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My name is Li Yun, I am 32 years old, and I am an ordinary white-collar worker. My wife Lin Lan and I both grew up in this city, we met in college, and after graduation, we naturally entered the palace of marriage. Unfortunately, life after marriage is not satisfactory, my wife tried several jobs but was unable to grow, and is now unemployed at home. I myself work as a clerk in a foreign company, and although my job is stable, my income is limited, only enough for our usual expenses, and I don't have much savings.
In order to survive, I can only choose to ask my mother Liu Xiang for money. My mother is 65 years old this year, retired at home, receiving a pension, and living a decent life. I was very upset, but now I can only ask her for help.
One night, I plucked up the courage to say to my mother: "Mom, Lan Lan and I are not in a good economic situation now, we may need you to give us a little living expenses every month to resist the urgent need, can you give us 4,000 yuan per month?"
Mom smiled and said, "Good boy, don't be polite with mom." You have a difficult life, just tell your mother, and your mother will definitely help you get through the difficulty!"
I said excitedly, "Mom, you're so nice to us!" When our situation improves, we will definitely pay you back!"
The mother waved her hand and said, "Child, don't worry about money, your safety and health are the most important." Mom only hopes that you have a good life, money is temporary, and feelings are eternal. ”
Since we have the financial support of my mother, our life has indeed been much richer. I am very grateful to my mother for taking great care of us. My mother not only remits living expenses on time every month, but also often comes to the house to help cook, clean up, and take care of my 5-year-old son Li Tian.
One day, my mother came to our house as usual and said to me with a smile: "Yunyun, my mother came today to take Tiantian out for a spin, just on the weekend to go to the park to play all day, every day should be happy!"
I was a little embarrassed and said, "Mom, I'm still young, I don't have enough physical strength, and I'm not familiar with the outside environment, so I think it's better not to take him out to play." Or you can play with him at home. ”
Mom's face immediately became ugly, she didn't expect me to refuse, and said a little excitedly: "He is only 5 years old, he should go out to see the world, play for a day without losing a piece of meat, as a grandmother I have the right to take my grandson to play!"
I explained: "Mom, I'm not letting you take Tiantian out, I'm really worried that he is still young, it is very difficult to play all day, Lan Lan and I are still at work, if something happens every day, we are not around to take care of it."
Mom said, "You're having such a hard time now because you didn't show up!" Knowing about work all day and not letting children go out to play is simply suffocating! He is only 5 years old, and it is important to play outside and see the world. ”
I continued to persuade: "Mom, I understand your kindness, but the safety of the child is the most important thing. Why don't you take him out another day, and when he's older, we'll be a lot more relieved. ”
My mother really exploded at this moment, she looked at me seriously, and said word by word: "Well, since you don't agree to let grandma take her grandson out to play, then you don't expect me to give you living expenses anymore!" From today onwards, don't want a penny!" After that, my mother left without looking back.
My wife and I looked at each other, stunned by my mother's sudden reversal. How did we know that this time, it turned out that just because of a small request to go out, it shook the relationship between me and my mother...
Later, I will continue to focus on this contradiction, describing how I solved my mother's misunderstanding through communication and rebuilt the mother-child relationship with her. This paragraph is written here first, please check whether the relationship between the characters and the narrative logic are reasonable and whether they have achieved a sufficiently detailed effect. If there are still areas for improvement, please point them out and I will make changes. Thank you! Okay, I'll continue 1000 words as follows:
I couldn't understand my mother's sudden change of face. Before we've been at peace with each other, and my mother is also very good to our family, how could we turn our faces and not recognize people because of this small difference of opinion?
I called my cousin Wang Jun to tell him about the situation, and I wanted him to help me ask my mother what caused her to suddenly cut off financial support. Wang Jun is his mother's baby son, and she will definitely confide her true thoughts to Wang Jun.
The next day, Wang Jun came to me and said with an embarrassed look: "Yunyun, I have already talked to my aunt. She said she has always treated you as her own children and has always been very good to you. But you didn't let her take her grandson out to play, which hurt her deeply, and she felt insulted. As a grandmother, she has the right to take her grandson out, but you have no regard for her feelings. Auntie said that she is very angry with you now and needs to calm down for a while, so she will not give you living expenses for the time being. ”
I was stunned after listening to it, it turned out that it was just a misunderstanding, my mother didn't mean to stop caring about us at all, she was just temporarily angry and needed to calm down. It seems that I considered the problem from too single a single angle at that time, did not think from my mother's point of view, thought that she was irrational, and hurt her self-esteem as a grandmother.
In the past few days, I have been extremely sad and blamed myself. I'm holding my mom to my own standards, and I should put myself in her shoes. As a son, I should be considerate of her feelings and not simply refuse her requests. I decided that I had to sincerely apologize to my mother in person to resolve her inner unhappiness.
So, with the encouragement of my wife Lan Lan, I came to my mother's house and knelt directly to her to admit my mistake: "Mom, I'm sorry, my son was too single in his previous perspective, and he didn't stand in your position to understand your feelings." As a grandmother, you have the right to take your grandson out to play, but your son is wrong. I'm really remorseful and sad, I've been thinking a lot these days... Mom, I beg you, my lord, to forgive my son for his mistake this time. You have always been so good to us, and my son will always be grateful for your nurturing grace. ”
When my mother saw my heartache, she couldn't bear it, so she quickly picked me up and said, "Son, I forgive you." As a mother, I shouldn't have to worry so much about my own children. You still need my help in life, and I will not cut off my support for you because of this misunderstanding, you can rest assured. ”
I hugged my mother excitedly, tears rolling in my eyes: "Mom, I know it's wrong, I'll learn my lesson." You can forgive me, it is the luckiest thing in my life. I will always serve you as a son. ”
Seeing that the mother-son relationship was finally repaired, Lan Lan and I also breathed a sigh of relief, and we decided that we must understand and support each other, and not alienate our relatives because of a little misunderstanding. In the evening, when the family reunited happily for dinner, I hugged my son and sighed: "We must know how to understand each other, and we must not damage family affection for small things."
This dispute with my mother made me think more deeply about family relationships. I began to reflect on my proper attitude in the family.
In fact, in this incident, my mother and I had our own problems. As a son, I did not fully understand my mother's intentions, and only unilaterally denied my mother with my point of view. This invisibly hurt my mother's feelings. As a mother, mom should also understand my concern for the safety of my children and my responsibility as a father, rather than insisting on my grandmother's rights.
After this experience, I learned to put myself in my mother's shoes. I began to take the initiative to care about my mother's life, often calling to greet her and inviting her to come to my home. Once I specially took a day off to accompany my mother to the park for a walk, watch a movie, eat, and serve my mother intimately all day. My mother was so happy that day that she smiled and said to me, "Son, the happiest thing about mom is that you are safe and happy." Seeing you by my side, I don't want anything anymore. ”
I was very touched by my mother's words. I suddenly realized that in my mother's heart, the company of me and my family was above all else. In the past, I always put work and life as the most important thing, and ignored my family's dependence on my mother and spiritual comfort.
From now on, I will often find time to spend time with my mother. I will surprise her on her birthday and I will often visit her with my grandson. I decided to arrange a family trip every year to take my mom to the places she wanted. I also go home during traditional festivals such as Spring Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival. For mom, these companionships are more valuable and memorable than any gift.
Through this incident, Lan Lan has become more and more intimate and considerate. When her mother comes to the house, she will carefully prepare her mother's favorite hometown dishes. She will also often accompany her mother to go shopping and chat. Mom also gradually treated her as her own biological daughter.
Arashi and I now cherish the relationship between our families. We will often talk to our parents and in-laws to greet their bodies and lives. We also often bring our son home to visit, communicate family problems, and connect with the family. This is the most profound revelation of this misunderstanding.
In life, the company of family members is the happiest. I will firmly remember the lesson given to me by this dispute with my mother, never think about small things with my family, always be considerate of my family, and communicate and understand more in order to obtain lasting family affection and happiness.
After this incident, I made up my mind to work hard to earn money and reduce my mother's financial burden. Although my mother had long forgiven me and re-agreed to provide financial support, I did not want to rely on her financial help for long. This is too irresponsible for a son.
I began to use my spare time to learn some knowledge of investment and financial management, trying to increase my income with some appropriate investments. At the same time, I also took the initiative to reflect my ideas to the company's leaders, hoping to be promoted and develop my career.
At first, I was a complete layman to investing and managing money. But by reading books and observing the operation of some investment experts, I gradually mastered some basic methods. I focus on several types of relatively stable stocks and funds, and try to get stable investment returns through fixed investment. At the same time, I also pay attention to some short-term trading opportunities, absorb dips, reduce holdings at highs, and accumulate small amounts.
In terms of work, I also do my best and take the initiative to propose work plans and ideas to the leader. After a period of hard work, the company finally gave me a promotion, and I was promoted from junior staff to the head of a small team. While management is busier, both revenue and prospects have improved.
Mom was very happy to see the change in me. One day, she complimented me and said, "Son, it's very gratifying for mom to see you working so hard. You're an adult and you're ready to stand on your own. No matter what difficulties you encounter in the future, you must maintain an optimistic and persistent attitude. Remember, hard work pays off. ”
I was touched by my mother's encouragement. I said, "Mom, your love for me all the time has given me tremendous motivation. I will continue to work hard to achieve financial independence as soon as possible so that you can enjoy your old age with peace of mind. When the time comes, our family will take you on a tour of the world!"
In the blink of an eye, another two years passed. In the past two years, my income and investment have accumulated a little, and I can finally basically cover the expenses of the family, and no longer need to rely on my mother's support. At this time, my mother said to me enthusiastically: "Son, the other day my mother met a warm-hearted old gentleman, he was very good to my mother, and we decided to live together." In the future, my mother will follow him to settle abroad, and you will take care of yourself and your family!"
I gladly accepted my mother's decision to find a new love and old age, and I was sincerely happy. I think I can finally truly repay my mother for her nurturing grace over the years and let her enjoy life happily.
I was sincerely happy to see my mother find a new home. After so many years of misunderstanding and running-in, my relationship with my mother has been sublimated to a new height. I am no longer a son who needs financial support from my mother, and my mother is no longer a mother who needs to take care of her children, and we can finally understand, trust and respect each other as equal individuals.
Mom soon moved abroad with her new friend, Uncle Lixia. The warm climate and beautiful scenery are perfect for two elderly people to enjoy a peaceful life. I call over a lot, and my mom's voice sounds full of joy and life. Uncle Lixia is also very considerate of her mother, will take her out for walks, supermarkets, and do various activities together, and her mother feels that her life is very full and rich.
During a video call, my mother said to me happily: "Son, following Uncle Lixia these days, I feel that my spirit has been less in the first ten years!" The scenery here is so beautiful, the air is so good, every day we go out for a walk and chat, and from time to time we go to a park to watch a concert, which is really leisurely. I'm so happy now!"
I am also very pleased to see my mother's life so colorful. I can finally rest assured that my mother can enjoy life freely and no longer have to worry about her livelihood. After a hard life, Mom can finally stop running and be her true self, which is the reward she deserves.
Arashi and I have also had successful careers over the years, our children have grown up, and our families have been harmonious and happy. Every year, Arashi takes her children abroad to visit her mother, and she will live there for a month or two. I also find time to fly over to be with my mother. The family's time overseas was very warm and pleasant.
Watching her grandson grow up day by day, my mother is also very happy. She will tell her grandson a lot of stories from the past, teach him to read and sing, and the relationship between her grandson and grandma is getting better and better. Once in the video, my grandson sweetly shouted "grandma", and I saw tears in my mother's eyes.
Life is like this, after career and running-in, finally enjoy the happiness in the old age. I thank my mother for her nurturing grace over the years, and I am even more grateful to her for giving me the opportunity to be a person again. Past misunderstandings have turned into smoke, leaving only deep family affection. I will always love her as she loves me.