Tonight, the third issue of "China National Banquet" was broadcast online, the theme of this episode is "Adult Banquet", many netizens sighed after watching it that they were evoked 18-year-old memories.
In the show, Su Shi's friend asked Su Shi to crown his son, which led to a series of introductions and interpretations of the ancient bar mitzvah - "crown ceremony".
In the Song Dynasty, the crown ceremony had a very high social status, marking the formal entry of a man into adulthood and the beginning of assuming family and social responsibilities.
The ceremony of crowning ceremony generally includes multiple links such as crowning, taking words, and worshiping teachers, of which crowning is the most core part of the entire ceremony. The process of crowning is a change in a man's identity in the family and society, which means that he will leave the ranks of children and begin to live as an adult.
The history of the crown ceremony can be traced back to the pre-Qin period, when the crown ceremony was an important ritual of the Shi people, and the commoners did not have the crown ceremony. Over time, this rule gradually became blurred, and after the Han Dynasty, the strict crown ceremony system was no longer practiced.
However, in the Song Dynasty, the great Ru Sima Guang, Zhu Xi and others advocated the restoration of the crown ceremony, which they believed was the "beginning of the ceremony" and was of great significance to the growth of men.
In his writings, Zhu Xi specified in detail the costumes and etiquette of the crown ceremony, including three crowns: the crown of the first cloth, the deep garment, the large belt, and the nazao; Add hats, soap shirts, leather belts, and shoes; Three plus heads, official uniforms, leather belts, boots.
At the same time, when a woman is an adult, there is a similar ritual. In the Song Dynasty, women's ceremonies were performed during the Qingming Dynasty, and the specific method was to braided women's hair to the top of their heads, and then inserted a hairpin (笄) into the coiled hair to stabilize it to show adulthood, so it was also called the head gift.
In general, the restoration and implementation of the crown ceremony and the ceremonial ceremony in the Song Dynasty reflected the importance that the society attached to etiquette and culture at that time, and was also an important inheritance and development of Chinese traditional culture.
Su Shi has an "Ode to Pork": "When he is self-ripe, do not urge him, and when the fire is full, he is self-beautiful." ”
It sounds like it's just writing about the process of boiling meat, but it actually contains a unique philosophical perspective and educational philosophy, using boiled meat as an analogy, emphasizing that in the process of growing up, children should be given a certain amount of free development space, avoid impatience and seedlings.
It is true that "the love of parents and sons is far-reaching", but in this life, there are many people and things that cannot be calculated and planned.
As Yu Qian said on the show: "Looking back when I was 18 years old, if there was a bar mitzvah, I am afraid that nothing would have changed." Because I think I was still very chaotic when I was 18 years old, in a stage where a worldview would be formed but not formed, and I didn't feel like an adult at all. ”
This is inevitably reminiscent of a hot search topic a few days ago #30岁也不过是个12岁的大人, at first glance, is it very nonsensical?
In fact, many netizens are discussing this topic, saying that they suddenly realized that their 30-year-old self seems to be the real "adult". Compared with 18 years old, 30-year-old self is more cognitively mature, more open-minded, more economically free, more peaceful in mind, and more able to choose.
That's right, people don't have to make any changes at a particular moment, and the day of your 18th birthday can't be like a game upgrade, just one click, and everything is very different.
In fact, whether you are an adult at the age of 18 or standing at the age of 30, life can unfold a new picture at any time, and you can get a more mature and relaxed life experience at any time.
It has been said that one cannot have youth and feelings of youth at the same time.
Standing in the mid-autumn of 2023 and looking back at the 18-year-old, Yu Qian wants to say to himself at that time, but also to every 18-year-old you:
Don't be trapped in the confusion of youth, go ahead, take a good look at the world, and love life, not the meaning of life. You will always grow up, push open the door of adulthood, it turns out that the sun is just right, the wind is passing through the woodtops...
"Do not urge him when he is self-familiar, and he is beautiful when the fire is full."
Perhaps, Su Shi just loves pork, so he enjoys every process in it.
And I believe that you who have seen the show have also gained the experience you need from it.
What year did you turn 18?
If you go back in time
What do you want to say to yourself then?
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