He Chaolian's acquiescence, Li Xiaolu's collapse

Text | Sister Yi (Zhou Guiyi) Sister Shan

Recently, I ran the "I Passed Through the Storm" Seven Cities Roadshow, as a host, tired.

Finally lying on the bed at home, brushing up on the ancient variety show, I found that He Chaolian rarely revealed his married life in "Heartbeat Signal".

In the show, He Chaolian and Meng Ziyi sat on the side of the road and came to a sister conversation.

Meng Ziyi asked He Chaolian, how is it recently, are you happy?

I thought why Chaolian would take the opportunity to spread a wave of dog food, but unexpectedly, she first smiled and thanked her, and then said a little helplessly that Dou Xiao entered the group after marriage, and the two have not seen each other for 1 month.

There is no honeymoon for the newlywed, the groom quickly enters the group, well, a bunch of comments below, good things netizens began to associate, the former Li Xiaolu and Jia Nailiang.

Because, it was also the day after the wedding, Jia Nailiang went to the group to film, leaving Li Xiaolu alone at home to cry.

Dou Xiao and He Chaolian, Jia Nailiang and Li Xiaolu are all recognized by netizens as "high-difference couples".

Dou Xiao was jokingly called "He Dou's" in front of He Chaolian, and Jia Nailiang was once considered "unworthy" in front of Li Xiaolu.

(When He Chaolian Dou Xiao got married, netizens compared the pearlescent third wife Chen Wanzhen with Dou Xiao's mother, who did not have a single piece of jewelry on her body)

Netizens worry too much.

The surface of love looks the same, but when you open the inside, there are thousands of differences.

Li Xiaolu is a standard big yard disciple, her father is the director of Bayi Factory, her mother is an actor, and the Bayi Studio compound is her home.

Li Xiaolu acted at the age of 3, went to the United States to study at the age of 12, and won the Golden Horse Film Queen with "Sky Bath" at the age of 17.

In her twenties, she has already become a first-line actress with popular TV series such as "It's All Angels' Trouble" and "Struggle".

You see, Li Xiaolu is the kind of person who has "self" first, and the young Zhizhi family is well-off, which allows her to build an absolute confidence, which is also the essential reason why she wants to squander in the future.

Talent, acting skills, popularity, Li Xiaolu's cards are the right time and place, but her heart is not here.

Li Xiaolu frequently pushed away movie invitations, just because she wanted to be happy, she wanted to go on vacation.

She confessed: "I am a person who is particularly afraid of pressure and difficulties. ”

In order to work, she also flew from city to city, but she felt tired and immediately pushed off the film appointment to go on vacation.

When she met Jia Nai, Li Xiaolu was already a big star in the whole people, and surrounded by her were all rich second generation, official second generation, and star.

And Jia Nailiang, just a few times tossed, finally admitted to Nortel, there is no representative work of small transparency.

Simply put, Jia Nailiang has a strong sense of "unworthiness" in this relationship.

Li Xiaolu occupies an absolute high position, is the claimant of this relationship, and has absolute willful power.

Jia Nailiang made Li Xiaolu happy and pierced more than a dozen ears, and finally all suppurated;

carrying Li Xiaolu on his back to Mount Xiangshan; knelt for her many times, and hoped to kneel until she was 80 years old;

During the military parade, he drove across Chang'an Avenue just to see Li Xiaolu quickly.

Looking back at these now, you will find that this relationship is not really satisfied, it has nothing to do with wealth and fame, and she has never given Jia Nailiang "respect" in her heart.

(At the scene of the proposal, the man's voice was hoarse)

After getting married, she bluntly said on the show that Jia Nailiang was not her favorite type, and married him entirely because she was at a low point in her life.

After that, Jia Nailiang slowly accumulated popularity, especially after bringing Tian Xin to the show became popular.

On Li Xiaolu's side, the most "traditional and wise" approach is to play the image of a good wife and mother, keep the years quiet, and you can make a lot of money.

But that was not Li Xiaolu, she began to indulge in a career of singing and dancing that was completely contrary to the "good wife".

Exaggerated heavy makeup, dirty braids, and small man's waist, the 00s have to be humbly taught.

Even, the face is getting closer and closer to the Internet celebrity wind.

After cheating on the door, Li Xiaolu paid the price of divorce.

The actress, who was held in the palm of the hand by the people, was spurned by thousands of people overnight.

But did she have any regrets?

Intimate videos of two people, wave after wave.

In recent years, the Internet has been very unfriendly to Li Xiaolu, and wherever her dynamics are sent, the scolding of the Internet will fall.

But Li Xiaolu will not give up her favorite Internet celebrity style and street dance because of anyone's scolding, but is more and more open.

When netizens questioned her "shouldn't you avoid a little", she asked "did you know me on the first day".

Just a few days ago, she was scolded by netizens again for posting fitness photos, and the words of netizens were too dirty to be released.

But this is Li Xiaolu, in a sense, Li Xiaolu is absolutely "first", without guilt, lawlessness, and does not have a lot of empathy for others, reflecting the sentence: "The happiest person in this world is a person who is not responsible for anyone; The second happiest person is the one who does not look back. ”

On the "Spit Conference", she openly said the joke: "If you can destroy your reputation with your own hands, that is called true ability", now it seems that it is also a heartfelt mantra.

Speaking of Jia Nailiang's going out to work, she collapsed.

It's not attachment, reluctance, probably the discomfort that the asteroid that has been surrounding him will actually deviate from the trajectory, in Li Xiaolu's world, everything should be centered on himself.

He Chaolian's family situation naturally does not need me to talk more, the wealth of the gambling king, few people in China can match, Dou Xiao was ridiculed as "unworthy", which is also normal.

But if you understand He Chaolian's growth environment, you will find that the princess may not necessarily be in a high position psychologically.

The person who has the deepest influence on He Chaolian must be her mother Chen Wanzhen, who has long been known to the outside world as "muffled to make a fortune", but she does not have the slightest shadow of a "strong woman".

The third wife had a weak personality, and in his early years, he relied on the eldest wife Li Wanhua to promote him to the throne, and then he was pressed in the middle by the second wife and the fourth wife for a long time.

I was impressed by two things:

1, He Chaolian once said on the show that when Chen Wanzhen had just given birth to her eldest daughter for 7 months, the gambling king married the fourth wife Liang Anqi, claiming that the fourth wife was his last wife, and the pampering was overflowing, Chen Wanzhen did not dare to express her dissatisfaction, so she only cried every day, and could not sleep at all without taking sleeping pills.

2. When the gambling king was 80 years old, the second wife preemptively set up 20 tables for the gambling king, and the fourth wife was always domineering and directly placed 50 tables, while Chen Wanzhen thought about it again and again, only set 19 tables, and set the location in Shanghai.

In the cracks, her mother understood early on the truth that only by being a young man could he get rich, and He Chaolian was naturally affected, and he was well-behaved and obedient since he was a child, and he understood early on that "gambling kings like filial and obedient children the most".

Such a life background has led to the fact that He Chaolian and her mother Chen Wanzhen behind her will not be high-ranking wealthy thinking, on the contrary, they are relatively commoner.

He Chaolian graduated with first-class honors from Holloway College, University of London, and was admitted to ACCA (International Certified Public Accountant, but has not played the card of a scholar, which is really similar to her mother, Chen Wanzhen later read a doctorate, and never preached.

He Chaolian herself has also opened a bakery and beef noodle shop, which was closed during the epidemic.

("Jiu Wu" beef noodles is a time-honored brand in Taiwan, she ran to work in people's stores for three consecutive years, and the boss was willing to authorize)

The content on the social platform does not have the grandeur of Miss Qianjin, but some are do-it-yourself noodles, ribs, and sandwiches.

Punching in fried sauce noodles and garlic at the food stall does not have the slightest sense of separation.

Going to a small shop with Dou Xiao to eat snail powder, I will pick up the sour shoots that fell on the table again and eat them, which is really grounded.

In Dou Xiao's shot, He Chaolian is an ordinary girl next door, stupid and cute.

By the way, He Chaolian's brothers and sisters here are also wealthy Qingliu.

He Youqi loves to take the subway the most, and the girlfriends he talks about are ordinary girls.

Sister He Chaoyun got engaged to a firefighter last year after experiencing emotional ups and downs.

All the children of the third wife are not attached to the wealthy family, and there is not much worldly sense of chasing fame and profit.

Dou Xiao doesn't have to worry about not being worthy at all, and the gambling king family does have a complicated relationship, but another meaning of the complicated relationship is that if he does not stand in the position of the eye of the storm, there will be no big winds and waves, which can be verified by looking at Xi Mengyao, not to mention the third wife who is dedicated to pursuing birth.

Dou Xiao's side, his family is far less than that of the gambling king, but he is also considered wealthy when he is young, and he immigrated to Canada at the age of 10, a typical ABC boy.

Later, after experiencing the middle of the family, he did not screw or complain, but supported himself, and even the tuition fees of the North Film were earned by his own part-time work.

He is down-to-earth and optimistic, and he has the mind and hard-working spirit that a man should have.

Returning to some details of this wedding, everyone said that Dou Xiao climbed high, but on the eve of the wedding, Chen Wanzhen specially went to Dou Xiao's house to discuss the details of the wedding with the man's parents, and the low profile gave the man's parents enough face.

Dou Xiao arranged the wedding throughout the whole process, although it was not as arrogant as the predecessors, but the romance and taste were really there.

He Chaolian herself, speaking at the wedding, cried many times:

It is my blessing to have such a husband and in-laws.

I love you more than you think and need you more, so for the rest of our lives we work together to grow and become a better person.

Looking forward to the arrival of our football team, I will strive to be the ideal wife in your mind, take care of our family...

In and out of words, it is all recognition of Dou Xiao and the determination to be a good wife after marriage.

He Chaolian, who grew up in a "Qing Dynasty-style" family with three wives and four concubines, was very receptive to the values of "men first".

The biggest difference between He Chaolian and Li Xiaolu is that although they are both in high positions, from beginning to end, the love He Chaolian seeks extravagantly is within an extremely traditional boundary, which Dou Xiao can afford.

Dou Xiao goes to film after marriage, or goes to film during pregnancy, He Chaolian will definitely not cry at home like Li Xiaolu, holding her stomach, she should accept and understand.

Writing this article today, I don't want to put two people in a high and low order, I just want to say a truth: the high position of identity, and the high position of psychology, have never been the same thing.

And, I don't want to completely deny Li Xiaolu, or that sentence, position determines conclusion, standing in Li Xiaolu's position, selfish people are indeed easier to be happy, she is a little too selfish, but ordinary selfishness (about equal to self), is a treasure that Chinese women have not learned for thousands of years.

We talk about "tearing the label" every day, and Li Xiaolu has never labeled herself from the beginning.

He Chaolian's biggest bitterness from snacks may be the bitterness of coffee. But to this day, it is inevitable that the public will use the matter of marriage to measure her happiness, and more important than this, a large part of her self-feeling should also be handed over to Dou Xiao.

I recently ran a seven-city roadshow as a host for "I Passed Through the Storm", and some audience members asked: "We always say that we should love ourselves, but it is still instinctive to be close to men and social discipline to live safely." If we fight this instinct, we will have other losses in our hearts, what should we do? ”

Without a solution, God's problem for women has always been difficult.