Independent and rational women should not let marriage drag down their achievements and happiness. However, society's values and traditional concepts still regard marriage as the meaning of a woman's life. In this environment, leftover women have become a demeaning label in front of everyone.
But, what is a leftover girl? Should people over 30 years old and still single be chanted this label? In this society, the term leftover woman used to be a well-known deep-rooted label, and people often think that leftover woman is a rat who marries a wife, and the radish has no tail pinch. It can be seen that in a society based on marriage, finding a partner has become the top priority of women's lives, and when they miss the opportunity, they can only be eliminated.
Especially for women, the treatment of leftover women is getting lower and lower, is it like more than ten years ago, everyone's ridicule can slap their self-confidence? Now, perhaps only more enhanced, that is, abstract generalization of "public opinion". With a Weibo, an article, and a comment, it can trigger a wave of emotional fluctuations, which is one of the embarrassments encountered by leftover women. They were branded as "leftover women", and were scorned by everyone, feeling that they only had a red lady and a blind date, and finally encountered a good condition, and were disliked: "You are about to menopause, marry you to give you a pension?" Such hurtful words misinterpret the Great Seal of his personal value and future.
However, leftover women do not mean failure, backwardness, incompetence, uselessness. Some of them choose to stay in the city they love, choose home experiential shopping, choose to have a cat as a companion, and are more interested and time to participate in various public welfare activities, etc., they are self-sufficient and can enjoy life alone. But, why, waiting for love has become a luxury? Women like to watch dramas such as "The Legend of Zhen Huan" and "Dream of Red Mansions", perhaps because of achievements, they need to suppress themselves, and women are born talented, but they cannot give full play. When a woman suppresses herself in order to maintain her image in public, we ignore that it is courage. There is no need to contempt others, nor do you need to be too afraid of your own choices, fate is changeable, is it the emotion that spews out in this second, do you still need to become the bottom line of life?
If you encounter such an embarrassing language attack of the "leftover girl", you really don't have to care too much. Marriage is certainly a part of life, life is different, choices and positions will be different. Everyone's way of life should be respected, and human nature is inherently complex. In this bizarre era, only the road you insist on is the way out for the future.
There is a personality, called natural extroverts, who believe in their abilities and face life with confidence. And there is a personality called going with the flow. It may not be because of marriage to 'destroy' oneself, but because people are always prone to losing the courage to persevere. Out of insecurity, they sacrifice their ideas and become docile and convergent, and this self-indifference will make them back over time.
Whether it is a leftover woman or a married person, you should understand that marriage is not a shackle of fate, but a business that unites the love of two people, it can give happiness, but sometimes it also requires you to fight for it. If you don't marry because of emotions, don't be distressed by past marriages. No one can design the road of life for you, only your own experience, correct mistakes, and find the direction of your own life.
How to change the past and construct our own future is a problem we must face. We can give, take it more seriously than in the past, and develop ourselves personally for the future. Going out more, you can make new friends by participating in community building or other public welfare activities, narrow your network and unity, and also test your life philosophy by making new friends in different fields. This kind of life mode can bring us unprecedented challenges and growth.
A woman's future does not need to be maximized, but it needs more freedom of choice. Blindly advocating tradition requires more thinking and footholding, not to break anything, but to give everyone more equal opportunities within the existing system, so that everyone can discover their own projects, find their own persistence and beliefs. Therefore, on this question, we need to give an affirmative answer, so that everyone understands that the so-called "leftover woman" is not a derogatory nickname, but a kind of intellectual woman who dares to pursue her own spiritual freedom, insist on self-worth and build her own life.