"7 years on a blind date: the sadness of marriage with "similarity"
I believe that many people have heard of the "seven-year itch" in marriage. And my husband Luo Hao and I are also in this embarrassing stage, but it is me who thinks about it. My name is Wang Ning, I am 34 years old and have been married for 7 years. In my eyes, marriage seems to have lost the sweetness and passion of my first love, and the change of my husband makes me more and more confused.
The acquaintance with Luo Hao was not love at first sight, but a choice in the blind date process. I went to a company to work as an accountant after graduating from college, because of the busy work, I didn't have much social circle, so my parents began to urge me to go on blind dates. Luo Hao was one of the blind dates, he opened a small car repair shop and ran this business, and the matchmaker repeatedly praised his steady and down-to-earth character, so I started dating him.
When we were in love, Luo Hao was still very considerate and took care of me. My mother also often praised his good qualities, thinking that marrying such a man was my blessing. Under the repeated urging of my parents, I also gave up the idea of continuing blind dates and chose to marry Luo Hao.
After getting married, Luo Hao continued to run his car repair shop, while I chose to be a good wife and mother at home. Every day I help him guard the shop, cook, greet car repair customers, and sell car insurance. At one point I was satisfied with our marriage and felt that we were having a happy life.
However, 7 years have passed and our marriage has not ushered in the arrival of children. My mother advised me to go to the hospital to check and see whose problem it was. But Luo Hao was unimpressed by this, and even refused to go to the hospital with me. He said he had been tested for marriage, suffered from "dead sperm" and had few children.
I was disappointed and chilled. He hid this fact before we got married, and instead of facing difficulties with me, he only cared about his own business future. So, I decided not to endure such a marriage anymore.
After I decided to divorce, I left home and came to another city alone to start living anew. I clearly understood that the marriage with Luo Hao had long been broken, and there was no point in continuing.
In another city, I found a new job and started a new life. After the divorce, I did not contact Luo Hao again, because I knew that he was not a suitable partner like me. Now I am pursuing my own happiness and life.
Having experienced the failure of my marriage, I learned not to compromise on my happiness. For marriage, I understand that "similarity" is not the best option, and I hope that future marriages can be more real and happy. After all, happiness shouldn't be used to deceive oneself.
We all deserve a better marriage, whether it's for love or family. So, if you're in an unhappy marriage, remember that happiness is of your own creation, bravely face your choices and realities, and believe that happiness will always come.
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