#秋日生活打卡季#
It is another annual opening season, not only elementary school students, middle school students are enrolled, but also students who have just been admitted to university, for master's or doctoral students who have just been admitted this year, but also ushered in the day of admission, whether it is master's students or doctoral students, they are no strangers to universities, and they have long been familiar with university life.
But master's students and doctoral students are after all the best among undergraduates, and some people are still social elites, who have exercised in society for several years and have a certain social foundation and experience. At the master's or doctoral level, in addition to basic learning, they mainly follow their supervisors to do projects and engage in research, so many people call their supervisors their bosses.
Since he is his own boss, according to social customs, it seems that giving gifts to his own boss is also a social custom. China is a humanistic society, everything must pay attention to a etiquette, the style of gift-giving has penetrated into various fields, friends to give gifts, superiors and subordinates to give gifts, find someone to do things to give gifts. The purpose of gift-giving, in addition to maintaining a certain relationship, some people give gifts mainly to achieve their own special purposes.
Now many students, under the training of parents, began to give gifts to teachers from primary school, and also gave gifts in middle school, and universities should give gifts, so it is even more inevitable to give gifts for graduate school. Therefore, when you are about to enter graduate school, instead of planning what efforts you should make after entering graduate school, and what goals you strive to achieve in the subject, you spend your mind on whether to give gifts and what gifts to give.
Among the supervisors of universities, whether they are master's supervisors or doctoral supervisors, the state actually has requirements for teacher style and morality when training, and each school has some specific regulations. Most of the school's tutors really don't want their students to spend their thoughts on gift-giving at the beginning, and many tutors are actually disgusted with gift-giving students.
If students do not understand their tutor's personality, hobbies, personal style, etc., and rush to the door with gifts, this is actually a problem for their teacher, and the first time they meet each other is so embarrassing, leaving the teacher with an impression of sycophancy, flattery, and bad morality, then it is estimated that it will take a long time to correct this impression in the future.
For newly enrolled graduate students, in fact, there is no one who sincerely wants to give gifts, everyone hopes to live a relaxed and happy life, and the relationship between teachers and students is actually the relationship between master and apprentice. The mentor-apprentice relationship in the factory is very harmonious, and the mentor-apprentice relationship in the university is generally good, of course, there are individual mentors who are still problematic.
Do you want to give gifts at the beginning of the school year? In my experience, I think it is not needed. In the first semester, many people do not have many opportunities to meet with their mentors, and there are not many opportunities to study and guide together, because they do not understand their mentors, so it is best to ask their senior brothers and sisters for advice in the first year, and learn everything about the mentors from the senior brothers and sisters, including whether to give gifts, whether the tutor accepts gifts, etc.
For those who are not sure, afraid that they will suffer a loss if they do not give gifts, or afraid that their supervisors will not guide themselves well, do not give themselves good projects, and are afraid that their graduation thesis will not pass, in fact, as long as they work hard enough, these problems can be solved. Any tutor hopes that he can recruit a few good students, capable students, can surpass his own students, and his students will have ability and achievements in the future, and the teacher must be happy.
Although you can't give gifts at the beginning of school, it is very important to have more contact with the tutor and establish a good teacher-student relationship with the tutor. There is no gift at the beginning of school, but on a major holiday like the New Year, I go home on a long vacation, and after returning to school, I will pay a New Year greeting to the teacher, bring some native products from my hometown, go to the teacher's house to sit, eat a meal, and chat, which is the most effective way to get closer to the teacher.
Send a short message to the teacher on every major holiday, usually communicate with the teacher on WeChat, take the initiative to ask some questions, greet the teacher's work and life, and often talk with the teacher. On the teacher's birthday, receiving major achievements, receiving commendations and awards, Teachers' Day, etc., sending a bouquet of flowers to the teacher is estimated to be more effective than blindly giving gifts to the teacher.
To sum up, I think that there is no need for graduate students who have just entered the school to give gifts to the supervisor, but after enrollment, they should contact the supervisor, add the tutor's WeChat, tell the tutor that they have enrolled, everything is fine, and hope to get more guidance and help from the teacher. With the gradual understanding of the mentor, then from the Spring Festival of the winter vacation, it may be necessary to go for a walk and send some local products. After all, it is better to move more than not to move, and it can turn the teacher-student relationship into a friend relationship, which is not harmful to you in the future.