Recently, on a well-known platform, a female netizen said: My boyfriend is twenty-five years old, and he doesn't take a bath with his mother and help his mother rub his back, is it normal?
This post stirred up thousands of waves with one stone, causing many netizens to discuss.
Most netizens think that it is abnormal and the comments are pertinent
Netizen "Brother Bandit" said:
Boyfriend 25 years old? I want to know how old his mother is. If it's sixty or seventy, then don't say anything. However, our traditional morality is that children avoid their mothers, and women avoid their fathers.
Netizens "clearly understand" said:
"Men avoid mothers, women avoid fathers" is a traditional Chinese moral concept, which means that when children grow up, parents should know how to avoid and give children their own private space. Specifically, fathers cannot bathe with their daughters, mothers and sons take bathes together, parents cannot let their children see their bodies, and parents of the opposite sex cannot see their bodies after their children have developed.
The purpose of this concept is to help children develop the right gender awareness. and a sense of self-preservation, but also respect for the child's privacy and individuality.
Netizen Sleepless Tonight is good at problems in the emotional field, he said:
Twenty-five is already an adult, and when you reach the age of marrying a wife and having children, how can you possibly take a bath with your mother? Don't say twenty-five years old, even seven or eight years old, see the opposite sex of the body will also react, not to mention the twenty-five years old you said, bathing with her mother, whether her mother or your boyfriend, it is impossible to control their desires, this is a moral decline.
Netizens commented authentically:
Some people have compared this to "filial piety", my God, can this be analogous? If you don't bathe with your mother, you are not filial? Just disgusted? Just don't love her? What kind of thinking is this.
Although each of us has been in our mother's belly, and our mother wiped our and urine when we were children, because we didn't have gender consciousness at that time, which is normal, but when we grow up, we don't need it, and we are not paralyzed in bed, which one has to wash together?
Netizen "half a bottle of water" said:
If the mother cannot take care of herself due to physical reasons, the nanny cannot find it, and there is no suitable person to help, then take care of the mother by yourself. Quite plausible. If not, considering that we Chinese traditional culture °, it is best to avoid suspicion.
Netizens "comfortable" agreed with the above opinion, saying:
If the mother has limited mobility and needs someone to take care of it when you are sick, then it is normal, if you are healthy, it is not normal
Netizen "An An Caiwu" commented even more brazenly:
I'm just curious, when they take a shower, are they wearing clothes or undressed? I really feel pure if wearing clothes! If it's all stripped, I can only say that the picture can't bear to look at it directly!
Under the intimacy of mother and child, I still recommend that you carefully consider this relationship! Either this baby is a mom boy", or the mother-in-law wants to rob her husband! Whether there is a story between them or not, only God knows.
Netizens "look at the world coldly" said:
If the son is 15 years old and still bathes with his mother, it is not normal, and at the age of 25, it is not abnormal to rub his mother's back, but incest is shameful. Men and women naked together can easily induce sexual urges, which is both human and animal instinct.
There are also many netizens who advise girls to face this situation and break up quickly
Netizen "An An Caiwu" commented bluntly:
I'm just curious, when they take a shower, are they wearing clothes or undressed? I really feel pure if wearing clothes! If it's all stripped, I can only say that the picture can't bear to look at it directly!
Under the intimacy of mother and child, I still recommend that you carefully consider this relationship! Either this baby is a mom boy", or the mother-in-law wants to rob her husband! Whether there is a story between them or not, only God knows.
Netizen "retrograde ostrich" said:
Your boyfriend is 25 years old, not 5 years old, and actually bathing with his mother, can this be normal? It's hard to imagine, wouldn't his dad say anything? Doesn't care? How embarrassing this is.
If nothing else, don't you hurry up to run this kind of family, feel that this kind of family has three views are not correct, and can you be happy when you get married? Getting married is not a matter of two people, break up quickly.
Netizens "sleepless tonight" also advised female netizens: resolutely stay away from such a family and away from such a man.
Some netizens who disagreed also expressed their views
Netizens "the original meaning of the word and sentence original meaning practice" said:
Normal, if you don't find that they have the intimacy of other male and female relationships, this means that they are pure affection, this affection only occurs in the top realm of being a person, family affection to be able to control the highest state of the body is the closest emotion, congratulations you have a top thinking boyfriend and the future may be your mother-in-law's top thinking woman, unless you find other problems, otherwise, do not benchmark others with your own standards.
Netizen "ZH user iOJvlk" also said:
It is normal to say normal, it is also right to say that it is not normal, every family is different, everyone's values are different, and the final judging criteria are also different.
Netizen "Don Quixote" paid attention to this topic, and his words were a little strange:
Every man has his own secrets.
I also bathed with my mother until I was 19 and went to college. Once something embarrassing happened, we didn't wash together again.
The so-called ethics and morality are only universal values in society, but in fact, they also have the freedom to choose differently depending on individual circumstances.
Wild Goose's View:
"Women avoid their fathers, men avoid their mothers" is the moral rule left by our ancestors, which is not only traditional, but also very scientific.
In ordinary folk families, when boys grow up to 5-7 years old, they do not sleep with their mothers. Your boyfriend is 25 years old, and it is inconceivable to take a bath with his mother, which is already a serious violation of ethics, which is unacceptable to normal people, at least your boyfriend and his mother have problems with psychology or cognition of things.
After marrying you in the future, if your boyfriend does not correct it, problems will also occur in the future in educating children.
I think you can try to point out to get them to stop this absurd behavior, and use this to judge whether he is a normal person and make his own right choice.
If we assume that his mother is indeed old, physically disabled and sick, and has special reasons for the family, then we cannot make accusations and comments. On the other hand, it should also be praised in the name of filial piety.
For this matter, friends and friends are welcome to discuss it together in the comment area.