Confused, all the time, you don't know what time he is, and you don't know what time to go. When we were studying, we were confused for college, when we arrived at college, we were confused for work, when we worked, we were confused for more choices, and when our careers and families were stable, we began to be confused for the meaning of life.
As long as you live, the confusion will not disappear.
(i)
Confusion is often due to thinking too much.
A is a person who has studied well since childhood, successfully entered the university, successfully graduated, and of course successfully entered a large company that others dreamed of.
Once his sister told us that recently A often couldn't sleep, and saw him secretly taking sleeping pills, we thought, maybe because of work, so we found a time to meet three or five friends to pull him out to chat.
One is to let him relax, and the other is to see what causes him insomnia.
When we saw A, we were a bit surprised and found that A seemed to be much older. After a few drinks we found that the topic A talked about the most was not work, but what he should do next.
He wanted to start a business, had a company of his own, but he didn't know what industry he should do, and it took up most of his time in his head, so much so that he couldn't sleep at night and ended up even affecting his work.
It turned out that what made him decadent was not his work, not that his ability could not meet the requirements of the current company, but that he thought too far, but he could not think clearly, I think it is a big blow to a person who has always been able to control himself.
At this time I thought of a funny scene: a two-year-old child looked at a beautiful woman walking on the road and he was moved, but he was too young, so he thought what should I do? After thinking about it for a long time, there was no way, and finally I could only cry.
(ii)
If you are confused, it is better to sit down and rest for a while
As soon as the east had a fish belly, people began to use flashlights to drive cattle to the mountains to herd cattle. Tread the dew against the white mist and set out for the mountain.
Halfway up the mountain, they would put their cattle in a circle for them to graze, and then people would light a cigarette, and when the sun jumped out of the mountains and the sun pierced the fog, people would herd the cattle into the mountains and find a place to sit and talk, sometimes looking back, and when the time came, they would drive them home.
I always thought that when I first arrived in the mountains, the adults were addicted to smoking too much by holding cattle together, and once an old man told me that it was because the fog was too big to see the road, and I was afraid that the cattle would run to other people's crops and waste other people's crops, so they ate a cigarette and so on, and the fog dissipated.
Sometimes, confusion is like this fog, if you really can't see the direction, it is better to let the heart rest for a while.
(iii)
When I was young, I often went to the mountains with my parents to hoe the land, and there was a lot of land at that time, in order to catch the season, we often ate some food in the morning, and then brought some lunch, usually steamed bread or tortillas, and then added a pot of water.
What I was most afraid of was a large piece of land connected together, standing on the ground looking at the endless green field, and my heart sank to the bottom.
Those small pieces of mountainous land, although hard, every time the hoe will break the handle, but as soon as you look up, you will see the head, and the hoe will look up again and then it will be almost to the other end.
But looking at the endless fields of crops, it seems that you will never see the head, and I often say, when will it be the head.
Mom and Dad often say that if you can't see your head, don't look at it, do it now, it will always be closer and closer to the ground.
When I graduated and joined the work, I was often surrounded by some tedious work, and every day when I went to the company to look at various reports on the desk, I was irritable in my heart for various plans.
Every time at this time, the words of parents will ring in the ears, don't look at the head if you can't see it, do it now. Yes, since there is no good way, don't think about it, do it one by one, in the end things will be less and less, every night to see the report on the table and my plan little by little until there is none, the mood is extremely excited at that moment.
(iv)
Confusion is temporary, and he will become clear as your vision, experience, experience, etc. increase, but there will be the next stage of confusion.
Confusion is the examiner of your success.
There are always people who will be sad to see others succeed, because they feel that luck is never by their side, and if they seize the opportunity, they will definitely do better.
So every day, in addition to work, they desperately look for the next opportunity, like people who are lost in the fog forest rushing left and right, until their heads are broken and bleeding.
I remember that when I graduated from elementary school, I didn't want to study, so I thought that I was better than my father to be a good farmer, and when I didn't want to study after junior high school, I thought about being a good worker and making money. When I graduated from normal school, I wanted to have my own company.
Just like playing chess, you only have the ability to see one step and you can't see three moves. When your ability and experience vision has not reached a certain level, thinking more will only make people unable to see the way forward and feel confused.
What we should do at this time is to calm down and do the current things well and accumulate our own abilities.
(5)
Zi Yue: "I have five out of ten and am determined to learn, thirty and standing, forty and not confused, fifty and knowing the destiny of heaven, sixty and obedient, seventy and from the heart's desires, not exceeding the rules." ”
A saint like Confucius can only do things independently at the age of 30, some things can not be confused at the age of 40, he can know what things cannot be done by human beings at the age of 50, and he can listen to different opinions at the age of 60, and he can do things as he pleases until he is 70 years old.
But now many young people just graduated in their early 20s and want to do what others have to do in their 30s, 40s, or even 70s.
Confusion is not because you don't want to understand and see clearly, but your ability does not match what you think, if you are confused now, if you do not know how the road ahead, it is better to settle down to do the current things, after a period of time to see, maybe another view.