When I was chatting with my neighbor, I noticed a mother talking to someone with a sad face. Curiously, I leaned over to hear her story. It turned out that this mother was the property manager of our community, but she was most worried about her daughter. According to her account, her daughter just graduated last year and rarely comes home, and every time she comes back, she takes money and clothes and leaves. The mother said that her daughter was not like this before, and that her child was well-behaved and obedient before, and had never angered her. But since my daughter grew up, everything has changed. She is no longer the obedient child she used to be, now she likes to wear heavy makeup and revealing clothes, and she can't recognize her daughter. This mother is really worried that her child will go to the point of no return. As a single mother, if her daughter goes bad, she feels that she has no point in continuing to live.
She said while crying. The neighbors around her comforted her, saying that after all, the child has grown up and is no longer the child who needed her care before. Someone said, "What's the big deal if you're worried about how your child is dressed?" Young girls nowadays like fashion, and it's normal to wear clothes you don't know about, so you don't have to be too anxious. It took a while for Mom to say what she was really worried about. She is worried that her daughter will not be able to earn money and support herself if she changes jobs frequently, and will have a very difficult life. It turns out that the problem is at work. She regretted her previous overcare of her daughter, she thought that her daughter should enjoy a rich life, but she raised a daughter who was unwilling to endure hardships and stand hard work.
"Usually in addition to studying, I wash the children's clothes and underwear, I make the meals every day, I pick the styles of clothes she wears, and I do my best to provide her with everything." As a result, she has now become her daughter's enemy, and every time her daughter talks to her, she is full of resentment. Less than a year after graduating, her daughter changed four jobs. Either the company atmosphere is not good, or the company management is too strict, and even look at the mobile phone and get angry. The mother said that one of the jobs was found through a relative, but the daughter ran away after just three days of work, saying that she did not like such a life without freedom. Oh, it sounds backbone, but how much of other hard work has she done? In the face of this mother's inner pain, I want to say that the child has not been independent since childhood, and when he grows up, he will fall into the dilemma of seeing the high and the low.
She thought the world revolved around her, but in fact no one but her mother cared about how she felt, let alone worked. No job is perfect, and every job will have troubles and grievances. Some jobs are easy but not profitable, and some are well paid but work hard overtime. Maybe you'll encounter difficult leaders, maybe you'll get involved in complex relationships, maybe the work itself is boring, maybe the work itself is hard. I once talked to my former male classmates about the phenomenon of young people changing jobs frequently. He said with a smile: "Back then, I couldn't stand the hardships and felt that there was no room for me anywhere. But after a few years, I understood that it was almost the same everywhere. "There is no perfect job anywhere, every job has its own troubles and grievances, and every job will have all kinds of suffering.
The mother just now may have taught her children to study hard and strive to achieve their dreams when they grow up. But children do not know that on the road to chasing their dreams, they will inevitably encounter various setbacks. In this process, you may be accused and doubted by others, and even experience many grievances. But no matter how hard it is, this is the stage we must go through to enter adult society. If you don't bravely step through this hurdle now, always quit if you feel dissatisfied, and leave if you don't like it, then you will only go further and further and eventually have to go back to square one and start over. With the right mentality, work can be smooth and life can be happy. Just like the girl just now, she can't pay the rent and lives hard. She always thought that she would fall into such a predicament if she did not meet a good company or a good leader.
But in fact, she did not adjust her mentality and could not accept the difficulties in her work. She only thinks about what conditions others can create for her, but never thinks about what value she can create for the company. Sometimes we must recognize the nature of work, and problems in work are inevitable, including grievances and overgiving. At the same time, it can also be seen that educating children is just as important as work. Your child's educational environment cannot be made completely carefree, otherwise the child will never learn something that is truly valuable and useful for future development. Let the child see the real world, don't be like the mother just now, work for the child, let the child lose the opportunity to understand the world. In the end, they can only gradually grasp it through the frustration of work.
Instead of waiting until your children grow up and begging them to work well, let them try life's setbacks when they are young. Writer Sarah wrote in her book "Especially Ruthless and Special Love": "Chinese parents give their children not too little but too much. Sometimes, this too much love can easily lead the child in a bad direction. Maybe you can't see it now, but it will have an impact over time. ”
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