The family division of labor model of "male protagonist and female protagonist" has always occupied the mainstream of society, and "strong men and weak women" is a deep-rooted social stereotype.
Therefore, if in the relationship between the sexes, a man is in a weak position, such as earning less than a woman, and his position is not as high as a woman, then he will often be ridiculed and ridiculed by the public.
In such cases, men usually choose to engage in two types of defensive behavior.
One is to break up with a woman, and do not communicate with each other in old age; The second is the "PUA" woman, which causes them to have bad emotions such as low self-esteem, anxiety, and gain and loss, and finally complete self-"brainwashing" in self-doubt, willing to jump into the abyss and become the thing in their palm.
Although the former is solving the problem through evasion, at least they are okay and the ending is beautiful.
The latter highlights the horror and darkness of men, because men always "accuse you and belittle you", which is nothing more than to trample on your self-esteem and hit your self-confidence.
It's as if you are obviously a free wild goose soaring in the air, unrestrained and free, but you are forced to transform into a delicate canary that cannot take care of yourself, trapped in a cage that men have carefully built for you.
You still yearn for the sky, but your hands and feet seem to be held by a powerful force, you can't move, and the greatest expectation every day is to wait for the man's kiss like God mercifully sinners to come.
You know, men habitually deny you because some of your actions exceed the boundaries he has set for you and threaten his authority.
For example, you are stupid, a 150 out of 150 math paper can only get a fraction of the score, and you often make mistakes at work.
What mispronounced the leader's name, what forgot to import the original PPT to report, anyway, in the eyes of men, you have achieved nothing, failed, and are complete social scraps.
However, by chance, you find that you have a strong talent for painting, and you also have an almost precise sensitivity to art.
So, you quit your job you don't like and focus on learning to draw, and at first, men think you're just a kid playing around.
But later, when you opened a relevant account on social media, had a large number of fans, and became more and more optimistic and cheerful, men had a sense of crisis.
He darkly thought that if you use your so-called talent to gain fame and fortune, then you must dare to shout to him, fight for women's rights, respect, trust, and this also means that you are trying to escape his control, which is quite a dangerous signal.
Therefore, the man began to use a series of means to curb this unfavorable situation.
First of all, he was depressed all day, pretending to be very hurt, saying that you were busy with work and did not have time to spend with him, and you felt guilty, so you promised him to stop updating and take time to spend time with him.
Immediately afterwards, the man criticized your painting, one moment saying that the line drawing is crooked, the other saying that the color matching is really ugly, the aesthetic is not good, and the other saying that he can't understand what you are drawing, too abstract.
You are in the information cocoon, you easily believe what he says, you pick up your works, carefully examine how to see how it is not pleasing to the eye, and in a fit of anger, you destroy them all.
And when the man saw this, the addiction broke out, and he comforted you with the tone of a savior, saying, "It's okay, stupid children will also have sugar to eat, I will buy you a lifetime lollipop." But the premise is that you must believe in me unconditionally and not do anything against my will, otherwise, I will abandon you without hesitation, and when the time comes, you will really become nothing, you know? ”
You listened to the clouds, stunned, you didn't know how to answer, but in the end, in the other party's eyes full of expectation and pity, you nodded.
You think that it is a great feat for you to sacrifice yourself for love, but in fact, when you lose your precious self-esteem and the ability to think independently, you become a "pug" who cannot speak, only a man looks at it, you often feel pain, but you don't understand what the source of that pain is.
Yes, this is the ultimate goal of a man who blindly accuses you and belittles you - to become a derivative of his mind and soul.
You are still beautiful, delicate, like a doll in the window, but the price of this beauty and nobility is that you will always be framed in that little glass room, allowing men to pry and mock.
Therefore, women must always be vigilant and remember that if a relationship makes you feel uncomfortable or falls into the quagmire of self-doubt, then you need to wake up in time and find a way to get out as soon as possible.
Because the reason why a man accuses you and belittles you is essentially that he wants to manipulate your psychology and is very dark.