The 16-year-old prodigy who studied for a Ph.D. has a sad situation: unemployed and old, and there are thousands of dollars left in the card

Author: The main creative group Xiaotian

He went to university at the age of 10, studied for a master's degree at the age of 13, and studied for a doctorate at the age of 16, making him the youngest master's and doctoral student at that time.

This legendary resume comes from Zhang Qiaoqiao, a boy who once caused a sensation in the country and was known as a "prodigy" and "genius".

More than a decade later, how is he?

Not long ago, Zhang Qiongqiao was interviewed by the media. Facing the camera, he confessed that after his Ph.D. that year, it took eight years to graduate, but he completely failed in scientific research. Today, he has no job, no house or loan, and he partners with friends to take on projects to earn money.

Returning to the public eye, the former boy full of vigor and fighting spirit has become an indifferent, self-satisfied and mediocre man. In terms of mentality, Zhang Qiongqiao's change is particularly obvious.

He began to compromise with reality: "How much is the ideal a pound?" Is it tasty? ”

He is happy to lie flat and rotten: "Eating and waiting for death can lead to a lifetime of happiness." ”

He decided to gnaw at the end with peace of mind: "I can live my whole life without working, relying on my parents." ”

The experience of the prodigy in the past is full of emotion. With a dazzling aura, his life was once pressed the fast-forward button, far ahead of his peers; But in the end, it disappeared and became the modern version of Hurt Zhongyong.

In Zhang Qiongqiao, there are such three educational truths that are worthy of our parents' deep consideration.

Truth 1: Control is not love, only harm to children

Looking back at Zhang Qiaoqiao's growth path, it is not difficult to find that this is a typical example of "opening high and walking low".

From an early age, this gifted boy did show extraordinary potential in his studies.

By the age of less than two and a half, he already knew more than a thousand Chinese characters and was particularly receptive to learning anything.

Zhang's father discovered this and decisively let him enter elementary school early when he was five years old; He then skipped grades, and finally completed all the courses at the elementary school level in less than two years.

After entering junior high school, Zhang Qiaoqiao also learned with ease, and his learning progress was accelerated again and again under the arrangement of his parents. In this way, in 2005, Zhang Qiongqiao, who was only 10 years old, took the college entrance examination and was admitted to Tianjin Normal Engineering University with a score of 505, becoming the youngest college student in the country.

Since then, he has pursued a master's degree and a doctorate, once setting a record for the youngest graduate student in history.

However, then he seemed to disappear.

Until recently, when he appeared in front of the public again, he had already judged the two.

Tomorrow will give people a good time, if you are steady and plan carefully, you will become a great tool in the future; But in the end, the ending was unsatisfactory, which is regrettable. Why is this?

A sentence said by Zhang Qiongqiao in the interview may be hiding the answer to the question - "They (parents) obviously don't understand anything and have to point fingers." ”

In fact, from childhood to adulthood, Zhang's life was decided by his parents. They control any of his decisions everywhere, and there are two things that can be said to directly affect the direction of Zhang Qiongqiao's life.

One is after the college entrance examination. At that time, Zhang Qiaoqiao once proposed to repeat his studies for a year and strive to enter a key university. However, in order to maintain the title of "ten-year-old prodigy", his parents refused his request and let him go directly to school.

The other was in junior year. Zhang Qiongqiao originally had the opportunity to study in Germany, and even the school was already in touch. However, since Germany requires a student to be at least 14 years old to attend school alone, the school teacher advised him to wait another year before he could travel. However, in order to keep his son on the record of "the youngest master's student in the country", his father also rejected this suggestion, insisting that he only enter graduate school after only three years of undergraduate studies.

In this way, under layers of control, Zhang Qiaoqiao became an accessory of his parents. He was forced to dream by his parents, and he couldn't help himself, and finally under their self-righteous decisions, he wiped out his talent and aura.

The philosopher Fromm once said: "The opposite of education is manipulation, which is based on a lack of confidence in the growth of the child's potential, and believes that only adults can guide children what to do and what not to do, and children will achieve normal development. ”

We always make decisions for our children in the name of "for your own good".

But they don't know that the protagonists of children's lives are always themselves; This control of parents is by no means love, but the greatest harm to children.

Truth 2: Life is a marathon

Seedlings can not be put in exchange for being far ahead

The story of Zhang Qiongqiao can't help but remind people of another "prodigy" - Zhang Yiwen.

Compared with the former's talent, the latter is a representative of acquired accelerated education.

Zhang Yiwen's father believed in advanced education, believing that reading could be done quickly, and it took four or five years to rush to directly enter the university.

Therefore, Zhang Yiwen has never received any compulsory education since she was a child, and she only attended kindergarten for one month, and she went home to study by herself under her father's arrangement.

Under the desperate indoctrination, she completed all the so-called high school courses in five years, and at the request of her father, she took the college entrance examination at the age of nine, and her age broke Zhang's record.

Although the scenery was infinite at that time, Zhang Yiwen's ending was even more embarrassing. After losing her place in the first year of the college entrance examination, she was admitted to Shangqiu Institute of Technology, a tertiary institution, with a score of 352 in the second year.

Although he was admitted to university, Zhang Yiwen was too young after all, and his mind and experience did not keep up. On the college campus, she was withdrawn, unable to make friends, and eventually closed herself off and lived as an island.

After graduation, 13-year-old Zhang Yiwen returned to his father's private school as a teaching assistant.

However, it was not long before the private school was shut down by the local education bureau for running an illegal school.

Without a job, she can only be idle at home.

This poor girl thus became an experiment and a victim of her father's educational philosophy. Cultivated in a hurry, so that her talent was mediocre, not only did she not soar to the sky, but wasted her good youth and made people take too many detours.

The thinker Rousseau famously said: "Nature wants children to be like children before they reach adulthood, and if we disturb this order, we will produce some precocious fruits, which are neither plump nor sweet, and which rot quickly." ”

As parents, we all want our children to be ahead of others and stand out from the competition. However, each child's growth has its own rules, and blindly promoting the seedlings will only destroy it and ultimately backfire.

In fact, growth is a marathon, and there is no point in running at the starting line. As the well-known computer scientist Wu Jun points out in the book "The Road to University":

"Education is a lifelong thing, and the last laugh is the person who has been educated for a lifetime."

In the book, teacher Wu Jun said frankly: "Looking back, some people who were better than us in reading and grabbed a better position at the starting line in the past have long given up the marathon of life; We can go further simply because we're still running, that's all. ”

Therefore, instead of anxious to let children contact test-taking education in advance, it is better to look far and focus on the development of children's lives.

As the saying goes: "slow" means "fast". Really good education should follow the laws of children's growth. After all, the one who can last until the end is the real winner.

Truth three: Compare scores

It is more important to teach children to stand in society

After watching Zhang Qiongqiao's interview, there is one detail that is particularly impressive.

His university teacher, Professor Zhang Yuehui, said of the former disciple that he "has a strong ability to learn independently, but a poor ability to live independently."

Professor Zhang regretted: "His father arranged everything. You can't eat three meals a day, what else do you study? ”

Truly. While paying close attention to their son's studies, Zhang's parents did not pay enough attention to how to cultivate his character habits and life skills.

His father's book "Magical Learning" is all about learning, but it avoids talking about how to guide children to be people.

In fact, the key to what parents really need to do in the education process is to cultivate children's abilities beyond learning and help him complete socialization. And the score is supreme, only focusing on the grade, in the end it will only make us pick up sesame seeds and lose watermelons.

The former scholar Qi Ke is an example. He has always been "someone else's child", smart and smart, and his grades are at the top of his class. And his parents also pinned all their hopes on their son, strict with him in learning, and neglected to cultivate him in other aspects.

In their opinion, as long as their son is admitted to a good university, he will not worry about not having a great future. Therefore, at the request of his parents, Qi Ke's focus in life was only studying.

And this effort has indeed paid off. He was admitted to Tsinghua with a score of 636 points, and after graduation, he entered the Institute of High Energy Physics of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, and his future was limitless.

However, the harm of lack of social adaptability is gradually coming to the fore. Because he is not good at communication, does not know how to work in a team, and has poor self-care ability, Qi Ke has repeatedly encountered obstacles in the workplace. Within half a year, the institute terminated his contract.

Later, Qi Ke looked for several jobs, but they were not competent. In the end, he had to resign and return to his hometown to become an old man, and he also suffered from depression because of his lack of will.

Dale Carnegie, a master of human relations, once said, "In order to live successfully, a young man must learn to be self-reliant, remove obstacles that lie in the place, and raise him in the family so that he will have an independent personality that is recognized by all." ”

The so-called self-reliance is to teach children how to better adapt to the environment we live in and live comfortably in this rapidly changing society.

This is really a comprehensive ability that involves how a person relates to themselves, others, and the world. It is an incomparably valuable treasure in a child's life, and no matter how high a score is, it cannot be exchanged.