Schopenhauer once said: Life is like a pendulum, swinging between pain and burnout.
Such a philosophical word, since it makes me think of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
I once watched a TV series whose name was blurred in my mind, but the storyline was still vivid and unforgettable.
A woman has no children after marriage, and her mother-in-law does not know where to find a home remedy, saying that she can get pregnant by boiling soup with sheep.
So, my mother-in-law found sheep dung and cooked it at home. During the process, she felt nauseated. However, when the cooking was completed, she forced her daughter-in-law to drink it.
You imagine, it's sheep dung, who would want to drink it. In the process, the daughter-in-law bravely resisted the oppression, but accidentally broke the bowl.
At this time, the mother-in-law said viciously: I tell you, for the sake of the child, you have to drink if you don't drink, there are still a lot of them in the pot! Don't say it's sheep, even if it's human, you have to drink it!
At this moment, there was a sudden sound of the door opening. The mother-in-law instantly turned into a dramatist, lying on the ground sturdily, pretending to be a vulnerable group, and shouting loudly: Oh, hit someone!
The daughter-in-law was stunned, and she didn't do anything.
The person who opened the door was the sister-in-law, and when I saw this scene, the good guy bullied his mother, regardless of the indiscriminateness, directly on the hand fan.
The daughter-in-law is quite weak in the family, and seeing her husband about to return, her heart is full of helplessness and grievances.
Recalling that over the years, she has devoted countless efforts to the family, not only pouring her youth and dreams into this family, but also using her parents' savings and her own savings to support her husband's entrepreneurship. Now, however, all she has come to is this.
How did it end up? It doesn't matter anymore.
Brushed a video this morning.
A woman returns from training with her child outside and asks her mother-in-law what food is there at home?
The mother-in-law said dismissively: eat!
The woman's heart was instantly cold, the mortgage was still there, a group of people lived, and a group of people around enjoyed a comfortable life. When she returned home, what awaited her was the sighing word "eat".
I thought that such a dramatic plot existed only on the screen.
Think about what such an evil mother-in-law was thinking when she didn't have a daughter-in-law, looked everywhere, and when she had, and didn't treat the other party as a person? What a state of mind is this!
Ready to leave your son alone for life? Or prepare yourself and your son for the rest of your life?
So what is your purpose in spending money to marry your daughter-in-law?
The message in the comment area is more exciting, and the three views are very positive!
The woman in the video said that she was ready to divorce, and she had endured this family for a long time and did not want to endure it anymore!
Too relieved! If others don't treat you as a person, you must treat yourself as a person.
This kind of mother-in-law relationship also gives people a lot of inspiration. First there is a good mother-in-law, then there is a filial daughter-in-law, if the mother-in-law is always looking for trouble, you have to be mentally prepared.
Once chatting in the office, a colleague concluded that the "ten deadly sins" of the evil mother-in-law, if you are not married, you can really avoid lightning.
A strong dictatorship: The mother-in-law may grasp the management right of the family, the right to communicate with the family, the right to communicate with the outside world, etc., so that the daughter-in-law feels suppressed and restricted.
Second, interfere with the marriage of children: Mother-in-law may interfere in the marriage of her children, try to influence their choices, and even support the divorce of her son and daughter-in-law when there are problems in the marriage.
Three different treatments: Mothers-in-law may treat daughters-in-law and daughters differently, and demand more from daughters-in-law, requiring them to abide by traditional family values. For the son, there is only hehe left.
Four to sow discord: The mother-in-law may sow discord between her son and daughter-in-law, create contradictions, and destroy the relationship between husband and wife. Just like the mother-in-law in the text.
5. Snatching children's right to education: Mother-in-law may try to rob her grandson's right to education, and excessive interference in the child's education method may not conform to the concept of modern education. In the end, there was a big friction with his daughter-in-law.
6. Look down on daughters-in-law: Mothers-in-law may look down on daughters-in-law because of their family background, occupation, personality, etc., and insult or discriminate against them verbally or behaviorally. Probably, sometimes her son is not as good as her daughter-in-law.
Seven shirking responsibility: The mother-in-law may push the family responsibility to the daughter-in-law, but she is unwilling to bear any responsibility.
Eight cold and ruthless: The mother-in-law may be indifferent to the difficulties and needs of her daughter-in-law and unwilling to provide any help and support. I have heard too many such stories, and the grievances of my daughter-in-law are unimaginable.
9. Disrespect for daughters-in-law: Mothers-in-law may not respect their daughters-in-law's personal rights and choices, and ignore their opinions and decisions.
Ten deliberate difficulties: Mothers-in-law may deliberately make things difficult for their daughters-in-law, setting up various obstacles and problems, making their lives more difficult.
It should be emphasized that these behaviors are not common to all mothers-in-law, nor are they generally depicted of mothers-in-law.
Each person has a unique personality and behavior patterns, and these behaviors are just some of them. Respect and understanding are essential when dealing with family relationships, and communication is the best way to resolve conflicts and problems.
So what kind of mother-in-law relationship is a good mother-in-law relationship? In my opinion, the simplest thing to do is the following four points.
First, both parties communicate smoothly, be able to be honest with each other, and avoid hiding dissatisfaction and misunderstanding.
Second, respect each other, understand and tolerate each other, and do not interfere in each other's lives and decisions.
Third, we can jointly create a harmonious family atmosphere, support each other, and share family responsibilities.
Fourth, emotionally tolerate, support and understand each other, and establish an intimate relationship like a mother and daughter, but grasp the degree.
This interdependent relationship motivates both parties to support each other in their daily lives, creating a warm, harmonious and loving family environment.
Life! Life is to live for yourself, how good you are, how much face the world will give you.
Liu Yu wrote in "May You Grow Up Slowly": May you grow up slowly, may you have good luck, if not, I hope you learn compassion in misfortune; May you be loved by many, and if not, may you learn tolerance in your loneliness.
May we all grow up slowly, gentle, strong and powerful!
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