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Yan Li always thought that she lived in a happy family. Her father had a stable job and her mother was a full-time housewife. It wasn't until one day, when her parents divorced, that she learned how difficult it was for the family to get to this point.
About Yan Li's family:
Yan Li's grandmother is a very strong and somewhat patriarchal old man, who prefers the son of her uncle's family, but she is also okay with Yan Li and her sister.
From childhood to adulthood, her father was very good to her and her sister, and he was also very good to her mother, so good that it was impeccable. Yan Li always thought that they were an ordinary family, her parents were loving, and she and her sister were obedient and sensible.
However, the truth is not at all.
The third year after Yan Li graduated from college, she married her boyfriend. In the second year after marriage, Yan Li became pregnant. Because Yan Li's mother-in-law is at work, her mother is at home full-time, and her sister is already in college, her mother asked her to go back to her mother's house so that she can take care of her. In this way, Yan Li moved back home.
Once, Yan Li said that she wanted to eat longan. It wasn't longan season at the time, but her husband bought it online and sent it to her mother's house. My mother sighed at that time: "You are so happy now, you can eat whatever you want when you are pregnant." ”
Yan Li listened to her and laughed at her: "Could it be that your father was not so good to you when you were pregnant with me?" ”
In fact, she was just joking with her mother at the time, her father was famous for being good to her mother, and the surrounding neighbors knew it. The two have never blushed and do everything is negotiable.
What Yan Li didn't expect was that her joke made her mother sad. Looking at her mother's appearance, Yan Li asked incredulously: "No, you have also been bullied by my father?" ”
Yan Li's mother sighed and told her a big secret, saying that Yan Li was not her own, but was raised.
Since she was a child, her parents' kindness to her has always been so real, so that Yan Li can't believe that she is a child who is being adopted.
She never thought about this question, because her parents have never stopped caring for her since she was a child. Every time she wanted something, she only had to say it a few times, and her father would bring her home after work one day. Since she became sensible, her parents would take her on trips every year, and after having a sister, the family of four would travel.
So when she heard that she was being raised, she felt unacceptable.
But seeing that her mother's mood was not right, Yan Li asked, "Why do you want to hold me?" ”
The mother replied that it was not because her biological parents abandoned her, but because her father was not a normal man, he had no ability to bear children at all, let alone make his mother pregnant and give birth.
This shocked Yan Li, she didn't know whether her father's illness was congenital or acquired. She asked her mother why she wanted to marry her father, but she cried. She said: "Your father and your grandparents deceived me by cheating on marriage. ”
It turned out that back then, Yan Li's mother and father had good family backgrounds.
After graduating from university, my father was admitted to a public institution, which was very popular at the time. So Grandma Yan Li asked the matchmaker to matchmaker, and her mother saw that her father looked good and agreed to this affair. Grandpa and Grandma did not object, so they became a couple.
However, on the wedding night that night, after the father and mother entered the cave room, the father only said "drank too much" and fell asleep head down. His mother was thin-skinned and did not dare to wake him up. This continued until the fourth day, when every day the father used the excuse of "drinking too much" as an excuse not to rest with his mother.
The mother began to suspect, so she asked her father if there was any problem, but her father did not dare to speak, so she called her mother-in-law and said, Yan Li's grandmother only said that her father was injured before, was being treated, and would get better soon.
Yan Li listened to her mother tell the story that had happened between her parents, and she couldn't help but feel very shocked.
The mother married her father at an early age, which was in the era of the implementation of the family planning policy, so the issue of childbirth was particularly important. However, there have been some troubles in the birth of couples. After examination, the father's body was found to have a birth defect that could not be cured.
The mother did not know the truth, thinking that her father just had some fertility problems, so she waited for most of the year, but there was still no improvement. It wasn't until one time when my mother lost her temper that I learned that my father's problem was an untreatable birth defect.
At this time, a strong idea of divorce ignited in her mother's heart, but Yan Li's grandmother thought that they had cheated when they got married, forcing her mother not to divorce.
Her mother was very depressed, because the marriage had suffocated her, she was overwhelmed, and she couldn't tell outsiders.
To this day, Yan Li also deeply felt her mother's difficulty at that time. She knew that during this time her parents had been frustrated by arguments, struggled to reconcile personality differences, and went to the hospital several times for fertility problems, but none of them had a good result.
There are often phenomena of giving up their daughters due to family planning policies in their parents' hometowns, so Yan Li's grandmother raised a little girl back to raise her mother, and this little girl is Yan Li.
However, overnight, Yan Li felt that the blood relationship between her parents and sister had completely disappeared.
She also became more and more aware of her mother's pain in a sexless marriage. Although her mother did not want to talk about her sister's background, she personally admitted that her sister was her biological child, but not her father's biological child.
Gradually, Yan Li became an adult, got married and had children, and the days were calm as usual. She is relatively happily married and has a family of her own. Her father also loved her, but when her sister got married, she saw that her father did not shed tears, so she understood more and more about her mother's difficulties in this sexless marriage.
Finally, the day after her sister's wedding, her mother and father went through the divorce formalities.
At that time, Yan Li and her sister returned to their mother's house, and their mother stayed at home alone. Although they did not approve of their parents divorcing because their mother had never been to work, divorce was clearly an unwise choice.
However, they had nothing to say when their mother insisted on divorce.
Yan Li's mother said that she had failed too much in her life, and she was not even a woman, but now that her two sisters have a home, she wants to live the life she wants. Yan Li and her sister stopped talking.
It turned out that her sister told her her life history when she was in junior high school, and over the years, watching her father and grandmother prefer herself more, her sister has never remembered hatred, because she has long known that she is different from Yan Li.
Yan Li and her sister agreed to divorce their parents, and after the divorce, her mother only needed a little cash, and she didn't want other houses and cars, but she still lived in her father's house for the time being. Grandma was very angry after she knew it, and came to accuse her mother, she thought that she would change her mind if she said a few words, but she didn't expect that this time her mother left decisively, she said that she was fifty years old, what were she afraid of.
Most people can't understand Yan Li's mother, who has come over for most of her life, and divorces when she is old.
What is even more puzzling is that Yan Li's father has been very good to his mother all his life, his salary is handed over on time, and he goes home every day to help his mother do housework, even if he knows that his mother is pregnant with his sister, he is still good to his mother and sister, where to find such a good man.
Everyone doesn't know that Dad did this, most of it out of guilt for his mother, because of his mistakes in the early years, he wanted to try his best to make up for it, so he was so good to his mother, and his mother said that it was not the love she wanted.
There are many ways to tie a person, grandma is to use coercion and seduction, dad is to build a wall with good to mom, so good that mom can't fault dad, can't leave this family.
After his mother left, his father collapsed, he couldn't accept this reality for a while, he could only digest it slowly by himself, and his mother found a job washing dishes by herself, very hard, Yan Li and her sister had to pick her up to come to her home, but her mother refused, she said that she didn't want to live by her daughters, she just wanted to live her own life.
Yan Li seems to understand her mother a little, she has lived for her daughters over the years, and has become a good wife for her father, but she has never lived for herself, Yan Li and her sister thought that her mother would find her sister's biological father, but no, she said that she just wanted to live alone.
Mom has been too difficult in this life, imprisoned in a sexless living marriage, and now she can finally live freely for herself.