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My name is Li Guoqiang, I am 65 years old this year, and I am retired at home. My wife died early, and my son Li Lei is my only relative. Li Lei, 35 years old this year, works as a sales manager in a foreign company and earns a good income. He married a well-behaved and virtuous daughter-in-law named Xiaohong and gave birth to a lovely daughter, Li Sisi.
After I retired, I could only get a few thousand yuan a month in pension, and my life was relatively tight. My main activity every day is to wander around the neighborhood and play chess with a few retired friends. The son and his family live in an old two-bedroom apartment in the city, and although the living conditions are very poor, they can be maintained.
After seeing the life of my son's family, I decided to take out the more than 100,000 yuan of pension I had saved to help my son's family buy a second-hand house on the outskirts of the city. I want to give them a warm home and don't want the next generation to live in a dilapidated old house. I agreed with my son to give him a certain amount of living expenses every month as a mortgage retribution.
One day, I plucked up the courage to say to my son: "Lei Lei, you see that the conditions of our family are really bad, or I will take out my savings and buy you a second-hand house in the suburbs, so that you and Sisi can live in a much better environment." You may not be able to afford the down payment and monthly payment for the purchase of a house at first, I can give you a few thousand dollars a month to help you pay the mortgage until you can financially achieve independence. ”
As soon as my son heard my suggestion, his eyes immediately lit up, and he said again and again: "Dad, you are so right!" Our current old house is really terrible, and we really can't afford to buy a new house, and we need your help. This is a huge boon for our family, and I thank you so much! ”
The daughter-in-law also interjected excitedly: "Father, you are so hearty!" Our family really needs a new living environment, and I watched Sisi play in this dilapidated yard, and my heart was unsteady. With a new house, Sisi can also grow in a wide and bright space in the future. ”
I saw that both of them looked grateful and happy in my heart, feeling that I had made a very good decision. The next day, my son and I went to the real estate agency to sign an agreement to fund the purchase of a house. I have to provide the entire down payment for the purchase of the house, and the monthly living expenses after that to cover their mortgage. The son's family is responsible for repaying the bank loan on time.
In this way, I began to take out my pension of 5,000 yuan a month to provide a mortgage for my son's family. Thanks to my sponsorship, my son quickly bought a moderately priced second-hand house on the outskirts of the city. This house has three bedrooms and a living room, and the living room is very spacious and bright, which is very good for my son's family.
With the new house, I see life getting better and better for my son's family. They bought new furniture and appliances and watched the TV on the big screen every night. The daughter-in-law no longer has to go outside to work part-time to earn money, and can concentrate on taking care of Sisi at home. Sisi's living environment has become better, and its grades have improved a lot.
I often visit their homes and feel the improvement in their quality of life. My son would drive me to the mall near my new house, and he would take me to fancy restaurants. I am naturally happy to see them living in a new house and a good life.
However, this joy was slowly replaced by a doubt in my heart. I found out that my son would pick me up in a Suzhou-branded commercial car worth 300,000 yuan, and this car clearly exceeded his income level. I also noticed that my son bought a lot of designer clothes, added a lot of electronics to the house, and the quality of life seemed to improve a little too quickly.
I began to wonder if my son was lying to me that my life was difficult, when in fact he himself had a good income. Otherwise, how could you suddenly become so rich? This makes me wonder.
One day, my son drove his Suzhou brand commercial car to pick me up, and I couldn't bear it, and immediately asked him: "Lei Lei, why did you suddenly drive such an expensive car?" Didn't you say that the conditions at home are difficult? Don't you still need me to provide living expenses to pay your mortgage? ”
The son's face became ugly, and he said, "Dad, this car was borrowed by a friend to drive me for two days, don't think blindly." I still need you to provide living expenses, don't suddenly change your mind. ”
I immediately replied, "I've seen that your family's life has become better, how can I say it's difficult!" I gave you all my hard-earned pension, but you lied to me! ”
When my son heard me say this, his face turned and he roared: "I knew that sooner or later you would be like this!" We know our own business, you are less nosy! From today onwards, don't come to our house again, and I won't pay attention to you again!" ”
With that, he slammed the door and left, leaving me in place. I was very sad in my heart, and I had a big fight with my son like this, and he said that he would no longer pay attention to me in the future, and my heart was broken...
After a big fight with my son, I was very depressed. I didn't know what I did wrong, but I just cared about my son's life, which caused him to lose his temper with me like this.
Just when I was depressed, my daughter-in-law Xiaohong suddenly came to see me the next day. She said to me with red eyes: "Father, it's not a secret, our family has indeed encountered some difficulties recently. ”
When I heard this, I immediately asked, "Difficult? What difficulties? Lei Lei also said that everything is normal in your life, but I am worried about it! ”
Xiaohong choked and said, "Actually, Lei Lei lost a lot of money in gambling, and our family is indeed short of money." He didn't dare to tell you the truth, so he told those lies. He didn't mean to deceive you, he was also forced to help. I'm here today to ask you to help us again, we really need the money to get through this. ”
When I heard this amazing truth, I only felt that the sky was falling. It turned out that my son not only did not cheat on me, but also fell into the predicament of gambling, and I only cared about him, but caused him so much pressure, and I regretted it.
After learning the truth about my son's gambling, I fell into a deep self-blame and painful struggle. I wanted to help them improve their lives, but I brought temptation to my son and led him to the point of no return in gambling. Shouldn't a father supervise and teach his children to avoid falling into all kinds of things? Not only did I not fulfill my responsibility, but I contributed to this result, how can I be good?
At this time, my neighbor's aunt saw me looking depressed and took the initiative to ask me what had happened. I told her about the situation. After hearing this, my aunt said to me seriously: "Guoqiang, children must be responsible for their own choices after all. You have tried your best to create conditions for them, but they themselves have made bad decisions, and it is not your responsibility. Don't beat yourself up for this. In life, it is inevitable to get hurt occasionally, it is important to live in the present, cherish the present, and talk about it. ”
Hearing my aunt's persuasion, I finally came to my senses. Yes, I've done everything a father should do. My son himself went the wrong way, and no amount of self-blame and sadness I could change the fact that it had already been. I need to learn to let go and stop draining my limited energy for their problems. I still have my own life that I need to live well.
So, I called my son and said that after the last time I provided him with living expenses, I would stop sponsoring them again. He must bear the consequences of his mistakes himself and learn the lessons.
Hearing my decision, my son was still very angry and said that I could not save it. But I was very determined, and he knew that he had a loss, and he had no choice but to accept the result.
After I stopped paying my mortgage, my life was much easier. I stopped worrying about my son and lived a solid retirement. I had time to practice calligraphy, fish, travel, and made many new friends. I heard that my son's family was forced to move out of the house to live in a low-cost rental house, and life is indeed relatively poor. But I believe it may be a lesson for them, a growing pain.
Life in the world cannot be smooth sailing. But as long as you live with an optimistic and grateful attitude, happiness will still come after adversity. I believe that my son will slowly get on the right track after this lesson. And I will enjoy every good thing in life.
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After my son's family was forced to move out of the house, I often think about their current situation. Especially my youngest granddaughter Li Sisi, I don't know what kind of life changes a young child like her has to face.
One day, I finally couldn't resist taking the bus to their new home. It is an old-fashioned, three-story building with peeling facades and various debris piled up in the doorway. I simply knocked on their door.
It was Sisi who opened the door, she was stunned for a moment, and then threw herself into my arms with a cheer: "Grandpa! ”
I picked up this little dot, and infinite love and compassion rose in my heart. This bond of blood thicker than water, even if my son ignores me, cannot stop my love for my granddaughter.
"Grandpa came to see Sisi!" I teased her little face and said.
At this time, daughter-in-law Xiaohong came out, her face a little surprised. She was originally a little angry with me because of the previous incident, but when she saw me visiting, her face also softened: "Father, you are here, please come into the house." ”
The house was empty, with suitcases piled on the floor that had not had time to pack. Outside the window is the main road full of smoke, the sound insulation is very poor, and the sound of cars is very noisy.
I said to Xiaohong distressedly, "It must be very inconvenient for you to move here to live." If you need help, just mention it, I do my best. ”
Xiaohong wiped her tears and said, "We don't want this either, it's all self-inflicted." Don't worry too much about us, we'll figure out how to get through it. ”
At this time, his son Li Lei went home. When he saw me here, his face was very ugly. Still, he nodded in silence and said hello, then returned to the house.
I knew that repairing my broken relationship with my son would take a long time. Once trust is broken, it is difficult to rebuild. I will not force my son to forgive me immediately, but only hope that time will slowly smooth out our misunderstanding. It is important that I will always support and guard this home.
This meeting made me more determined to cherish the time I spend with Sisi now. I will definitely visit her often, read with her, sing and draw. I can't let her grow up helpless, she needs the company of her family.
I will also try to help them in life and let them get through the difficulties. As an elder, I also have the responsibility and obligation to protect this family.
I began to visit Sisi frequently at my son's rented house. Every time she went, she happily threw herself into my arms and treated me as a pleasure in her life.
I will buy Sisi some colorful brushes and paper and paint with her. She always likes to draw rainbows in the sky, fish in the sea, and cats and dogs in the park.
"Grandpa, do you think the mermaid I drew is good?" At one point, she showed me a piece of drawing paper covered in various colors of powder, expecting praise.
"Looks great!" I smiled and rubbed her little head. Seeing her innocent smile, I also felt a little relieved in my heart.
Once, Sisi coquettishly said to me, "Grandpa, when will we go back to that big house?" ”
I said helplessly: "Sisi, grandpa also wants to let you go back to that house quickly, but it may not be possible now." Be patient. ”
"Uh-huh, Sisi will wait!" She nodded like a little sparrow.
This naïve request from this child distressed me, but there was nothing I could do. I can only do my best to bring her more joy and warmth to get through this difficult time.
In order to help the family, I will give them some pension every month, and although my son is still cold, I know that this is a very important help for them now. I also advised my son to control his gambling problems, rehabilitate himself, and stop going downhill.
One day, I suddenly received a call from the hospital, saying that my daughter-in-law Xiaohong suddenly fell ill and needed surgery. I was terrified and rushed to the hospital and paid for the expensive surgery.
After the operation, Xiaohong's condition finally eased and stabilized. She said to me, "Father, you are the great benefactor of our family." Without you, our family would have fallen apart long ago. ”
I took her hand and whispered, "Your business is mine." After walking through this thorny road, the life ahead will be happier. ”