#护苗有我2023#
Many parents say that my child is not old, but he is already lying flat, he is not interested in anything, it doesn't matter, what to do, how can he make him a little scrappy, how old is it now, how will this mentality live in the future?
In fact, parents should not be confused by the appearance of their children, in fact, for example, ten children say that they are lying flat, and the most who are really lying flat is 1-2. The child who claims to lie flat is actually not as indisputable as he says, and his heart is by no means indifferent. Most children lie flat on their backs.
Why should a child say that he is lying flat? Pride. Because he can't get what he wants. When you can't get it, you say you want it, isn't it very faceless? Many times it is the child who finds a step for himself.
If you can communicate with these children in depth, you will find that these children who talk about lying flat have in their hearts what they are thinking, what they pay attention to, is it achievements, is it ranking, is it a little unexpected, in fact, lying flat is a shield that these children put psychologically for self-esteem, is to protect their fragile self-esteem. Most of such children have been excellent, but there may be some special reasons, grades have declined, and then a lot of effort is not able to catch up, although the heart is unwilling but feel powerless, if there is an opportunity for him to advance in the class a few, dozens, or even dozens, do you say he still said that he lies flat? Don't worry, he will say something, saying that I originally had an idea, I just don't want to say it, the child is not very careful.
Therefore, parents should not be confused by the surface phenomenon of these fake lying children, what the child says is not important, the key is to let him taste the joy of success at the most important node, which is a sense of achievement in the real sense. To put it bluntly, parents only need to make sure that he ranks up a few or even a dozen places in a relatively important exam, as long as this is done, as long as this goal can be achieved, the child will feel that he is okay and will not lie flat again.
How to make rapid progress in a short period of time, so that children can rebuild their confidence? Give parents a trick to help their children find the key, key subjects (which one pulls the most points, the most likely to raise points), key problems (the wrong question book is sorted out, and then keep brushing the wrong questions, improve the correct rate and speed), key teachers (find key subject teachers to consult, find the crux of the child's learning, strengthen training, rapid improvement) In fact, it does not take too much energy, every day under the premise of completing the prescribed learning tasks, communicate with the child and have about half an hour of extra meals, about 2 hours on Saturdays and Sundays, Keep cheering up your child, and the next step is to wait for good news.
When the child's grades are significantly improved, even if there is a small improvement, parents must fully affirm, amplify the child's sense of achievement, and let the child feel that I can get a result through hard work, heart, and methods, at this time he will re-germinate hopes and ideas for the future.
When he experienced the joy of success, in the subsequent learning process, the child quietly started, what should you do as a parent? You have to pretend not to see it, but you have fun in your heart; Don't encourage, because as soon as you encourage, the child may not move again, because the child is a little afraid, the child is afraid of your expectations of him, in his eyes expectation is pressure, once you have expectations for him, he will pretend to lie flat again, so you must remember to hide your joy, lying flat children lack not ambition, what he lacks is confidence, confidence in himself.
I believe that the continuous progress of the child will gradually keep the child away from the "lying flat" state, but still remind parents not to put too much pressure on such a child, although the parents are very urgent in their hearts, but must be light, reduce the burden on the child's psychology, let the child feel that no matter what state, parents love him unconditionally, support him, let him move forward without hesitation under the impetus of love. But be sure to pay attention to too much, parents must grasp the proportions, do not put too much pressure on their children.
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