In the eyes of Taiwanese with a traditional view of marriage, "noble lady" Melody is undoubtedly a winner in life:
Marrying a wealthy family and living in a mansion, her husband is capable, and her two children are also filial.
Melody often uses her marriage as material and humorous memes to spit out, but behind the ridicule, there is an unconcealable sadness.
Now she has finally decided to fly solo bravely, and naturally received the heartfelt wishes of many netizens: Congratulations to Melody for starting again!
Without warning, Taiwanese artist Melody (Liu Gongxian) suddenly officially announced her divorce.
In the announcement, she was calm and decent, and separated from her ex-husband amicably.
As soon as the news was announced, it quickly dominated the Weibo headlines, and netizens sent congratulatory messages for Ms. Liu Hard Cannon:
44 years old, rich and idle, children with a career and no husband, cool to death!
Divorce is a good thing, congratulations!
For the audience of "Kangxi is Coming", Melody can be called the joke of the show. It is clear that she is an unflattering rich girl "Zuo Jing", but relies on Geng's straightforward and humorous character and excellent eloquence to win the favor of everyone.
As Tao Zhe's only first love girlfriend who has publicly admitted to falling in love as early as college, she is also the heroine of the song "Melody".
And the most prominent label on Ms. Liu is "wealthy lady".
In 2006, she married Wu Yuqi, a wealthy businessman 15 years older than her and worth more than 100 million, and was friends with Lin Xinru and Jia Jingwen for many years.
In the eyes of Taiwanese with a traditional view of marriage, Melody is an undoubted winner in life: marrying a wealthy family, living in a mansion, her husband is capable, and her two children are filial.
Melody often uses her marriage as material and humorous memes to spit out, but behind the ridicule, there is an unconcealable sadness.
Finally, as the child grew up, Melody decided to tear off the so-called "wife" and "noble lady" status. Lead by example and tell your daughters:
[As women] there is a choice, and it is worth believing in yourself.
She chose to face this marriage that has been completely "rotten":
The days are lived by themselves, cold and warm self-knowledge, only they know how to be good to themselves.
What is good about a wealthy wife? Might as well be yourself!
Melody once said, "After entering marriage, fairies will go to mortals."
She herself is the best example of this.
Grandma was born into a large Shanghai family, and her parents immigrated to the United States at an early age.
grew up in Los Angeles and participated in the beauty pageant at the age of 19 and became the winner of Miss Chinatown;
Holds a double major in international social and political science from the University of California, Los La;
After graduating in 2001, he joined a technology company as a business consultant with an annual salary of $70,000.
Melody, who has an outstanding family, appearance, education, and work, is also a natural comedian, and the audience is bursting.
In "Kangxi is Coming", her American English, exaggerated expressions and bodies have contributed countless funny scenes.
When talking about the experience of being a waiter for a day in order to experience life in college, and running away on the spot, he said seriously:
He told me to wash the toilet ~ Brother Kang Yong!
But such a good and interesting woman is still trapped in the traditional view of marriage and tortured to the point of "tiredness to blackness".
Because of her infertility constitution, Melody has taken eggs many times in order to get pregnant, and she has to grit her teeth every time for fear of pain.
He also fell into a coma alone at home because of his weak health, which was almost life-threatening. After finally getting pregnant, I have to endure the severe pain and exhaustion caused by childbirth, stomach pressure, and confinement alone.
Her wealthy merchant husband, on the other hand, is like an invisible man in marriage.
Melody finally waited for him to return home from a business trip overseas during confinement, but the other party dropped off his luggage and went straight to the massage parlor to relax.
The more time passed, the more her husband turned a blind eye to her. Melody goes to the bathroom, he's gone overseas on business, and won't even say goodbye.
When they were in love, he said that he liked her a lot, and his emotional intelligence was high and interesting.
After marriage, Melody held hands and wanted to chat with him before going to bed, and he looked tired:
Didn't you host a show, how do you go home and talk so much?
Despite being 15 years older than Melody, Ms. Liu's ex-husband is still a full-fledged mom boy. The mother-in-law will even look at her son's gray hair and complain about Melody, how do you take care of your husband!
It seems to be a wealthy lady, but she is actually a wealthy "maid".
Not only must they serve their husbands and children wholeheartedly and unconditionally, but they must also be bound by the morality of "wifehood" and "motherhood" and supervised by public opinion at all times.
And what finally crushed Melody was a peach.
Late one night, she suddenly woke up: she forgot to put the peaches in the refrigerator when she bought! So she hurried to the kitchen and selected and classified them one by one according to the principle of "the husband loves crisp, and the daughter loves to eat soft".
In the quiet night, Melody suddenly involuntarily left tears, and the seemingly solid and happy married life collapsed at this moment: "Who am I? What am I doing? Why are you picking peaches in the middle of the night?"
She quickly thought that if the peaches were rotten because they were not put in the refrigerator, she would definitely eat the rotten peaches to avoid waste. But in this family, "why doesn't anyone care if I eat hard or soft peaches?"
As a wife and mother, she is the recipient of all instructions.
And her preferences, no one cares.
Time management master, capable, excellent, in the face of her husband's praise in front of the camera, Melody is full of disdain:
He trained me to be like this, so that he had no worries.
In the eyes of outsiders, Melody is the perfect model of a wife: beautiful, double-shang, willing to give.
She is indeed good at running marriages, but behind this "good at" is a sacrifice that is rationalized.
I am not a noblewoman, but a "kneeling woman" who does not leave the ground on her knees.
The perfect wife, decided not to serve!
When Melody graduated from college and decided to join a technology company, the company's operations were in crisis due to the impact of 9/11.
At this time, a record label in Taiwan threw an olive branch for Melody. Soon, the well-known music producer Huang Shujun produced her first album and launched "Melody of Love" under the stage name "Yin Yue".
Subsequently, Melody successively participated in some TV series and stage plays, among which the most out-of-the-loop was Mr. Tian Xin in "The Final Class".
Originally, Melody had a promising star path, but she flashed married at the age of 27. The famous agent Wang Weizhong once sighed bitterly:
That year, I said that I would make you the heroine, and when I was about to become popular, you ran to get married and pushed the film away.
Despite receiving a Western-style education and influenced by her family, Melody's view of marriage remains traditional and glorified.
Her grandmother ran away from home for love when she was young, and fell in love with her grandfather for only three years, but she was widowed all her life after the other party's crash. And his parents have been married for decades and have always been in harmony.
Contradictory family philosophies and Western education shaped Melody 's "traditional thinking but less traditional behavior."
On the one hand, she guards love with all her heart, just like her own grandmother and mother. On the other hand, she couldn't suppress her heart's extreme desire for freedom:
She would send her husband and in-laws back to Los Angeles to relax, vacation, and spend time with her parents, on the grounds of dealing with taxes.
She let her children develop the habit of going to bed early at seven o'clock from an early age, and when the children fell asleep, she danced and sang with her friends.
Coaxing Kids Wine is a special "mommy juice" that allows you to drink a few drinks at home every day.
Despite being known for her image of a "noblewoman" who complains about married life, Melody is well aware that she is being "domesticated".
In her latest podcast, she warns young girls not to get married until 30, because in their twenties, they often don't know what they really want.
Unlike the later image of the handshaker, when pursuing Melody, the ex-husband often flew from Taiwan to Los Angeles with enthusiasm.
Shortly after getting married, in the face of the birth of her family, it was also her ex-husband who took the initiative to stand up and explain the difficulty and hardship of Melody preparing for pregnancy. But unfortunately, this sincerity and responsibility quickly wore off.
Melody is not unaware of the breakdown of the couple's relationship, but her family outlook and sense of responsibility have been dragging her down. But fortunately, Ms. Liu still has her own independent business and financial resources.
After working as a full-time housewife for a while, Melody decided to come out to work. Host columns, manage jewelry brands, publish books, do self-media... All kinds of results can be obtained.
After more than ten years of hard work, according to friends, Melody now earns almost the same income as her ex-husband.
Ms. "Liu Hard Cannon", who has already completed the cut with the wealthy family, may not be able to contribute more marriage paragraphs, but it does not matter.
The important thing is that she never eats rotten peaches again, she can go on vacation if she wants, and it doesn't matter what time she wants!
Leaving the wealthy family, she is still a "noblewoman" - a single noblewoman whose quality of life will only get higher and higher.
Looking at Melody's social software, you will find that although her divorce statement came suddenly, there are already traces to follow.
In the life photos of recent years, the ex-husband of a rich businessman can hardly be seen.
When not working, Melody spends a lot of time entertaining and pampering herself.
She often travels back to Los Angeles to accompany her parents and stroll with her father back to her college campus.
Ride and run freely by the sea, enjoy the freedom of not being bound by your wife's status.
She will take her two daughters alone to Peru for vacation and sightseeing, so that a certain "invisible person" will disappear completely:
Despite being 44 years old, Melody is visibly getting better and better. Fashion resources are very superior, all kinds of luxury brand cooperation, magazine shooting, receive soft.
But in private, it is still mainly about comfort. Ms. Liu's dress rules are: classic, elegant and fun.
The fitness habit maintained for many years has also made Melody once proud of her slender legs, which are still beautiful and muscular. Even if it is plain, it is full of good complexion
On the public platform, she no longer teaches everyone the "way of husband", but advises every woman to "we are not so great, take care of ourselves before taking care of others."
Put your feelings first and don't live so tired.
She also said bluntly:
The fairy tale of princes and princesses will not be instilled in the daughters, "Expect a man to come to the rescue, you will wait a long time."
When Melody turned more attention to herself, she discovered that there were many ways to relax herself: illustration, drinking tea, bathing, reading, and of course, shopping, a lady's favorite.
Wealthy families or ordinary families. As a woman, it is inevitable that the surrounding environment will constantly inculcate the concept of wife and motherhood, so as to unconsciously exercise self-restraint and sacrifice.
Even if he is as powerful and intelligent as Melody, it took 17 years to see the true face of an unhappy marriage, but it is just a peach that looks sweet and moist, but is actually rotten and smelly.
Let's wish Ms. Liu Hard Cannon a happy divorce!
I also hope that every woman trapped in it will no longer be aggrieved and have the courage to pursue a comfortable new life.