That day, I heard a friend tell the news that an old leader in the past is now working as a real estate agent in a certain country.
When I first heard the news, I subconsciously retorted that it was absolutely impossible.
Because the leader was already an executive in the branch that year, the business is excellent, the integrity is upright, the annual salary plus dividends are not to mention a few million, with his resources and connections, eat and drink spicy in the country, and retire in ten years, why run out and reduce the price to become a real estate agency? Fake news, it must be fake news.
Think again, people are real estate agents, and they don't have to memorize performance, maybe because they pass the boring time after wealth freedom? Ji Kang should have been in this state of mind when he struck iron.
Frankly speaking, in the matter of "the class slipped after leaving half of my life to go abroad", my thinking changed 90 degrees (not 180 degrees) before and after - although I still do not approve of blind running, I have also begun to understand the choices of some friends.
First of all, why I am against blind moisturizing, impulsive moisturizing, unprepared moisturizing.
7 or 8 years ago, the sense of atmosphere of the people around me has spread, and American parents in the group of colleagues have appeared in a group, and there are not a few people who buy houses abroad. There are even colleagues who specialize in the business of immigration, shouting all day in the group that "all you need is a ticket and the courage to come down in the dark", "sacrifice one generation, three generations of happiness", "cleaning toilets abroad is also better than at home" ...
I always have a natural suspicion of chicken blood remarks, you yourself have not swept the toilet in Europe and the United States, so you encourage colleagues in the group to rush out?
Everyone is also the top 1% of the country's education, crossed the bridge, bought a house in the fiercely competitive Beijing, the promising company work, with a not low salary, entrepreneurial financing financing, it seems that there is no need to abandon everything to clean the toilet abroad.
The cost performance of the two can be imagined.
Rich people have long been free of wealth, and everywhere they go is a game of capital. Buy a house on the east and west coasts, change hands and earn 200,000 knives, and withstand the hardships of white-collar workers for a year.
Now Australia and Canada have been afraid of China's local tycoons and introduced various new regulations and restrictions, because it was found that these rich newcomers were not only keen to invest in real estate and financial markets, but also did not create any local industries and jobs, but also raised housing prices and increased the gap between the rich and the poor.
Those who go abroad to study for master's and doctoral studies in their 20s are not bitter. As long as you graduate step by step to find a job and jump jobs, the pressure of buying a car for housing and raising a baby is not great, after the age of 35, there is neither an atmosphere of mutual rollup, nor the pressure of life and death, but it is not a day of thinking about fishing and hunting RV camping.
The goal of struggle at the bottom is also very clear, anyway, in the country is also doing manual work and service industry, come here, tired or the same tired, but the hourly wage has doubled several times, children are destined not to suffer from their parents in the future, how to think about life has a head.
After going abroad, the most easily confused, that is, when people reach middle age, they decide to leave all their accumulation behind and start from scratch in a different place.
These middle-aged people, often without foreign education, are almost impossible to find a purely intellectual job, because the employer also has to prove to the immigration office that he hired you because you have a special skill that the residents of the country do not have, and there is no one to replace it.
The language is usually not good, not only professional vocabulary, but also life problems, one couple said that after their family went abroad, daily communication relied on their son in the second grade of primary school.
The most difficult thing to overcome is also the high level of cultural people, once in China, mixed to this age, the size is also a team leader and director who has led the team, accustomed to the low eyebrows of subordinates, now to be a blue-collar worker from scratch, do manual work to deliver takeaway and open Uber, it will always make people nostalgic for the previous staggered chips, the years are quiet.
As soon as the freshness passed, the loneliness came, the purse was tight, and many people began to regret it, lamenting that foreign countries are not paradise, but the cost of sinking is already so high, and they can't make up their minds if they want to go back.
Former Beiwai associate professor Qiao Mu is a canon in the classics.
At that time, he yearned for the United States, traveled to give lectures 10 times, praised heaven on earth, and then moved his family without hesitation. Because of his academic skills and English skills and inability to find a teaching position abroad, he has never had a formal job, and he said in the headline that he relied on his wife's cashier to support his expenses.
After staying for a few years, I found that the cost of living in paradise is expensive, the roads in the United States are also charged, and the cost of expensive medical insurance is inflated;
Because of the arrears of property taxes, the Education Bureau informed him that if he did not pay the fee, he would not let his daughter study for free in the school district;
In order to save some electricity bills on hot days, the air conditioning fans do not dare to be turned on, and they dare to use them only at night when the price is low.
He began to pour bitter water on the public on online social platforms, and posted dozens of articles lamenting that "America is a hell for the poor", and finally found the offshore patriotic wealth code.
The literati are romantic, the world is so big, just take a look.
A university liberal arts professor found himself useless when he went abroad, and he was unwilling to surrender his identity to go out to support his family. Before making such a major family decision, the benefits and risks of the program were not properly assessed.
A few months ago, a cultural celebrity wrote a farewell essay for one of his friends to go to Canada, which flooded the circle of friends.
The article is written very tragically:
The wife cried and waved goodbye to the father and daughter at Beijing South Railway Station, and she had to stay to take care of the house and earn some money for studying abroad
He said that this matter has been quietly operated for more than a year, and no one has notified or disclosed it, just silently prepared... It wasn't until the plane took off to leave the motherland that I said a final goodbye to everyone. For this reason, he specially bought WIFI for the whole journey.
But looking at the first paragraph, I feel puzzled, what kind of channel must it be for immigration and landing in more than a year?
Further down, oh, it turned out to be going to go dark.
This friend is 50 years old, has a car, a house and a hukou, holds a tourist visa, leaves the country in the name of accompanying his children to study, and then plans not to come back and work and live in Canada.
How to say, this is not like Run, but like a tragic self-exile, and the subsequent ups and downs are completely predictable.
I have seen too many such cases, most of the reasons for deciding to go abroad are conscious career bottlenecks, the world is stormy, thinking that as long as you change the physical space is a new chapter in life, but do not consider at all how to stand in a foreign country in the future, what irreplaceable industry value you have, and eat in another place.
Many people used to be prominent media people in China, the middle level of the company, after going abroad, there is no momentum and motivation to re-study, most of them began to deliver takeaway to do odd jobs, and finally became immigration agencies, real estate agencies, study abroad agencies...
Career options are very few.
I sincerely suggest that those middle class who want to moisturize, living in a different place is only a means, and living a comfortable life is the goal. Spend time looking for shortcuts, even if you go out, you will eventually go back to the origin of academic qualifications and skills.
Even if there is no capital dividend, the most reliable way is still the exam - learn the language, read books, research, step by step, most foreign people change careers after the age of 40.
I dived in a group, and the atmosphere in the group was very solid.
Middle-aged people supervise each other every day to memorize words, take IELTS, brush scores, discuss which school to apply for, what major to choose, everyone is seriously planning their future, rather than hot-headed dreams.
If you are really old and do not want to study, then the mentality must be corrected, understand that going abroad does not have to be a person, everything must be started from scratch, do manual work to do the service industry, the income is actually not lower than that of white-collar workers, and no one discriminates against you.
The most afraid is that the person who screws up, who has no hardcore work skills, and is unwilling to abandon the domestic concept of professional nobility, can only fall into the embarrassment of the decline of life and self-pity.
A ship without a target is deviating from the course no matter how it goes.