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Friends who like crosstalk must be extremely familiar with Jiang Kun. As a representative figure in the crosstalk industry, he has achieved countless things, has been creating for the people all his life, and is the most popular artist in the hearts of the people in the country.
However, it was such an old artist who "both virtue and art" did not really enjoy the happiness brought by his children until his later years.
His life was extremely fortunate, but it was full of difficulties.
Since he separated from his daughter and adopted an orphan despite the objections of his wife and family, Jiang Kun embarked on a long journey of peace.
But the result made him feel very gratified, and adopting Jiang He was undoubtedly the most correct decision in his life.
Fantastic opportunity: Adopt Jiang He
In 1998, at this moment, Jiang Kun lived alone in Beijing, and his daughter Jiang Shan was dissatisfied with her father's too much interference in her life, and stayed abroad for a long time to study, and his wife Li Jingmin also went with her to take care of her daughter.
Although Jiang Kun was the head of the China Radio Rap Group at that time, he had already achieved fame.
But alone, he longed for the company of his family, so when the rap group ushered in a major event to "send warmth" to the orphanage, he participated in this event without saying a word.
The content of the activity is that each person should bring a child from the orphanage home to live for a week.
Let the orphans who have been abandoned by their parents since childhood feel the warmth of the family.
Most children are called uncles for the first time they see people.
Only the 6-year-old boy who was assigned to Jiang Kun saw him for the first time and called him "Daddy".
This "dad" made Jiang Kun's thoughts drift back, as if he saw Jiang Shan, who sweetly called his "dad" when he was a child.
With his thoughts pulled back, Jiang Kun took the little boy home to live for a week.
The little boy, named Xie Tan, became an orphan at a very young age and was adopted by a welfare institution.
Xie Tan's appearance made Jiang Kun's heart ripple with warmth.
Xie Tan's week of living in Jiang Kun's house may be their most precious memories of each other.
Jiang Kun did what a normal father should do, he would buy Xie Tan new clothes and new toys, would tell Xie Tan stories, would accompany him to sleep, dispelled the haze of Xie Tan being abandoned since childhood, and made him feel the joy and happiness of having a father for the first time.
But the day of parting still came.
That morning, Jiang Kun got up and saw the little boy sitting quietly on the sofa in the living room, with his neat luggage next to him, but he couldn't help but wonder: "Why did you get up so early?" ”
The little boy had tears rolling in his eyes at this time, and he choked up and said, "I'm waiting for the aunt from the orphanage to pick me up." ”
Jiang Kun was silent for a while, and the little boy held back his tears and summoned up his courage to say: "Uncle, I don't want to leave, can you be my real father?" ”
Looking at the sensible little boy in front of him, Jiang Kun thought of his previous single self, and immediately relented.
He couldn't bear to let Xie Tan, who was only 6 years old, suffer the same pain of parting as him, so he adopted the little boy back home and renamed him "Jiang He".
Before adopting Jiang He and returning home, Jiang Kun did not want to hide it from his wife and called Li Jingmin, who was far away in the United States.
"I'm going to adopt an orphan." Jiang Kun said calmly.
Li Jingmin, who heard this, said dissatisfiedly: "At the age of the two of us, do we still have time and energy to adopt an orphan?" ”。
Jiang Kun also thought about his wife's worries, but after just a week with Jiang He, he didn't want to let the little boy experience the pain of loss again.
He cut first and then took the child to go through the adoption procedures.
When his wife came home and saw Jiang He, she immediately ran to question Jiang Kun: "You didn't discuss it with me, so you took the child home?" At this moment, Li Jingmin had long been unable to listen to any of Jiang Kun's defenses, and he had not even paid attention to him and Jiang He for several days.
Jiang Kun, who is the leader of the rap group, is busy with affairs and can only let Li Jingmin take care of Jiang He, but she can't accept this child who suddenly appeared for the time being.
Out of helplessness, Jiang Kun had to personally take Jiang He with him to take care of him and treat him as if he were a biological child.
Li Jingmin couldn't help but be taken aback, talking about this with his daughter, feeling sorry for his mother's daughter, and immediately flew back to China, asking if his father didn't want her anymore?
Jiang Kun, who heard this, changed from joy to anger and disappointment when he saw his daughter, and the conflict with his daughter became even more intense.
When Li Jingmin was at home, he was very indifferent to Jiang He, but Jiang He grew up in the welfare dean and naturally noticed that his mother did not like him.
He carefully curries favor with Li Jingmin, hoping that he will be accepted.
Over time, Li Jingmin gradually got used to the existence of Jiang He.
As a wife, she was dissatisfied and angry with Jiang Kun's behavior of adopting orphans without her negotiation.
But at the same time, as a mother, she can't help but feel sorry for this child who is only 6 years old and so obedient and sensible.
Jiang Kun, who silently watched his wife's attitude towards his adopted son change, already knew that his wife had accepted Jiang He in her heart.
Jiang He, who had his parents, often had a happy smile on his face during that time.
But the contradiction with his daughter is what gives Jiang Kun the most headache.
Hope for a woman to become a talent: but was centrifuged
Born in 1950, Jiang Kun embarked on the path of art since his youth, and because his parents could not provide convenience for him because of his ordinary family, he did not work hard and seized every opportunity to perform on stage.
On one stage, Jiang Kun was favored by Ma Ji, the judge at the time, accepted as a disciple, and learned a lot from the master. Through the recommendation of the master, he stood on many stages that he had never dreamed of before, and his reputation began to grow.
Hard work pays off. Jiang Kun stood out in the selection competition of the host of the first Spring Festival Gala in 1983 and became the host of the Spring Festival Gala that year, and later served as the host of the Spring Festival Gala for many times, making him well-known throughout the country.
Not only is the career so smooth, but the family is also happy.
Jiang Kun and his wife Li Jingmin worked in the same propaganda team, and the first time they saw Li Jingmin, Jiang Kun fell.
The year after he and his wife Li Jingmin got married, they ushered in the crystallization of love.
The birth of his daughter Jiang Shan made Jiang Kun want to see his daughter and accompany her daughter every day after returning home from work.
Jiang Shan, who was born with a golden soup spoon, has been performing on stage with her father since she was a child.
Gradually, she had a dream of becoming a singer.
At the beginning, Jiang Kun was very supportive of his daughter, not only buying an expensive piano for her daughter, but also specially inviting many famous singers to tutor her daughter's vocal lessons.
Jiang Shan also took advantage of her father's light to appear on the New Year's Day party and sang "My Future Is Not a Dream" on the same stage with Zhang Yusheng.
But looking at his daughter's declining grades, Jiang Kun did not want his daughter to chase unrealistic vanity fair at an age when she should have studied hard, and watched her daughter jump into the entertainment industry, a big dye tank mixed with fish and dragons.
But after receiving his daughter's assurance, Jiang Kun, who has always spoiled his daughter, also compromised.
But the momentary indulgence brought about an endless decline in grades, and even became the bottom of the class, Jiang Kun decided to send his daughter abroad, only abroad, no one will know him, let alone look at his face to give his daughter a chance.
But his decision not only personally ruined Jiang Shan's dream of being a singer, but also gave birth to a very serious gap between father and daughter.
Faced with his daughter's crying and his wife's puzzlement, Jiang Kun ignored it and sent his daughter on a plane abroad.
In foreign countries, Jiang Shan, who grew up in the spotlight since she was a child, has a huge gap, coupled with the language barrier and strange environment, no one will know her there, and no one will support her as a singer.
In order to be independent, her mother was only allowed to accompany her for a week. Not long after her mother left, she couldn't accept that she had to learn to grow up on her own, and secretly bought a plane ticket to return home.
I thought that my parents would be very happy to see her, but Jiang Kun was angry and immediately bought a ticket to send her back abroad.
Whenever there is a quarrel between father and daughter, it is inevitable to talk about the singer's dream that was ruined by his own hands.
The father does not understand his daughter's autonomy and persistence, and the daughter does not understand the father's good suffering and intentions. Since then, the connection between father and daughter has become weaker.
But Jiang Shan's temperament is as strong as her father's, and after being "forced" by Jiang Kun to go abroad, she made up her mind to study hard. After graduating from high school, she went to Los Angeles for further study with honors.
During that time, she was successful in her studies and understood her father's decisions at the time.
So when she returned to China to rest and saw her father's adopted son Jiang He, she instantly understood her father's mood at that time.
A life of hard work: the perfection of the party
Perhaps by coincidence, Jiang He's grades were as poor as Jiang Shan's, and Jiang Kun spent a lot of money on tutoring for him, and his grades were never good.
Later, he suddenly discovered Jiang He's artistic talent and sent him to Shenyang to study acrobatics.
After all, Beijing and Shenyang are too far apart, Jiang He is still young, he has met some bad people, contaminated with some bad habits, and often asks Jiang Kun for living expenses.
Originally, Jiang Kun thought that sending Jiang He to learn acrobatics was so that he could have a skill in society in the future, at least not starve, but he was different from Jiang Shan, and he chose to live in confusion under Jiang Kun's arrangement.
Jiang Kun, who was worried about this, just met his daughter who returned to China to rest, and his daughter after learning the situation also talked about her experience at the family dinner on the weekend, which made Jiang He on the side suddenly feel ashamed.
He knows how difficult his happy life is now, and if he fails his father again, he really feels sorry for his father's teachings to him.
Fortunately, Jiang He's age is still young, as long as he guides more, he understands the good intentions of his family, so after he returned to school, he studied seriously and successfully entered the acrobatic troupe.
And he did not live up to Jiang Kun's nurturing grace, when Jiang Kun was seriously ill, he would immediately take leave to go home to take care of Jiang Kun, staying in the ward 24 hours a day to accompany Jiang Kun.
After Jiang Shan found out, she was even more satisfied with this younger brother.
Jiang Shan has long returned to China, has her own career and family, and has long been relieved of the events of that time.
When Jiang He reaches middle age, he also has a small family of his own, and whenever he has time, he will take his children and wife home to visit his parents.
epilogue
Without his father's decision, Jiang Shan would not have realized how naïve his thoughts were at that time, let alone make his career prosper through his own efforts after returning to China.
Without his father's love and guidance, Jiang He's life would still have no direction, nor would he shine in the field he loves, let alone have a happy life at the moment.
Now 72 years old, Jiang Kun has already entered the second half of his life, which is enviable and allows us to send blessings to this old artist.