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My name is Xiaomei, I am 25 years old, and I am a clerk in a clothing store. My husband's name is Liu Hua, 25 years old like me, working in sales for a foreign company. We were high school classmates and naturally came together after graduation. It's only been 3 years since I got married, but I'm already thinking about divorcing him.
Liu Hua's parents have always lived in an old house in the city, and they let us move in directly with them after we got married, and I was quite happy at first. My mother-in-law worked in the street office during the day, and my mother-in-law treated me well and often prepared my favorite dishes. My father-in-law is retired at home, and his personality is a bit old-fashioned and serious, but he is fine for me.
The problem is that a year after getting married, I became pregnant. My mother-in-law immediately changed her face and said that I had married here to take advantage of her family property. My belly grew bigger day by day, but my mother-in-law began to make things difficult for me, asking me to do housework but not letting me sit down for a while, and calling me clumsy when she saw me dizzy. I had to swallow my anger because I didn't want to make my pregnant self too hard.
My mother-in-law also began to slander me in front of Liu Hua, saying that I knew how to eat and sleep all day, did not do any housework, and often took advantage of her absence. I was very aggrieved, obviously I had worked hard to take care of the whole family. But Liu Hua never helped me explain, just told me not to worry about my parents, what should be done is still to be done.
What chilled me even more was that my father-in-law also began to target me. I was always picked up by him when I cooked, it was too salty, etc., obviously I was very careful. He also often made unreasonable noises, allowing me, an eight-month-old pregnant woman with a big belly, to move things to the third floor, and I had to obey, but he still complained that I was slow and completely disregarding my physical condition.
In this way, I survived a difficult pregnancy and gave birth to my daughter Shin Shin. But after giving birth, my life was even more difficult, and my in-laws called me around like a servant, and when the child cried, she said that I had not taken good care of me. I was physically and mentally exhausted, and I really didn't have any dignity as a human being, as a wife and as a mother.
The other day it was too much, Xinxin played and knocked down a vase in the room, and my mother-in-law said that I didn't look after the child well, and actually slapped me a few times. I couldn't bear it anymore and decided that I had to end such a marriage, otherwise I would really be driven crazy.
I told Liu Hua that we should have a good talk, and I decided to divorce. Liu Hua was very surprised, and he said: "Xiaomei, how can you be like this, we have only been married for 3 years, Xinxin is still so young, you want to divorce me?" Are our feelings so light in your heart?"
I couldn't bear it anymore, and I poured out all the grievances I had suffered in the past few years, and also showed the scars on my arms. I said, "Liu Hua, you can see it too, this is all left by your parents' abuse of me." I can't bear it anymore, and if I continue like this, my life will be in danger. ”
Liu Hua still tried to keep me, but I shook my head resolutely, "I'm fed up with this family, I've had enough of your parents, and I'm fed up with you always standing on their side." I really can't live in this environment anymore! Divorce me and set me free. ”
Liu Hua saw that my attitude was resolute, and finally cried and knelt down and begged me: "Xiaomei, I really love you very much, I'm sorry for you in recent years, it's because I failed to protect you." Let's start over, I'll definitely protect you. Please don't leave me, don't leave Shin Shin..."
Seeing Liu Hua pleading like this, I am also heartbroken. But I knew I had to make this hard decision or I would only be destroyed by this home. I wiped away my tears and said softly to Liu Hua: "I'm sorry, I decided, we have to divorce."
Liu Hua cried bitterly, and I endured the pain in my heart and turned away...
I turned and left Liu Hua's house, feeling mixed but determined. I believe I made the right choice.
I went back to my rented cottage and locked myself in my room and cried. Although I had already decided, I was very sad when I actually took this step. Marrying Liu Hua was the most important decision I made at my age, and I once thought we would grow old together. The marriage change was a huge blow to me, and I didn't know where to go in the future.
Fortunately, my girlfriend knew what happened to me, and she immediately rushed to help me.
"Xiaomei, cheer up, you have survived the most difficult moment. The days ahead will get better and better, trust me. You are young enough to support yourself. We'll all help you. ”
I hugged my girlfriend and cried, and gradually calmed down. With her encouragement, I began to think about my own way out. I first called my mother's house to talk about the divorce, and although my mother was also shocked, she didn't blame me too much, and said that she would fully support me as long as I went back. A glimmer of hope rose in my heart.
On the other hand, Liu Hua also seems to be thinking about the responsibility he should bear in this marriage change. Instead of pestering me again, he sat down and seriously wrote a long letter expressing his remorse and determination. He said that he would have a complete showdown with his parents and save me and Shin Shin no matter what.
A few days later, Liu Hua's mother actually came to the door to apologize, which was beyond my expectations. My mother-in-law told me with red eyes that she knew how difficult it was for me to marry over the years, and sincerely made amends to me. She promised to treat me and Xinxin well in the future, and begged me to give Liu Hua a chance not to divorce.
Although I still have resentment, I can't bear to blame my mother-in-law anymore when I see her sincere attitude. I said that I need time to be quiet, and I can't get back together with Liu Hua for the time being, but I will consider letting Liu Hua see Shin Shin regularly. The mother-in-law expressed her gratitude and repeatedly promised that she would make changes.
My mother-in-law's apology shook me, and I began to reflect on whether I had made up my mind to divorce in the first place was too reckless. A family should be tolerant and understanding to each other, should I also give Liu Hua and his mother a chance? So, I wrote back to Liu Hua, saying that I would not sign the divorce for the time being, but we both needed time to think calmly.
Receiving my reply, Liu Hua was so excited that she couldn't speak. After a week, he came to me and told me all about the communication with my parents these days. He said that the stereotypes of his parents' generation did not represent him, and he vowed to protect me in the future. Looking at Liu Hua's determination, I was also moved.
So with the persuasion of my family and friends, I decided to give this injured family a chance to rehabilitate. I promised Liu Hua that I would not divorce for the time being, but it was not easy for us to move out of his parents' house and live alone for a while, but I believe that as long as there is hope, we will always see the light.
Moving out of my in-laws' house is an important new beginning for me and Liu Hua. Although the conditions are humble, my small home gives me hope.
Liu Hua tried to take care of me in every way, and he finally understood the responsibility of being a husband. I stopped talking about divorce and tried to learn how to make concessions, and our relationship became more and more harmonious.
But bigger tests lie ahead. My father-in-law has never been able to accept my son moving out of the house, and still makes it difficult for us in various ways, contemptuous that my origin is not as good as Liu Hua. To this end, Liu Hua experienced painful self-communication, and finally plucked up the courage to explain her principles to her father.
"Dad, I respect you, but please don't interfere in our couple's life anymore. I know the merits of Xiaomei and will treat her well in my way. This is also my responsibility and responsibility as a husband and as an independent person. ”
The father-in-law will find it difficult to accept his son's resistance for a while, but Liu Hua is resolute. In the end, my father-in-law also had to acquiesce to our way of life. After that, we combined the advice of the family doctor and also asked my father-in-law to start regular psychological counseling, which was also a good thing for him.
On the other hand, my mother said she wanted to come and take care of us for a while. Considering her physical condition, I declined the suggestion, but said that I would return to my mother's house whenever necessary. My mother also understands my feelings about living independently.
As the days go by, our lives are finally on track. Liu Hua's work went well, and I also got a new job as a clerk. Liu Hua often finds time to accompany me and Shin Shin, and we will go to the park together. The cheerful and lively laughter healed me and I knew it was all worth it.
The ups and downs of life have made me see a lot clearly, and the most precious of them is the relationship with family and friends. I started reaching out to old classmates and joined some parenting groups to meet more new people. When I chat, I share some of my experiences, and listening to people talk makes me no longer feel lonely.
On the other hand, I am also slowly repairing my relationship with my mother-in-law. She has sincerely apologized, and I can feel the change in her. Sometimes I take Shin Shin to visit my mother-in-law, and her smile and teasing her granddaughter make people feel the warmth of family affection.
Through the ups and downs, I have grown a lot and cherished every good moment in my life. Looking at Xinxin's innocent smiling face and listening to Liu Hua's gentle instructions, I will feel supreme happiness and satisfaction. All this was something I could never have imagined, and I finally found my direction and belonging.
Time flew by, and in the blink of an eye, Shin Shin was already in kindergarten. Watching her happily carry her small schoolbag to school, I couldn't help but remember that I was also a shy little girl, and I couldn't imagine that my life would change so much.
My mother-in-law's physical condition deteriorated day by day, and Liu Hua and I did our best to take care of her. Even though she used to be unfair to me, I still wanted to do my duty as a daughter-in-law. She was also visibly grateful for my care, often saying that I was her most powerful daughter-in-law.
One day, my mother-in-law suddenly said to me: "Xiaomei, thank you for not giving up our family all these years, and thank you for taking care of me." I'm old, and I'm looking away, and I feel sorry for the embarrassment I used to make for you..."
I know that this is the true words of my mother-in-law. I held her hand and said softly, "Mom, you were also kind in the first place, I understand." From now on, our family will be more united. ”
Liu Hua was also moved to tears. At this moment, he suddenly knelt down and said to me: "Xiaomei, thank you for not leaving me." From now on, I will spend my life loving and protecting you. Never let you suffer a little grievance again. ”
I also burst into tears. We hugged together, and I knew that we would face a bright future.
After her mother-in-law passed away, Liu Hua took on the responsibility of taking care of her father-in-law. My father-in-law finally stopped thinking about my identity, only that I was his best daughter-in-law. We spent a few years together as a family.
Until one day, my father-in-law also left us in his sleep. Before leaving, he told us that he hoped that we could give birth to a grandson and pass on the incense.
We were all deeply touched by this last wish of our father-in-law. Soon after, I conceived again and gave birth to a healthy and lovely boy safely. We named him Liu Jingwen.
Raising two children is busy but happy. Liu Hua has a successful career, and he said that he will take his family to travel around the world in the future. I also gradually resolved the pain of the past and entered a new stage of life with confidence.
We went to a class reunion together, and everyone said that we were golden children and girls, and we watched the children compete to tease. All this was something I never imagined.
Life is like a book, and I have finally turned the hardest pages. There will be ups and downs, but we have learned to support each other. I am finally no longer the married wife who is subject to others, but my own woman.
As time went by, our family of four gradually got better.
The children grew up fast, Liu Jingwen was already in elementary school, and Xinxin had become a beautiful and lively little girl. She inherited my musical talent and excelled in singing and piano, and the teacher and we are optimistic about her future development in this field.
Liu Hua and I would accompany the children to the park on weekends, and the family would have fun. We would also drive to farther afield outings and enjoy the beauty of nature. These trips enrich our lives.
I also worked my way up the ranks over the years and finally became a middle manager in the company. At the same time, I also learned a craft in my spare time and obtained a certificate in massage techniques. This not only enriched my life, but also allowed me to have my own career.
Liu Hua has always supported my progress, saying that my courage and perseverance deeply attracted him. He was also promoted to project director at the company and was a role model. We run this small family together and are the envy of our elders and friends.
Marriage is inevitable, but we learn to resolve differences with understanding and tolerance. I often think of the twists and turns we have experienced, which makes happiness even more precious now.
Day by day, the children finally started a family. In the blink of an eye, we are also entering old age. Although Liu Hua and I both have gray hair, watching our grandchildren surround, our lives are still very full and happy.
I will talk to Liu Hua about the bits and pieces of the year and the ups and downs we have walked through. He held my hand and said over and over again, "Thank you for not giving up on me." "I know that our relationship has long passed the test of time.
Life's journey is gone, but I'm thankful that I made the right choice in a time of confusion. I am also thankful that life has given me a new chance to get our family to where we are today.
I believe that the arrangement of fate always has its meaning. No matter how difficult it is, as long as you don't give up lightly, you will definitely see hope. I will also pass on this precious experience to my children, and I hope that they can all have a happy and fulfilling life.
After our children grew up, Liu Hua and I decided to live a leisurely retirement life in a high-end nursing home.
The nursing home is beautiful and we have separate gardens and recreational facilities. I take care of our common potted plants, while Liu Hua likes to play chess and chat with other elderly people. We also regularly participate in singing and dancing activities organized by the nursing home, and our lives are colorful.
Granddaughter Xiaofang had excellent grades and was admitted to a key university. Our whole family held a grand congratulatory ceremony for her. Liu Hua and I also promised to sponsor her to complete her studies and wish her all the best in the future.
Liu Jingwen has a successful job, and he has also found his favorite object and is ready to get married. We repeatedly stressed to him to be kind to his future wife and to teach him from our experience to be considerate and tolerant.
So, when Liu Jingwen invited us to his engagement ceremony, we both shed tears of relief to see his careful care for his fiancée. We believe that he will avoid our mistakes and live a happy life.
Liu Hua and I occasionally revisit our wedding photos. We are young and hopeful in the photo. Now that I think about it, we did go through too many ups and downs that we shouldn't have had back then.
"Liu Hua, we have put in a lot of effort to get to where we are today. I'm thankful that I didn't give up in the end and we ended happily. ”
"Yes, it was really difficult at the beginning, but fortunately we got through it. I will be forever grateful that you gave me a second chance. ”
When we think of the past, we are no longer sad, because the rainbow after the storm is more hopeful. All the achievements we have now have have come easily, and we should cherish them doubly.
There is still a long way to go in life, and I believe that as long as we always walk side by side, there will be no hurdle that cannot be overcome...