
I was silent, and my daughter hung up the phone angrily. Our father and daughter were caught in a cold war.
After some time, my daughter suddenly called a video call and told me in tears that she and Zhang Fei were officially engaged and were going to get married next month.
I was shocked: "What? Are you getting married? So suddenly? ”
The daughter choked and said, "I'm sorry Dad, I was going to discuss it with you, but then we quarreled, and I decided on my own."
Now that the engagement has been decided, don't object, okay? ”。
My head grew bigger, and I persuaded: "Xiaofeng, calm down." The matter of marriage cannot be rushed, let's discuss it well, I am still very worried about this Zhang Fei.
The daughter cried, "Dad, can't you support me?" I really love him. Just this once, is it okay to let me be willful? ”。
I sighed: "Well, since you have already decided, I will not object again, I just hope that you will be careful in everything." ”
The daughter thanked her again and again and hung up the phone. I was so confused that I didn't know what to do...
Hanging up, I paced around the room, frowning. I knew in my heart that with my daughter's personality, it would be useless for me to oppose her being with Zhang Fei, and it would even backfire and make her more stubborn.
Just when I was worried, my wife walked in and said with concern, "What's wrong with you?" Did Xiao Feng's girl make you angry again? ”
I nodded: "She has to marry that Zhang Fei, she is already engaged, and she said that she will get married in a month." It is useless for me to object.
My wife is also very anxious: "I have also asked people about this Zhang Fei, I heard that he is a playmaker, and his emotional experience is complicated." Our family Xiaofeng is straight, simple, and definitely injured.
"yes, I'm worried about that too. But my daughter doesn't listen to advice now. I rubbed my temples.
The wife thought for a while and said, "Otherwise, you go to your old classmate Principal Li to help, let him stuff Zhang Fei tens of thousands, and let him leave Xiaofeng."
I hesitated and said, "This method is not very good, it is too unauthentic, maybe it will backfire." ”
"That can only open Xiao Feng's eyes." The wife said anxiously, "She is very naïve now, you have to let her see Zhang Fei's true face with her own eyes before you can give up on him."
"You have a point." I nodded, "I'll go talk to my daughter again and see if I can make sense." If not, she had to learn it herself.
The next day, I plucked up the courage to visit my daughter. As soon as I arrived at her door, I saw a tall and handsome boy holding his daughter in his arms and laughing affectionately.
I cleared my throat, and my daughter found me and was a little surprised: "Dad, why are you here?" ”
The boy immediately let go of his daughter and greeted with some embarrassment: "Hello uncle, I'm Zhang Fei." ”
I glanced at him coldly and turned to my daughter: "Xiaofeng, I have something to tell you." ”
The daughter pursed her lips: "Dad, you say." ”
I said squarely: "Child, get married, think about it again, don't rush." How long have you known Zhang Fei? ”
Zhang Fei immediately interjected: "Uncle, I have known Xiaofeng for more than a year, and our relationship is very stable. ”
I glared at him and said, "I didn't ask you." Xiaofeng, listen to your father, don't be impulsive. ”
The daughter lowered her eyes and said softly: "Dad, I have thought it through." Let's accumulate some virtue. ”
What else I want to say, Zhang Fei has already raised his daughter's hand: "Uncle, our engagement banquet is being prepared, I hope you can come and bless us at that time."
I was frustrated, looking at my daughter's happy appearance, I could only nod: "Okay, you guys experience." But before I get married, I think about it.
With that, I turned and left. On the way home, I had mixed feelings. My daughter looks happy, and I can't bear to deprive her of joy.
As a father, what should I do right?.
In the past few days, I have been worried about my daughter's marriage all the time. I was also absent-minded at work during the day, always thinking about whether to go to my daughter and talk again.
On this day, I was in a daze, and suddenly received a call from my wife: "You hurry back, there is something important!" ”
I was shocked and immediately took a leave of absence to go home. As soon as I entered the door, I saw my wife holding a wad of photos and materials in her hand, and her face was ugly.
I quickly asked, "What is the situation?" What happened to you? ”
The wife said angrily: "I paid someone to investigate Zhang Fei and found that he really had a problem!" These are all his negative materials, and Xiaofeng must be shown to avoid being deceived! ”
I carefully looked through the information, it turned out that Zhang Fei had several relationships before, and each relationship lasted less than a year before breaking up.
I was shocked after seeing it: "Oh my God, this Zhang Fei is simply a demon, you must not let Xiaofeng marry him!" ”
The wife hurriedly said: "It is!" Quickly show these things to Xiao Feng, she will definitely be sober. ”
I hesitated: "But this is too unkind..." Will it backfire and make our daughter resent us even more? ”
The wife said anxiously: "Now I can't care so much, I must let my daughter recognize Zhang Fei's true face, and I can't miss this opportunity!" ”
After thinking about it, I decided to meet my daughter in person and show her all these materials. The next day, I went downstairs to my daughter's company and blocked her.
As soon as my daughter came out and saw me, she was a little surprised: "Dad, why are you here?" Is something wrong? ”
I pulled my daughter aside and showed her the pile of information: "Look what this is!" ”
The daughter looked at it carefully, and her face became more and more ugly: "What are these things..." Isn't this rumor-mongering? ”
I hurriedly persuaded: "Xiaofeng, you must think twice!" This Zhang Fei is definitely not simple, it will harm you! ”
The daughter said irritably: "Dad, you are the same as those who talk nonsense." Zhang Fei is very good to me, I don't listen to these rumors! ”。
After that, my daughter threw the information to me and turned away. I stood where I was, helpless.
Back home, my wife asked anxiously, "How is it?" What was Xiaofeng's reaction after reading the information? ”
I lowered my head and said, "She didn't believe it, and threw everything back to me, and it didn't work at all." ”
The wife was also very anxious: "This child, just such a person does not open the trick!" ”
I rubbed my temples: "We'll just let her go." Even if she gets married, we will still help her in the future.
The wife sighed: "That's all it takes." Our family Xiaofeng, why is it so disobedient! ”
I was also helpless. As the days passed, my daughter's wedding date approached, and all I could do was go to her on her wedding day and give her a blessing.
Finally, the day before my daughter's wedding, I still couldn't bear it, and decided to go to my daughter and try to make sense again...
I went to my daughter's neighborhood in advance and blocked her at the entrance of the community. As soon as she saw me, her daughter's face was ugly.
I said straight to the point: "Daughter, you must think twice, you can't marry this Zhang Fei." ”
The daughter said coldly: "Dad, I'm going to get married, why are you still interfering." ”
I said, "I have inquired about this Zhang Fei from all aspects, and he is definitely not the good person you think. ”
The daughter said impatiently: "Dad, it's useless, I will marry him if you say anything." ”
I saw my daughter like this, and the anger also came up: "I don't agree with you being together, you want to be with him, I don't agree with you getting married, you still want to get married, okay, I'll guard here and see how you hold the wedding tomorrow!" ”
When my daughter heard me say this, tears came out of her eyes: "Dad, do you hate me?" Don't you want me to be happy so much? ”
I quickly coaxed my daughter: "Dad doesn't mean that, I'm just too worried about you." ”
The daughter cried and said, "Dad, leave me alone, I'm 26 years old and have the ability to take responsibility for my life." ”
When I saw my daughter like this, my heart was like a knife, but I didn't know what to do.
Just when we were deadlocked, a boy hurriedly ran over and shouted: "Xiaofeng! ”
I fixed my eyes, isn't this my wife's brother Ma Tianyang, when did he meet my daughter?
As soon as my daughter saw Ma Tianyang, the whole person was embarrassed and lowered her head.
I was a little confused and asked Tianyang: "Why are you here?" ”
Tianyang said, "Uncle, I have something important to tell you and Xiaofeng. ”
I looked at him suspiciously and asked him to continue.
Tianyang said: "Uncle, the truth is this, I like Xiaofeng for a long time, and I have not dared to confess because I think you will disagree with us being together."
We are often together in private, but Xiaofeng does not want to betray Zhang Fei, so he suddenly decided to get married.
I was dumbfounded and didn't know what to say for a while. The daughter also admitted with a red face.
I sighed deeply and persuaded Tianyang and my daughter to think calmly. I said, "You young people tend to be very impulsive in the face of feelings, and I have no objection to you being together, but you must think carefully.
I don't want you to ruin your youth on impulse.
Tianyang and her daughter both nodded.
I finally said: "Xiaofeng, cancel the wedding, have a good talk with Zhang Fei, but don't make hasty decisions about the future." ”
The daughter agreed with red eyes. I left with peace of mind, hoping that my daughter could think calmly and not be carried away by feelings.
Leaving the community, my heart could not calm down for a long time.
It turned out that Zhang Fei, who I had been opposing, was not really loved by my daughter, and her daughter's feelings had already quietly favored another boy.
As a father, I should not impose my own standards on my daughter, nor should I interfere with my daughter's feelings through improper means.
The daughter has grown up and has the right to choose her own life, even if she chooses an imperfect path, she should experience and grow up by herself.
When I got home, I told my wife everything about today. The wife was first surprised, and then also fell into deep thought.
"We are all old, and we should learn to let go and trust our daughter to have her own judgment." The wife sighed, "We haven't been able to give her enough words and deeds before, so this time it's up to her to understand it herself."
I nodded: "I plan to write a letter to my daughter, tell her what I think, and then respect her choice." Although it is not easy to let go, we must trust our daughter.
"You're right." The wife agreed.
The next day, I wrote a long letter to my daughter in my study. I told her that as parents, we also have our own considerations and want you to avoid stepping on the pit.
I can't force you to accept my advice, I can only enlighten you to weigh the pros and cons. Your life is up to you and I will always support you.
After writing the letter, I carefully packed it into an envelope and personally delivered it to my daughter's company. I hope that this letter will make my daughter understand my intentions, and our relationship will become closer.
A week later, my daughter sent me a letter back. She said she was surprised to hear from me and didn't expect me to be so reasonable.
She will carefully consider her decision and will not act hastily. It's normal for there to be a generation gap between our father and daughter, and she will put herself in my shoes.
In this way, my daughter and I re-established contact and trust. I no longer disagree with her feelings and only give advice when she needs advice.
I am sincerely happy for my daughter. As parents, our task is to make our children grow up healthy and happy, my daughter has finally found her happiness, and I can safely hand her over to her new life.
Time flew by, and in the blink of an eye, another two years passed. In the past two years, my relationship with my daughter has become better and better, and she will often talk to me about the situation between herself and her boyfriend.
I heard my daughter say that she and Ma Tianyang have been living together for a year, and the relationship between the two is very stable and they are ready to get engaged. I was a little worried after hearing this, but I also knew that I could no longer oppose it as before, but I just told my daughter to think carefully and not be impulsive.
The daughter said happily: "Dad, I know very well how Tianyang is. He was simple and simple and very nice to me. Rest assured.
I listened to my daughter's tone so determined, so I no longer interfered too much.
Finally, on a spring day, my daughter called excitedly, saying that she and Ma Tianyang were engaged and had begun to prepare for the wedding, which was just two months later.
I was a little flattered and quickly said, "Is it so sudden? Did you really think it through? ”
The daughter said happily: "We are very stable and well prepared, so we decided to get engaged in advance." There will be an engagement party in the evening, and you and your mother will remember to attend.
I smiled and said, "Okay, well, we'll be there on time." ”
After hanging up the phone, I said to my wife: "Our daughter is getting married, and the partner looks good, she is a simple young man."
His wife also smiled: "Xiaofeng, this girl, finally met a good person." We should prepare a gift money and order candy for guests.
"You're right, it's time to get ready." I nodded.
That evening, we arrived at the engagement banquet as promised. As soon as I entered the door, I saw my daughter and Ma Tianyang greeting guests together, and my face was full of happiness.
Seeing us coming, my daughter said happily: "Mom and Dad, you are here!" Come in and sit. ”
I looked at Ma Tianyang and felt that he looked thick and honest, unlike the disciple who sought flowers and asked Willow, so I was relieved.
At the engagement ceremony, I was full of emotion, but I was also sincerely happy for my daughter. I believe she will find her happiness.
Two months later, my wife and I arrived at our daughter's wedding on time. She is wearing a white wedding dress, beautiful and moving.
Watching my daughter enter the cave room happily, a feeling of worship rose in my heart. Our children have finally found the other half of their lives.
As parents, our mission is also accomplished. My daughter will start a whole new life, and I believe she will be happy.