To make money in the engineering industry, in addition to its own strength, it also needs to have interpersonal skills. Some people think that only people with connections can make money in the engineering industry, but who is born with connections?
Some people think that only hardworking and down-to-earth people can make money, but think about it, if only hardworking and down-to-earth people make money, then the most profitable people on the construction site should be migrant workers, right? In fact, in the engineering industry, people who can make money must be bold and careful, able to handle things well, and also need to have a certain amount of tact and cheekyness.
In short, in order to make money in the engineering industry, you must have the courage and means, know how to deal with interpersonal relationships and integrate resources, otherwise sooner or later you will be eliminated by utilitarianism.
So, what is a relationship?
When someone invites you to a drink, you need to understand why, don't wait until you suffer.
If Party A invites you to drink, it must be to make you pay.
If a colleague invites you to drink, someone else is asking to borrow your qualifications or materials.
If the manager invites you to drink, it must be because you don't usually give enough red envelopes.
If the supplier invites you to drink, it reminds you that it's time to settle the payment.
In the engineering industry, there is a joke that "engineers should always remember to put money in envelopes, cards in tea boxes, cigarettes in file bags, leave something behind when visiting, and go to the toilet in time for dinner." These details and skills are part of the interpersonal relationship of engineers, and through these small actions and behaviors, they can better build good relationships with partners and related personnel, and enhance mutual trust and cooperation.
In the engineering industry, the importance of interpersonal relationships cannot be overlooked, not only to help engineers successfully complete projects, but also to support their career development and networking development. Therefore, engineers should pay attention to learning and practicing interpersonal skills, and constantly improve their cultivation and ability in this regard.
So, when should you show interpersonal skills?
There are several aspects to this question, the first thing to consider is your position and position in the project.
Second, consider whether your relationship with the other person is close or distant. In this way, there are four cases, which we will discuss separately. In the first case, if the other person has a high status and you are close, then it doesn't matter whether you say it first or later, because you are like a family.
In the second case, the other party has a high status, but you are not familiar with it, then it depends on the attitude of the other party, sometimes you want to express, but the other party does not give you a chance.
At this point, you must first get things done and win the trust and recognition of the other party, and then you can have the opportunity to show interpersonal skills.
In the third case, the other person does not have a high status, but is close to you. In this case, you can first demonstrate interpersonal skills to help the project go smoothly.
In the fourth case, the other party is not of high status and is not familiar with you. In this case, you need to observe how your relationship develops and gradually show interpersonal skills.
The key is to grasp the degree of representation, neither too little to be appropriate, nor so much that the other person feels pressured to worry about taking on tasks that are beyond one's ability. It is necessary to grasp the criteria of representation to balance the needs and psychological states of both parties.
The engineering industry has always had the complexity of human relationships. Some people are good at handling interpersonal relationships, are able to respond flexibly to all parties, and handle them properly within the bounds of the rules. Others, while working reliably, have low emotional intelligence and tend to deal with things in a black-and-white manner, which not only does not reduce the occurrence of problems, but increases the number of errors.
Is the importance of relationships highly valued? Yes, it is very important.
Everyone has some interpersonal skills to some extent, and there is no one who does not understand interpersonal relationships at all.
For example, do you express gratitude when someone helps you? Or when you don't want to be hurt, do you follow the principle of "do unto others what you don't want"? These belong to the category of human relationships, and they have become common sense in society.
Many people's understanding of human feelings is limited to superficial behaviors such as, gift-giving, drinking, and compromise, and I can only say that this is a crooked road. According to this understanding, Yang Shrike should take the initiative to sacrifice Xi'er to Huang Shiren. Such an understanding is not a true understanding of human feelings, but a manifestation of ignorance.
When many people learn about human feelings, they just imitate other people's, invite guests and give gifts, but they are only used as an object of entertainment and entertainment, and eventually they are looked down upon.
Human affection is essentially dealing with affairs according to human nature. However, when it comes to "human nature", the learning in it has its own ideas. Because everyone's needs are different. Some people like money, some seek fame, some crave power, some like ease ...
Human affection refers to human nature, while worldliness refers to the way people get along with each other. The essence of interpersonal relationships is actually about the fundamental rules of the functioning of society.
However, relationships are individual to each individual. This is reflected in the fact that each person has different needs and levels of understanding of interpersonal relationships.
Human affection is indeed a technology. Some people are born knowing how to deal with people's feelings, some people gradually master through learning and practice, and some people may only know a little for the rest of their lives. This is very normal. We can only learn and experience slowly, there is an old saying that live to be old, learn to be old. Dear friends in the engineering circle, what do you think?
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