In the "Huainanzi Mountain Training", there is an ancient admonition that profoundly points out: "Lines converge, and thousands of miles follow each other; Lines do not fit together, and the door is not accessible. This sentence tells us that people with the same interests, even though they are thousands of miles away, will still take the initiative to get close to each other, while people with different interests, even if they live in opposite doors, it is difficult to establish communication and closeness. There are many moments in life when friends get together on weekends, talking and laughing, as if time stood still. However, when I entered the retirement year, I gradually found that my friends around me gradually drifted away, and silence filled the void of life.
Loneliness, some people say that it is a person's carnival, and carnival, but a group of people's loneliness. Loneliness in life gradually becomes the norm as the years go by. In retirement, if you find that you don't have a single friend around you, it means two important problems.
First of all, life is like this, and the most reliable support always comes from yourself. Sima Qian wrote in the "History": "The world is bustling, all for profit; The world is crowded, all for the good. Most of the people in the world are busy for their own benefit, coming and leaving. The same is true with people, if you can meet the emotional needs or material benefits of others, then the "friends" around you may seem endless. However, when the benefits are no longer there, they will also rush away, leaving you with moments of loneliness. People who come for profit, and go for profit, are never true friends. On the journey of life, the real one who can be relied on is always yourself.
Second, you don't have to deliberately pursue gregariousness and release yourself. The ancients said: "The gentleman chooses carefully, Hugh and the poisonous beast." Choosing friends is a task that needs to be approached carefully, with good friends changing your life and bad friends turning heaven into hell. Some people are afraid of loneliness, and in order to maintain relationships, they constantly invite guests to dinner, which costs a lot, but in the end they do not make friends who really care about them, and as a result, they just waste time and money. Low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude. Don't try to make friends with material gains, or your true heart will be shattered into pieces. In interpersonal communication, you may wish to release yourself and do not have to be deliberately gregarious, so that your heart will be more free.
Finally, choose a "low-fitting" life to make the rest of your life smoother. Yu Hua wrote in "Shouting in the Drizzle": "I no longer pretend to have many friends, but return to loneliness and start living alone with the real me. "Low-fitting" doesn't mean reducing quality of life or shrinking living space. It is a modest choice, a lifestyle that is not bound by substances. Don't get too obsessed with the outside world, value your time and leave it to those who deserve it. Only those who dare to pursue a "low-firing" life can truly awaken and make the rest of their lives more comfortable.
Life is full of twists and turns, uncertainty, when you go through the storm, you will understand the essence of life. It would be a shame to retire without one or two true friends. In the time of freedom and tranquility, you don't have to focus too much on illusory relationships. On the contrary, you can enjoy being alone, without fighting and calmly. Life is like this, carefully tasted in order to experience its true meaning. [Supplementary content, the total number of words remains unchanged]
And when you learn to appreciate the beauty of life alone, you will also find that those who truly share your interests will naturally gather around you. They do not come because of your material possessions, but because of your sincere heart and unique attitude to life.
Once you let go of your excessive craving for your circle of friends, you'll find that the wonderfulness of life is no longer dependent on the presence of others. You begin to pursue inner growth, explore unknown worlds, and enjoy peace in solitude. This doesn't mean that you have to isolate yourself, but that you want to make your relationships more quality and deep. Those who share your interests will naturally come into your life and explore life's journey together.
In the process, you will experience the true taste of life. Those friends who share laughter and tears with you will become valuable assets in your life because they come not because of your interests, but because of your character and soul. And those who come because of profit, and those who go because of profit will become passers-by in your life and leave no trace.
So, don't be afraid of being alone and don't pursue too much socializing. Value your time and choose to build deep friendships with people who truly understand you, support you, and grow with you. After retirement, if you have such friends, your life will be more fulfilling and meaningful. No longer deliberately gregarious, release yourself, choose a "low-fitting" life, and make the rest of your life more smooth, this is the real wisdom of life.
In short, in the journey of life, the number of friends is not important, quality is the key. In retirement, having one or two real friends is more valuable than having a group of flashy relationships. Learn to appreciate life alone, release yourself, not pursue too much gregariousness, and pursue true and inner growth. In this way, you will live a full and satisfying retirement, ushering in the rest of your life of success and happiness.