Middle-aged unemployment is, for ordinary people, the most tragic thing in life. Especially those middle-aged men who are responsible for the livelihood of the whole family, without a little financial resources, will make him lose his confidence in being a person.
I, 40 years old, I thought that I would retreat to the second choice of a stable life, can survive until retirement, but people are not as good as heavenly calculations, in this short period of 5 years, after three competitions, I became a waiting worker.
Although part of this stay was deliberate, this result that should have been happy to see still made me sad. I chose to be an unemployed person in the HR pool because I didn't want to hang out any longer.
My unit is an old state-owned enterprise in a third-tier prefecture-level city, and it is also the only local state-owned manufacturing industry that has survived to this day.
Some people say that if you want to get ahead in a small city, you have to have a strong network. I didn't believe it before, naively thinking that as long as you have the ability and technology, how can the leader not use you? But after these several layoffs, I found that behind this so-called fairness and justice, there are human favors everywhere.
Every time, people with connections and backgrounds stayed, and those who had the ability to have no relationship did not know when they quietly left. I'm not a local either, and I'm also a family member of the family.
Now that I am middle-aged, I am a parent, and I don't want to bend my waist for these three buckets of rice anymore, nor do I want to continue this kind of work like going to the grave, doing repetitive work every day, and I can see the old life with my eyes.
Therefore, I didn't have a trust relationship in the competition, I wanted to try that I had been in the unit for so many years, and I really had to lose to those who had connections and did not work well? I didn't expect it to come true, and in the end, I became a member of the layoff list.
Although I have long expected this result, there are still some lucks in my heart. People sometimes just want to use some stupid things to prove themselves, not to hit the south wall and not to look back.
1. Happiness and confusion after losing your job
After losing my job, I really experienced the taste of middle-aged people unemployed, and behind the excitement and freshness of the previous week, there was a little sadness and worry, which was confusion about the uncertainty of the future.
Although when I see my relatives and friends, I will justifiably say that I am unemployed, but my heart is still a little sad, after all, I have worked in the unit for more than 10 years, and no feelings are fake.
2. The sense of self-discipline disappears
When I used to go to work, I followed my work schedule, reading every morning, writing, cooking, and then going to work, and I would exercise 3 times a week, which was busy and fulfilling.
Now I don't go to work, and I sleep until I wake up naturally. Although the biological clock when I used to go to work has long been formed, my body will still unconsciously lie in bed and give myself an upright reason: after working for more than ten years, I still don't give myself a good holiday, rest and rest!
This compromise only once, even a small "just once", no matter how long you use to develop the habit, will collapse in an instant.
3. Poor mood, accompanied by friends
After losing your job, the biggest worry is confusion about the future, not knowing what will happen in the future? Although I have a general direction in my heart, I am still very anxious. People are always in a state of low air pressure and can't do anything.
This is actually because human nature wants to master the future. But which one will come first tomorrow can not be predicted! I am also mortal, but during this period of anxiety, I cared about my friends, and their phone calls and companionship helped me quickly through the buffer period.
4. Read books and talk to successful people
The book has its own words like jade, don't believe it. When you can't calm down, are upset, and flustered, take a look at a celebrity biography, and you will feel that the moment you are in is not a big deal.
Where in this world are the years quiet, behind the unknown, everyone is carrying the weight forward. No one's success is accidental, but those who can succeed have shed blood through those very tolerable years.
As Nietzsche said, "Those who cannot kill us will make us strong." Unemployment is just a temporary low pressure state in the stage of life, everything is temporary, as long as you get through it, there will always be rain and sunshine.
It is precisely because of my own experience that I understand how helpless the experience of being an unemployed person is, and the words and deeds of the people around me directly affect people's choices.
When you are experiencing unemployment, or you have an unemployed person around you, the first thing you need to do is to accompany him and let him express his emotions. Today, I don't have a job yet, but I'm not looking for a job just to get it. I want to fight hard for what I want to do!
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