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preface
Recently, a news complaining that female stars wear deep V but frequently cover their chests rushed to the hot search, who is this brave man with a straight heart? That's right, again "poisonous tongue" Venus.
As a mouth poison king who dares to think and say in the entertainment industry, in addition to her scaring character regardless of the occasion, her 28-year-old transgender becoming a woman is also controversial.
Now that the masculine characteristics of Venus at 55 years old are becoming more pronounced, what does this make his husband think?
"He" and "She"
Jin Xing studied dance since he was a child and was once a very good male dancer, however, he was not satisfied with fate.
Venus fantasized about being a woman at the age of six, he was well-behaved, good-looking, very interested in the world of girls, and liked to wear his sister's clothes and play with the little girls around him, and the dream of becoming a girl gradually took root and germinated in the boy's heart.
Not only that, Venus would have an inexplicable affection for the handsome uncle who went to the bathhouse with him, and liked to play with girls, and he soon became what we now call "women's friends".
Venus has loved dancing since childhood, and has a different talent. He has worked hard, from entering the cultural troupe as a young actor to becoming a student of the People's Liberation Army Academy of Arts, from holding his own solo dance party in Beijing, London, and South Korea to owning his own dance troupe, his career is in full swing, when he did not give up his dream of becoming a woman at the same time.
Finally, at the age of 28, he plucked up the courage to convince his parents, had sex reassignment surgery, became a woman, and became the first transgender person in China, successfully changing from "him" to "she".
After the operation, she can be described as a double harvest of career and love.
In 2004, on the plane back from a performance in Paris, she met her future life partner, Hans.
It is said that people who learn dance will have a different temperament, Venus was wearing a cheongsam, elegant and confident, quite the charm of an oriental woman, and because of years of learning dance, this graceful and graceful feeling on her body suddenly attracted Hans sitting next to her, and in the middle of 12 hours, the two chatted happily, and finally under Hans's insistence again and again, Venus left his own phone number.
Sincerity is very important in love, as is Venus and Hans, and sincere confession and response allow them to spend hand in hand and usher in a beautiful love and marriage.
Venus had several love lives, and even married a woman when she was a man. Of course, she had nothing to hide from Hans and told Hans about her emotional life and transgender experience.
Venus originally thought that he and Hans would never see each other again, but one day later, he called again and said: "I don't care what happened to your past?" I love you now. I want to meet you, I want to pursue you. In this way, the two married on February 1, 2005, and rented a presidential suite in a top hotel called "Golden House".
After marriage, the two lived happily and happily, and Hans was also very fond of Venus.
Hans came to China with Venus, and in the face of his original work in Germany, Hans's response made people call it "domineering".
His boss said, "Don't let a Chinese woman affect your development in the company." Hans said nothing and silently submitted his resignation the next day. When Venus asked him if he regretted it, he said, "Venus, choosing you is the proudest decision I have ever made in my life." ”
Although Venus has a strong personality, Hans spoils Venus as a little princess, he will specially dress at night for Venus to buy yogurt on the street, and the daily life of the two is also an interpretation of the beautiful and real appearance of love, which makes netizens envious.
Hans would also complain that he was "bored" when Venus asked him to help change clothes, but his feet still couldn't help but call her to go with her; When the two were doing the task of moving flour, Venus complained that Europeans liked bread so much, and Hans replied "too delicious"; When Hans loses the dog walking competition, Venus says that he is stupid and that he is to protect the safety of the dog and would rather fall himself than trip the dog. These small details reflect the deep relationship between the two.
Lu Yu once asked Jin Xing: "If your husband Hans cheats, what will you do?" Venus replied unabashedly: "Hans is a normal troublemaker, since I can't give him what he wants, there is no need to force it." It can be seen that the love between the two is mutual, and they are both understanding each other.
Degeneration sequelae
The degeneration brought great pain to Venus, when the left leg was pressed by instruments due to the doctor's mistake, causing the left leg to be paralyzed, and she refused to take anesthesia in order to save her life during the entire operation, and the sixteen-hour operation made her miserable.
Today, when Venus is 55 years old, this sex reassignment surgery has brought her new troubles...
People who choose to transgender need to take male or female hormones for a long time to maintain their existing facial features, but their average age is no more than fifty. As a result, Venus stopped using estrogen many years ago, which caused her to become more and more like a man.
Due to the imperfection of medical technology at that time, and Venus was 28 years old at the time of the operation, the male characteristics of the body were almost developed, and the unsuccessful operation made her "gender reassignment sequelae" more serious, and now even if she wears makeup, it can't cover up some male characteristics, full of male hormones, and even some of her photos on social media were called by netizens: difficult to look directly, did Hans feel a little embarrassed and scared when the two took a photo?
People say that a woman's youth is just a period, now 55 years old she appeared without makeup, her face skeleton is large, reducing the charm and beauty of her youth, more a trace of men's roughness and arrogance, some netizens commented: The photo with Hans is no longer as sweet as it was back then, but there is a sense of déjà vu of brothers...
However, Hans has always been recognized as a good man, and Venus himself has praised him many times, and we believe that even if we are embarrassed to see the obvious masculine characteristics of his wife, the emotions in his heart for so many years will not change so easily.
We prefer to believe that they are a long-term couple than to reduce speculation about their marriage.
The marriage of the two is different from the usual couple, although it cannot meet some sexual needs, but the relationship between the two has a deep foundation, which can not be shaken overnight.
And, Why did Venus stop estrogen? Perhaps not only because of the problem of longevity, but also because she revealed her transgender to her husband Hanstein before she had a relationship, so she would not be weak because she did not take estrogen.
Knowing that she does not take estrogen may be a trust in her husband, she trusts that Hans will not change her mind because of the revelation of her masculine characteristics.
Therefore, although perhaps Hans may feel embarrassed, the emotions in it should only be known by the two themselves...
A true braveman
Public reviews of Venus have been mixed.
Some people say that she is a pervert who is male and female, some people say that her mouth is too vicious and does not give people steps, some people say that she is sluggish, grandstanding, unconventional, and her words and deeds reveal deliberate and contrived, but some people say that she is a strong person who fights tirelessly for her dreams, an independent woman who is transparent and free, an open-minded and casual person who lives her own personality, and a warrior who dares to speak out and say things that everyone dares not say.
Venus is a clear current, but also a brave, free, radical turbulence.
From her self-proclaimed "Sister Jin", it can be seen that she has a strong character and is not afraid of anyone's gaze, although she has dreamed of becoming a woman since she was a child, she is often ridiculed by neighbors as a female doll, but this does not mean that she was once cowardly as a man, on the contrary, her life legend and amazing, her persistence in dance, persistence in dreams, interpretation of female vitality, worthy of a real brave.
Speaking of famous Chinese dancers, no one will think of Jin Xing, she is a natural dancer.
Venus fantasized about dancing all over the world when she was young, and this fantasy became a reality step by step through her efforts. In 1985, she won the national "Taoli Cup", after winning various Chinese dance awards, she went abroad and got the opportunity to perform all over the country, France, South Korea, the United Kingdom... They were impressed by her dancing style, and she became a famous dancer at home and abroad.
Chinese and Western cultures are different, natural dance tastes are also different, Venus to win the attention of foreigners, naturally not so easy, for this reason, she worked hard to learn dance, learned jazz dance, tango, foxtrot, ballet and so on.
She became the first Chinese dancer in Chinese mainland to receive a scholarship from the American Academy of Arts, was invited to choreograph on Italian television, taught at the Royal Belgian Academy of Dance, held solo work evenings, and was hired as a principal choreographer by the American Dance Festival.
However, at the moment when she strives to become a woman, the accident comes so suddenly...
After the left leg was paralyzed due to a surgical accident, Venus was close to collapse for a while, but she did not obey the fate, she could not accept the fate of never being able to stand on the stage and dance in the future, she continued to carry out rehabilitation, three months later, the left leg actually moved, but the matter did not stop there, after a year, she was able to dance again, what a medical miracle!
Moreover, she has many scars on her legs that have been left before, and she has to receive regular and regular treatment, and the treatment process is repetitive and boring and painful, but she is a brave dreamer, she is not afraid.
After the sex reassignment surgery, she suffered so much merciless abuse and criticism, but she has always been herself and never paid attention to the cynicism of the outside world. She chose to endure, not to point fingers in the unexpected world, participated in reality shows such as "Dance Forest Conference" and "Mamma Mia", and founded the talk show "Venus Show", known as "poisonous tongue" and "entertainment industry discipline inspection commission".
She once said: "If something doesn't work out, it's your own reason, don't make excuses for yourself." ”
Venus has always been strict with herself, relying on strong willpower, she has gone further and further in her career, looking back on the previous fifty years, she has done so many beautiful dances and programs, whether it is dancing, hosting, acting, directing, she has done her best to do the ultimate, she is worthy of her heart, lived her life!
epilogue
Gender is not a border, there is a border, it is the human gaze.
Even if Venus does well, there are still people who look at her, and there are still people who use gender change to smear her, but she is self-clear, shining in her field, she is not clear and proud, but she is so confident and calm, showing in front of the public with an optimistic attitude.
Nowadays, there are more and more transgender people, and modern medical technology allows us to decide whether we are male or female, and who we are.
For transgender people, we should respect everyone's gender identity. Gender identity is an individual's deep-seated experience and should not be judged and interfered with by others.
We should accept and respect the gender identity of transgender people by calling their chosen gender.
Avoid discrimination and prejudice against transgender people, who are also ordinary people who have their own rights and dignity. We should provide them with equal opportunities and treatment, and should not discriminate or exclude them because of their gender identity.
Only by treating transgender people with respect, inclusion and understanding, and by providing equal opportunities and treatment to transgender people, can we build a more equal and inclusive society.
Then fly wantonly, Venus! In this world that is not black and white, you have a never-ending life force!
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