On the evening of July 5, singer Li Min's sister posted through Weibo @Li SilinNancy that Li Min died at home on July 2, and has been in a coma after being sent to the hospital, and finally passed away on July 5 after the efforts of the hospital team to rescue and treat.
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Source: Weibo
Li Min's last Weibo was the official announcement of the launch of "War Song", and this became her last song.
Countless netizens also immediately focused their discussions on depression - this demon who walks in the world!
According to Li Min's situation, many netizens thought of the demon among demons - "smile depression".
"Smile depression" is a kind of depression, a stubborn disease in modern society, a big devil.
Due to the "need for work", "the need for face", "the need for etiquette", and "the need for dignity and responsibility", many people smile most of the time, but this "smile" is not a real feeling from the bottom of their hearts, but a burden.
If a person carries this burden for too long, it will evolve into emotional depression. Smiling does not eliminate the stress, trouble, pain, and sorrow that a person brings from all sides, but it makes them deepen their depression and pain step by step.
In the impression of countless fans and netizens of all ages, Li Min is a sunny and cheerful big girl, and everyone can't imagine that she will leave this event in such a way. This is very unexpected and very helpless. Her singing still echoes in the ears of many people, but tonight there is only remembrance for everyone.
The most frightening thing is that more and more people suffer from this type of depression. Some friends around me said that they were depressed, and they only relied on their own will to balance every day, and it was too painful to go for psychological consultations and take special drugs, which was equivalent to carrying all the pressure and burdens themselves.
Such a person, we usually can't even see that he has depression.
Depression has become an epidemic?
In the past ten years, depression has been increasing year by year, both in China and in other countries in the world.
According to the China Mental Health Survey, the lifetime prevalence of depressive disorders in mainland adults is 6.8%, of which depression is 3.4%, and the number of people suffering from depression in mainland China is 95 million, and about 280,000 people commit suicide every year, of which 40% suffer from depression.
As of 2021, nearly 300 million people worldwide suffer from depression. Many Western media have said that depression has become an epidemic in recent years.
On October 8, 2021, Agence France-Presse reported that the number of global cases of depression and anxiety increased by more than 25%, especially among women and young people, with 52 million new cases of major depression and 76 million cases of anxiety in the previous year. The Lancet also published at the time that the number of cases of these two diseases increased by 28% and 26%, respectively.
Before Li Min, there were already many Chinese and foreign superstars who left us because of depression.
▪On April 1, 2003, "brother" Leslie Cheung jumped from the 24th floor of a hotel in Central, Hong Kong, on April Fool's Day, causing countless people to be stunned, tearful and regretful
▪In 2014, Robin Williams, a famous American comedy film director and actor, committed suicide due to depression;
▪In 2017, Chester Bennington, the lead singer of the American rock band "Linkin Park", hanged himself due to depression. In recent years, there have been countless cases of Korean artists committing suicide due to depression.
In addition to the dazzling stars, about 800,000 people die by suicide every year in the world, and suicide is the second leading cause of death for people aged 15-29 worldwide.
Of course, countless overseas Chinese have also suffered from depression, and even many have been devoured by this demon. Since 2011, news of suicides by overseas Chinese students has been in the news almost every year.
A 2013 study by Yale University showed that the incidence of mental illness among Chinese students is alarming:
According to the survey, 45 percent of Chinese students said they had experienced depressive symptoms, and 29 percent reported anxiety symptoms, compared with 13 percent of regular anxiety and depression in American universities. There are more than three times as many Chinese students studying abroad.
Susan. Song has worked for the Asian American Association for the Promotion of Social Participation (AACI) for many years, and she has met many Asian American teenagers, and she found that "some of these children are very good academically, but they are suicidal".
For many international students, psychotherapy is still a vague concept. They excel but struggle to develop self-knowledge and self-esteem.
But what we want to say is that the most important thing is not how to resist and fight, but how to regulate your own pressure.
How to deal with loneliness
After comprehensively analyzing the reasons why American college students feel lonely, Psych Central, a mental health information website, gives ways to deal with loneliness, and recommends that students in need collect and try.
1. Recognize and acknowledge your loneliness
The Harvard Crimson published an article titled "The Lonely Side of Harvard" that exposed the lonely side of Harvard college students.
The article notes that despite the popularity of loneliness at Harvard, the topic is taboo — students often mask negative emotions with smiles and "I'm fine."
But avoiding talking about loneliness is not a good sign, as students can easily choke on the wave of loneliness.
Conversely, recognizing and acknowledging loneliness can encourage you to think about why you feel the way you feel and start looking for ways to cope.
2. Adjust your mindset
Under the influence of negative emotions, your judgment of things is often worse than reality.
For example, you feel lonely because you don't have someone to talk to, thinking that other people may not want to associate with you, and thus fall into a vicious cycle of self-doubt.
Changing your mindset can help you get rid of negative thoughts and bring new networking opportunities. For example, if you feel lonely, you may not open the door to accepting others.
3. Meet new people
Meeting new people can be very helpful in alleviating loneliness. If you find it difficult to meet new people during busy classes, try talking to your dorm roommates and lab buddies.
If you don't know what to say, ask them how much they like a particular class or how much they like a sport. Even just talking for a few minutes a day can ease loneliness and help build friendships.
4. Join clubs, societies or extracurricular activities
College is the ideal time to learn about yourself and explore your preferences, and attending campus activities can help you discover your passions.
At the same time, it will make you busy and make new like-minded friends, thus diluting feelings of homesickness and loneliness.
5. Try to connect with yourself and pay attention to the things around you
When you want to interact with others, try to connect with yourself first. There's a difference between being lonely and feeling lonely, and when you reconnect with yourself, loneliness decreases and prevents you from "bending over" when trying to fit in.
In addition, a 2017 study in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine showed that people who regularly use social media seem to be lonelier than their peers who do not.
Therefore, you can try to spend less time on social media and focus on what's happening around you, which may lead to a more social experience.
6. Find professional psychological help
If your loneliness doesn't get better after trying the above methods, or even your daily routine is beginning to be severely disrupted, consider contacting a healthcare or mental health professional.
U.S. universities usually offer on-campus mental health services, and if loneliness is already overwhelming, don't hesitate to book a direct school counseling appointment to be evaluated for referral to on- or off-campus personal interventions.
In terms of real-world experience, usually participating in hobbies, sports activities, making more friends, traveling more, and drinking moderately will greatly reduce depression.
Parents need to pay attention
Once the child repeatedly shows emotional problems, parents should first pay attention to it, do not feel that the child has just encountered a bottleneck in learning, and it will be good after a while.
When communicating with children, try to talk about relaxed topics, idols they like, dramas they chase, pets they like, sports they like, etc., to create a relaxed chat atmosphere.
In addition to the child's contact information, you also need to have the contact information of the host family, the contact information of the guardian, and if you can, you can even let the child give you the contact information of a good friend, and multi-line contact is better than only one-line contact with the child.
Finally, if the child really can't support it, parents must take the child back to China for treatment, don't hold it hard, don't feel that the child is fragile and squeamish.
Finally, the deceased rests in peace, may Li Min go all the way.
At the same time, we must also try our best not to be depressed, but also to pay attention to and help the depressed people around us. Life is short, and there are fewer and fewer tragedies of hope.