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My name is Li Fang, I am 38 years old this year, and I have been married to my husband Zhang Qiang for 10 years. Zhang Qiang is a classmate of mine in college, and we fell in love for 7 years before entering the palace of marriage. Although the life after marriage is tight, Zhang Qiang is still good to me and tries to take care of my feelings, but sometimes I have a little temper and like to lose my temper.
My mother is 60 years old this year, her health has not been very good, she has recently been diagnosed with liver cancer, it is already in an advanced stage, and she needs immediate surgery, followed up with medication and chemotherapy or something. The cost is expected to be more than 200,000, which is an astronomical amount for our family. I begged for a long time, and Zhang Qiang reluctantly agreed to pay half of the money first, more than 100,000. I hurriedly discussed the duration of the operation with the doctor.
Just as I was planning my hospitalization, Zhang Qiang suddenly told me that he had transferred the money he was going to give to his sister Zhang Na as a down payment to buy a house. I was shocked on the spot and hurriedly asked him: "You took my mother's medical expenses to buy a house?" Does your sister know the origin of the money? How did she agree?"
Zhang Qiang flashed his words: "This matter is quite sudden, I didn't want to take this money, but my sister's house is too difficult, she is getting married, and there is no house, I will lend it to her first, don't be angry."
I said angrily, "What do you mean to lend her to use?" What about my mom's surgery? You want my mother to die?" How can you take my mother's surgery money to buy a house for your sister without consulting me? Do you still have a bit of humanity?"
Zhang Qiang said with a bitter face: "I know it's wrong, but now there is no other way, this money sister accepted it, and the house was also bought." You just understand her, let's think of another way. ”
I was so angry that I punched the back of the sofa: "If you don't have money, you should borrow it, why take my mother's surgery fee to buy a house?" Have you brothers and sisters all eaten their consciences by dogs? I'm going to go to your sister now and see what she says!"
Zhang Qiang hurriedly stopped me: "You calm down, my sister is also a last resort, you can't blame her, let's talk about this."
I threw Zhang Qiang away and went straight to Zhang Na's house without looking back. I've got to get this out of the way!
When I came to Zhang Na's house, I asked her bluntly: "Where did your brother get the money for buying a house for you, do you know in your own heart?"
Zhang Na hesitated for a moment and said, "My brother only said that it was a little deposit from him, let me not ask about the origin, just help me." I thought..."
I roared, "His deposit? That's the cost of my mom's cancer surgery! We are already financially strapped for money, how can he have so much spare money to buy you a house? Don't you two brothers and sisters want my mother's life?"
Zhang Na was taken aback, and said with a difficult face: "I really didn't know that it was my aunt's surgery fee, and my brother never mentioned it to me." He only said that it was a little of his savings, and asked me to accept it without asking. I also accepted it because of practical needs. ”
Hearing Zhang Na say this, I felt a little relieved in my heart, it seems that Zhang Qiang really concealed her to take the money without authorization, not that she deliberately rushed to ask for it. Thinking about it, my sister really needs the down payment for this house, otherwise she can only continue to rent.
I calmed down a little and said to Zhang Na: "You didn't mean it either, the main fault is your brother Zhang Qiang, he shouldn't have used my mother's money to buy you a house." I really can't forgive him for doing this. But you also have a responsibility to ask the source of the money, and you can't simply accept funds from unknown sources. I'm sad now, and you can think about how to remedy it. ”
After that, I heard the phone ringing and my heart racing, because this could be the call from the hospital... Okay, continue about 1000 words:
I picked up the phone, and it was my mother's attending doctor. He said in a hurried tone that my mother's condition was deteriorating rapidly, it was already late stage four, and it was necessary to undergo surgery as soon as possible, otherwise her life would be in danger at any time. I painfully asked him if he could wait a few more days, and the doctor insisted that he could not delay any longer, and that it was better to arrange the operation today.
My brain buzzed, the cost of the operation has not yet been settled, in case my mother really delayed the operation and... I didn't dare to think about it anymore. I checked with the doctor about the estimated cost of the operation, and it was indeed the amount that my husband and I had discussed before. After hanging up the phone, I immediately called Zhang Qiang and ordered him to pay back the money immediately, I want to see the operation fee within today, otherwise I will go directly to the court to file for divorce!
Zhang Qiang listened to me say this, stunned for a few seconds, and then said that he would find a way. I sneered and hung up the phone directly. It's really a wife and mother, and her sister can't bear to ask for the goods! I knew he wouldn't be able to scrape together that much money anytime soon, but I didn't have a better idea. Seeing the time pass by like this, my heart also mentioned the eyes of my throat.
Unable to do anything, I tried to turn to some friends. I called my good friend Liu Ting, but she said that she was recently renovating her house and that her cash flow was difficult. I asked my colleague Wang Li again, and she said she could lend me 10,000 yuan temporarily, but it was far from enough. I also asked some relatives and friends for help, but either I didn't have that much cash or I had financial needs. That's when I really realized that a diagnosed serious illness is a devastating blow to a family.
I sat in my chair in despair, watching the hour hand move forward little by little, and my mother's life passed by minute by minute. Zhang Qiang called me a few times, and I directly pressed them all. He messaged that he was figuring out a way to ask me to give him a few more days. I sneered, I only had one day left in my time, and his days meant nothing to me.
Just then, the doorbell suddenly rang. I opened the door and saw Zhang Na standing outside the door, she was holding a bag in her hand, looking at me breathlessly: "Sister, I'm sorry, I really didn't know the origin of the money before, I have 100,000 yuan here, you quickly take it to treat your aunt!"
I froze, Zhang Na took the initiative to return the down payment of the house to me, even if it was only 100,000, it was a blessing for me. I couldn't help but shed tears and thanked my sister again and again. Zhang Na also cried, she said that she originally only cared about her own needs, and she didn't expect how critical her aunt's situation was, and she would definitely take care of her aunt in the future. In addition to being moved, I feel a great responsibility to save my mother!
After getting the 100,000 yuan that Zhang Na returned to me, I immediately called the doctor again and told him that I had prepared part of the operation fee and asked him to determine the operation time as soon as possible. The doctor hesitated, but finally agreed to arrange surgery this afternoon. After checking the time with the doctor, I breathed a sigh of relief. Finally, I saw a glimmer of hope.
Then I rushed to the hospital non-stop and completed all the procedures to pay the surgery fee in advance and sign the consent form. After reconfirming the risk with the doctor, I silently prayed that everything would go well. I walked around outside the operating room door, keeping an eye on the progress of the operation. It took more than two hours for the doctor to come out of the operating room, and I immediately stepped forward to inquire about the situation. The doctor told me that the operation went very well, my mother's tumor was all removed, and as long as the follow-up chemotherapy effect was good, there was a good hope of recovery. I burst into tears with excitement and thanked the doctor again and again. I knew it would be a long time to come, but at least I saved my mother's life.
The moment the operation was successful, I broke down and burst into tears. I called my sister Zhang Na, and she was so happy that she couldn't speak. Without Zhang Na's timely help, I can't imagine the consequences. In life, it is my blessing to meet such a good sister.
I called my husband Zhang Qiang again, and he heard that the operation was successful and he breathed a sigh of relief. But just as we were talking, he suddenly choked up and cried on the phone. I was surprised, but my heart softened again. Zhang Qiang choked up and said to me: "I'm sorry, Fang, I was wrong, I shouldn't have betrayed you and my aunt." I was so selfish that I only thought about my sister and forgot that you and your aunt were the ones who needed help the most. I will definitely compensate you in the future, please forgive me this time and give me the opportunity to be a person again, okay?"
Listening to Zhang Qiang so repentant and repentant, my heart began to slowly soften. I know that in the most difficult times, a person may really have a wrong choice. My husband has been good to me over the years, and this time I really want to think about my sister. I can't continue to blame against my will.
"Since you know it's wrong, then I'll forgive you this time. As long as you don't make the same mistake again and care more about me and my mother, we'll start over. I said this to Zhang Qiang. Zhang Qiang repeatedly promised that he would treat us well in the future and would spend the rest of his life to compensate.
Hanging up the phone, I finally felt relieved of the burden of these days. My mom saved her life, my relationship with my husband and I had hope of rebuilding, and I finally saw the future of this family. I know that my husband is not intentional, but people tend to lose their feet when they are confused. Now that he has found himself again, I can also find the heart I love for him.
This experience taught me to value the people in front of me. It also made me see the nature and weakness of many people in difficult situations. Human nature is multifaceted, and I have to learn to be inclusive and understand it deeply. Human weakness under economic pressure should not be rashly criticized and judged. I also have to reflect on my own concept of consumption, money is not the end of life, how insignificant it is compared to love.
I will get through this haze with my family, support each other, and turn the work into a good thing. I believe that with a little bit of daily love, we will eventually find that happy and warm home. This turmoil made me see the meaning of my family. And the reason why it has become a storm is that there are differences between us that need to be communicated and understood. When we learn to listen to each other again, we will find that the affection of family is always waiting for us.
It's been a month since my mom had surgery. She has just finished the second round of chemotherapy, and although her body is still very weak, her spirit is already much better. Recently, I insisted on taking her back and forth to the hospital for chemotherapy every day, and I also learned to make some easily digestible liquid food to replenish her body. My mother said that I was more attentive than when I gave birth to her, and always smiled and praised me as a good and filial daughter. Now she seems to have lost the melancholy and despair of the past, replaced by the determined courage to face the disease. I also found positive strength in her.
My husband Zhang Qiang has been so nice to me lately. He cooked breakfast for both of us early every day and drove me and my mother to the hospital. He also often worked overtime to earn money, and then bought supplements and his mother's favorite fruits to keep at home. Once I praised him for his good performance during this time, he scratched his head shyly and said: "This is what I should do, you and my aunt have suffered such a big grievance from me, I must compensate you." I watched him keep his promise, and the pimple in my heart gradually disappeared.
Just a few days ago, Zhang Na suddenly came to my house to find me, and she brought a large bag full of various nutritional products and health foods. Zhang Na apologized to me, saying that I really didn't know the origin of the money, so I don't blame her, and she will work hard and will definitely return the down payment to me in the future. I looked at my sister's sincere appearance, and I couldn't bear to blame her anymore. I asked her to care more about her mother in the future, and often came to the house to help take care of her mother, and my sister readily agreed.
Zhang Na also talked to me about her own situation. She broke up with her boyfriend Wu Lei because the other party's family couldn't accept the fact that she didn't have a house. She said that perhaps this is also a lesson, reminding her not to care too much about material conditions, and to find a down-to-earth and kind person is the last word. I heard my sister say this, and I felt that she had matured a lot. Past misunderstandings seem to have been sublimated in these days, and we have become able to put ourselves in each other's shoes.
I have also gradually realized that there will inevitably be some quarrels and misunderstandings in life, but as long as people's hearts remain unchanged, there is hope to resolve problems. Zhang Qiang and I were once fiercely opposed because of misunderstanding, but when he was asked to choose his sister, it was also out of care for his sister; And my insistence on the cost of surgery is also out of responsibility to my mother. We all have our own difficulties. Now, after this storm, we are re-examining each other's good intentions, which is the key to untying the knot.
It is normal for people to have differences and prejudices, but those who live together need to learn to be considerate, relenting and tolerant. After this incident, I saw the power of flexibility and tolerance in my family. When we regain empathy that stands in each other's shoes, we will find that the most precious things in life will eventually come to fruition.
I believe that the pain of the past has been reunited, and better days await us in the future. This storm is like a rainbow after a storm, reminding me not to forget the most important things in life. It came unexpectedly, but it made our happiness worth looking forward to.
Yesterday, I suddenly received a transfer notice from Zhang Na, and when I opened it, she actually transferred 100,000 yuan to me. This was the down payment for the house, and she finally gave me back as promised. I immediately called to thank me and expressed my surprise. Zhang Na said with a smile that she has worked hard to save money these days, and has also bought a lot of real estate, and finally made up enough for these 100,000 yuan. She said that she really took care of the loss, should not take up the operation fee belonging to her mother, now that she is fine, she feels that she has just let go of the big stone in her heart.
I know that for Zhang Na, these 100,000 pieces are not only a material number, but also represent her regaining the respect and forgiveness of my mother and me. People repent precisely because nothing makes more sense than repairing a relationship. I told my sister again that that incident is behind and I just want everyone to come together. Zhang Na happily said that she would often visit her mother in the future and take care of me as the boss.
Hanging up the phone, I thought with relief that perhaps our sisters needed this incident to re-recognize each other and cherish this home. Perhaps every family crisis is an opportunity to start anew. I believe that Zhang Na will find someone who truly loves her to start a family in the future, and she has grown into a sensible and contented woman.
When I got home in the evening, Zhang Qiang excitedly told me that he had applied for a new job and that his salary could be doubled. He said that this job opportunity is rare and that he will definitely give it his all. I am also sincerely happy for him. Once upon a time, we would also make a big fuss over money; Now we have all learned to cherish the happy life in front of us. I believe Zhang Qiang will seize this opportunity, and he also needs such a stage to show himself.
Mom was so happy when she heard our recent good news. She said that her old bone also survived, which was a miracle. I watched her eat with gusto, full of energy, and knew that we had come out of that dark time. No matter what happens in the future, we will no longer choose to blame and oppose each other as before. Now we are an ordinary and happy home.
We looked at a few photos that Zhang Na had just sent, which was an outing organized by her company, and Zhang Na was laughing happily in the green mountains and green waters. Mom loved the photos, saying that she gave birth to her daughters to see them happy, and now that we have found our place, she is also happy and proud as a mother.
I know that going through storms is the only way to make people grow. We are no longer the more selfish and frivolous selves we used to be. This storm of a mother's critical illness has made us re-examine the meaning of family relationships. Finally, being able to sit together and talk and laugh is my biggest wish now. I believe that there are still many good things waiting for us in life, and after the storm, we will be more calm and cherish everything we have now.
Yesterday was a special day because mom's chemotherapy was all over! We arrived at the hospital early in the morning and my mom received the last shot of chemotherapy. After the doctor's examination, he happily told us that the tumor had basically disappeared and that my mother's body was improving. This is great news for our whole family and the best gift we have made through that storm.
In order to celebrate my mother's victory over the disease, I discussed with Zhang Qiang and Zhang Na to give my mother a big surprise. In the end, we decided to choose an auspicious day and take my mother to her dream Beidaihe for a few days. I can't wait for my mom to get out and about, get some fresh air, and relax.
Last night, Zhang Qiang quietly told me that he planned to quit his job and start his own business. He said that he always felt that doing things under others was boring and unfulfilling. He wanted to open his own studio and use his expertise. I was a little worried at first, but looking at the enthusiasm in his eyes, I still supported his decision without hesitation. I believe that Zhang Qiang can succeed, and he needs such an opportunity to realize himself.
This morning, I excitedly told my mother that we were going to Beidaihe to play. She was so happy that she smiled and said that she hadn't gone out for a long time. I saw the long-lost joy and anticipation on my mother's face, and I immediately felt that everything was worth it. We decided to leave next Monday and stay by the sea for a few days.
Zhang Na also said that she was not busy at work, so she could take a few days off to go with us. She also smiled and told her mother that she would take good care of her mother, a "critically ill patient", and must not let her mother work too hard. We were all amused by her, and I was touched by my sister's delicate heart.
The day before I left, I packed my suitcase excitedly. I suddenly saw a family photo on the bedside table, which we took together on my mother's birthday last year. We were all smiling happily in the photo, and no one could have imagined that just a few months later, my mother would be terminally ill and our family would almost collapse. Thinking back to those days and nights of worry and despair, I couldn't help but burst into tears. Fortunately, the most difficult moment has passed, and I want to remember this precious touch.
Finally, the day of departure came. I watched as my mother put on her favorite clothes, put on my new hat, and helped her into Zhang Qiang's car. Sitting in the car, I saw the smile on my mother's face, the long-lost, hard-won happiness. I know I am the luckiest daughter in the world. After experiencing the shadow of life and death, we will be more aware of the preciousness of life. I thank God for letting my mother come out of the shadow of illness again and welcome the sunshine with her family.