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Between people, sometimes you can't deceive people too much, and you have to spare people and spare people, not only for strangers, but also for your own people.
45-year-old Brother Zhou accidentally learned that his 72-year-old father-in-law wanted to come from home for the elderly, and he came with a smile of 60,000 yuan.
However, in the face of his father-in-law's begging, Big Brother Zhou did not give the slightest face, and after inviting his father-in-law to eat a good meal, he asked his father-in-law to go back.
For Big Brother Zhou's behavior, the father-in-law was angry at first and angrily reprimanded: You white-eyed wolf, I married my daughter to you, you don't respect your father-in-law.
However, Big Brother Zhou said coldly: Don't you remember that you forced me to ask for 210,000 bride price 20 years ago?
When the father-in-law heard this, he had to lower his head in shame and carry his things back.
And as for how difficult it is for Big Brother Zhou in 20 years, and how desperate it is to face the difficulties of his father-in-law back then, let's listen to Big Brother Zhou's story.
Narrated from Big Brother Zhou
Last Saturday I was resting and running in the park near my home, and halfway through my run, my wife called. On the phone, my wife told me to hurry home after running, saying that my father-in-law was coming, and it seemed that he was looking for me.
I said yes, but after hanging up the phone, I ran a few laps and then walked slowly home.
On the way back, my thoughts were full of thoughts, and I could probably guess what happened to my father-in-law after not visiting my father-in-law for 3 years.
Some time ago, I heard my wife say that my father-in-law lived in my brother-in-law's house and often quarreled with my daughter-in-law, and a few weeks ago he was driven back to his hometown by his daughter-in-law, and now he is alone.
If you guessed correctly, my father-in-law plans to come to live in our house this time, and from then on let my wife and I give him a pension.
If this is the request, then I can say that it is absolutely impossible, no matter what my father-in-law says, I will not accept him, because 20 years ago, my father-in-law also did not accept me.
Xiaohui and I have known each other for 22 years, when Xiaohui was studying at a normal university and I was an apprentice in a nearby auto repair shop, and because of the introduction between friends, the two got together by mistake.
After three years of love, Xiaohui and I are very close, and there seems to be endless topics, and Xiaohui did not dislike me as a junior high school graduate because she is a normal student.
But Xiaohui's parents, especially his father, were quite disdainful of me.
Frankly speaking, in addition to my low education, I was not bad at that time, and 20 years ago, if any man could drive, it was a great skill.
And I not only have a driver's license to drive a truck, but also repair my own car, and I am also a good man.
However, my father-in-law didn't know why and always looked down on me.
When I first went to Xiaohui's house to meet my parents, my father-in-law and mother-in-law didn't pay much attention to me, and my father-in-law didn't look at me squarely from the moment I entered the door.
My mother-in-law was a little nicer, poured me tea and served me food. But at noon, when my mother-in-law wanted to cook, my father-in-law stopped her and said, "Why cook for him, I still accept him."
Later, my father-in-law said to me directly: My daughter is an intellectual, and she is also a teacher at worst, we will only find a person with a decent job, you don't think about it.
My father-in-law's words left me speechless, but I still said to him: Uncle, Xiaohui and I really love each other, although I have no culture, but I have technology and craftsmanship, and I can also let Xiaohui live a good life.
But my father-in-law didn't care about this, and directly drove me out of the house, letting me die.
This is the closed-door soup I ate when I first went to my father-in-law's house.
This was the first time, and I wasn't too sad, but the second time I came to the door, when my sister-in-law came to talk about the bride price, it made me very angry.
At that time, my father-in-law did not agree that Xiaohui and I were together, and I thought that Xiaohui and I would never have a chance again.
But later, Xiaohui said that he would be with me for anything, and he was unwilling to recognize the man he recognized, and he would not go on a blind date, which made his father-in-law feel anxious, and his mother-in-law was also doing his ideological work next to him, so he relaxed and agreed to my marriage with Xiaohui.
But even so, my father-in-law still felt a loss, as if he had given me a huge bargain.
Later, I learned that one of the very important reasons why my father-in-law let go was that my brother-in-law was almost 30 and did not marry his daughter-in-law, which made my father-in-law feel very anxious.
When my father-in-law was in a hurry, he put the bride price on me.
At that time, my sister-in-law and my aunt went to negotiate the bride price for me, and I originally had an expectation in my heart, that is, if I was less than 50,000 yuan, I would not pay it back.
However, what I didn't expect was that my father-in-law would have a bride price of 210,000 as soon as he opened his mouth.
Listen to my sister-in-law: At that time, she thought she had misheard, and repeated the question twice, but her father-in-law said 210,000. My sister-in-law was stunned, but my sister-in-law wanted to leave at that time.
Perhaps it is not too surprising now.
You know, this is 210,000 in townships and villages 20 years ago.
At that time, the daughter-in-law gave a bride price, and there were also those who took five or six thousand, even if it was normal to take 10,000, 30,000 was considered good, and 50,000 was very face-saving and very pompous.
To say that 210,000 at one time is taken out, it is estimated that not many people in the entire township can take it out at home.
My sister-in-law tried to bargain with her father-in-law, saying that 210,000 is too high, no one can afford to live, otherwise it will be 80,000 yuan, 80,000 yuan for two relatives to borrow, should be able to make up.
However, the father-in-law just doesn't let go, and he has an attitude that you love to give or not, and you can't get a single point.
My sister-in-law said: My father-in-law almost looked at people with his nostrils at that time, thinking that his daughter was an intellectual and good-looking, and if we didn't marry, others would line up.
My sister-in-law said, that is, to help me negotiate the bride price, if it is her own son to talk about the bride price, then she may turn around and leave.
Later, my father-in-law still did not let go, originally our family was ready to give up, but later, because my parents liked Xiaohui, and relatives said that they could help, we also accepted.
I remember borrowing money was a hard thing to do, and in 2003, most people didn't even have 10,000 yuan in savings. Even if you borrow money, it is only a few thousand yuan borrowed.
My parents took out all the money, including my grandparents, as well as my aunt, aunt, and aunt, who all lent us a lot of money.
And my boss also borrowed me a lot of money, only to scrape together 160,000 yuan to give to my father-in-law, saying that he would marry Xiaohui home first, and the remaining 50,000 yuan wrote an IOU to his father-in-law, and in the next ten years, he slowly paid it back.
In short, I think that when we got married, it was not an exaggeration for us to say that it was a layer of skin.
It stands to reason that if the bride price was given, the woman's family should have returned the gift, but the father-in-law only returned an electric fan at that time, which once again made our family laughed at.
In the days that followed, my father-in-law took the money and married his brother-in-law, built a house, and bought a van, which was considered a well-off.
But our family has been living in debt repayment for many years.
Even so, in my 20-year marriage with Xiaohui, I was often embarrassed by my father-in-law, and 3 years ago I had a conflict with my father-in-law because of some small things.
My father-in-law drove me out of his house, saying that he was really stupid back then, and actually married his daughter to me, who was not productive.
Because of this, I did not visit my father-in-law again for three years.
But today my father-in-law came, so I still went to the vegetable market to buy a lot of good dishes and prepared to go home to entertain him.
Strangely, this time my father-in-law came to our house and began to be very humble and did not have the spirit he used to have.
My father-in-law brought a carton of milk and a carton of apples, and when he saw me returning, he had a smile on his face.
When I poured tea for my father-in-law, he even took it with both hands and said thank you, which was something that had never happened before.
My father-in-law shushed me, cared about my body for a while, cared about my career for a while, and touched his son's head from time to time and called him a good grandson.
My father-in-law's sudden change made me very uncomfortable, but I still didn't ask him the purpose of this visit.
After drinking and eating, we sat on the sofa and watched TV, when my father-in-law finally couldn't hold back and began to complain to me.
My father-in-law said: Good son-in-law, now I am over 70 years old to understand that you are the most real and best person. Unlike my son and daughter-in-law, not filial at all, white-eyed wolf.
Hearing my father-in-law say this, I smiled and said, where, and then added tea to the listening.
Next, my father-in-law began to get down to business, saying, "I don't want to see them anymore, and I won't live with them in the future, I'll live in your house."
Hearing my father-in-law say this, I quickly waved my hand and said: This is not okay, Dad, our family's conditions are not very good.
The father-in-law said: Don't worry, I will give you living expenses every month in the future, I brought 60,000 yuan this time, how about giving it all to you?
Me: This can't work, Dad, I'm a no-show person, you better go to live in your uncle's house.
At this time, the father-in-law began to get angry, put away the smile he had just had, and began to say loudly: Do you still have a conscience, I married my daughter to you, what happened to you giving me a pension?
Me: Of course I have a conscience, my parents I take good care of, as for marrying Xiaohui, I don't remember when you forced me to give 210,000.
Speaking of this, the father-in-law began to be silent for a while and said: That's all in the past, don't mention it.
However, like my father-in-law, I began to say nothing or say a word.
After a while, the father-in-law had to pack up his things and go back.
I once asked Xiaohui if I would be angry if I didn't accept her father to come to the house to retire.
Xiaohui said: She won't blame me, if her father has had a good life in recent years, he would still look down on me and would not have such a good attitude as today. It is also what kind of cause and what kind of effect.
In the end, I wonder what you think about this?