Hello, I'm a little teacher.
First of all, I have two children, the eldest is in the third grade, and the younger one is about to be in middle class.
My sister has good academic performance, is the class leader, the second bar, and the representative of the Young Congress. But what makes me most gratifying is actually the liveliness and cheerfulness of the two of them, independent thinking and self-discipline, and I like their energetic mental state.
But my sister was actually a little shy before, not particularly blooming and confident, and did not like to go on stage when there were many people.
I knew in my heart that this was related to my parenting style at that time - high requirements, children are easy to get angry if they don't do well... Seriously, I really didn't have a good temper before!
However, after several years, I have gradually changed from the original rational person who only pursues results, pays attention to efficiency, discusses right and wrong, and does not have much human touch, to the "emotional intelligence master" who now understands feelings, values relationships, and a small number of people.
Much of this shift is due to a series of inner energy-boosting methods – both for children and for themselves. Because I know:
The core behind this is the problem of psychological energy
Now, I have summarized it into the "Five Senses Internal Drive" method, a set of mental energy enhancement programs with the nature of curing the root.
It integrates P.E.T., NLP and humanistic psychology, blending traditional Chinese culture as a theoretical guide. At the same time, as a father of two children, he has more than 500 hours of case counseling and has been exposed to the personal experience of more than 2,000 children, which is more practical.
- If you want to make your child's learning motivation stronger, instead of coping with learning, completing tasks, and perfunctory mentality;
- If you want your child to be more confident, instead of being afraid to raise his hand on stage, being ashamed to show himself, refusing to take pictures;
- If you want your child to do things without procrastination, it is difficult to start, or what should have been 10 minutes has to be done for half an hour or more, etc.;
- If you want your child to communicate harmoniously with you, and not rebellious or too lazy to talk to you...
You deserve to look down ~~
Three steps to improve internal drive
The essence of internal drive lies in "feeling".
Good parents "make feelings" and bad parents "spoil feelings."
And the most direct way to transmit feelings is in daily parent-child communication. Therefore, to improve internal drive, the method is clear - to make daily parent-child communication more warm and good-feeling.
Step 1: Method
Through the very landed, scenario-based, and real-time personal communication case display and analysis, let you learn "how to talk to children is appropriate" (of course, before this, I will let you have an essential understanding of internal drive and give you the method).
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However, many people must encounter a very real problem that is: "knowing" does not mean "doing".
For example, it is difficult for some parents not to lose their temper, some parents are involuntarily anxious, and some parents are difficult to say words of praise...
In fact, the transmission of all "feelings", the core involvement point, is the parents' own inner "belief". If the inner belief does not change, everything outside will not change! Because "the heart of the parent, the body of the child".
The secret of breakthrough is: "see first, change later".
Step 2: "See"
See our educational patterns for children, see our deep thoughts, and see our "limiting beliefs."
Psychology says, "When we see our true selves, we have changed half of ourselves."
Long-term exploration and consulting experience has given me the ability to talk about 1-3 things about daily parent-child communication, and I can go deeper and see the true cognition and hidden beliefs behind you.
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When you can't see your beliefs and thoughts, you are either guided by it or bound by it, and it either fulfills you or destroys you (all unconsciously).
Once you "see", you can choose again!
Step 3: Practice
- Fundamental changes are achieved through the practice of our cognition, feelings, behavior, etc. (guided by "self-directed neuroplasticity").
Rest assured, I will give you a targeted method, you just do it, and at the same time, I will accompany you one-on-one through the previous section.
Remember: as long as you follow along, there will be a change!
If it doesn't work, I don't charge.
I'll focus on three things for you
First, according to the current situation of children's growth, point out your educational blind spots and give accurate growth point diagnosis.
Second, allow you to "see" your own subconscious educational belief patterns (which have existed for years or even decades).
Third, under the premise of analyzing the root cause, I will indicate the growth and change direction of matching, and provide specific operation methods (pointing lights in confusion, avoiding trial and error costs). Please note that as long as you do it seriously, it will basically work. And you can rest assured that if it doesn't work, make sure of a full refund.
Why can I do it?
After more than 5 years of family education, in addition to learning from all parties, such as P.E.T., positive discipline, NLP and humanistic psychology, the more important thing is thinking and practice.
Education consulting 500+ families, contact with children 2000+, more than 220 original articles, more than 800 personal practice diaries, a total of more than 50W words.
On this basis, with good system thinking and insight, it is often possible to gain insight into the key problems in children's growth, and give a practical growth direction, with strong landing and effectiveness. Therefore, there have been many cases of children and parents changing so far.
But I don't think that's the most important thing!
As the saying goes: knowing yourself is the hardest, changing yourself is even harder!
As a psychology "user", I really know more about myself through psychology and change myself. That's what I think is the biggest reasoning.
How is it different from other counseling?
First, many people will tell you that internal drive is very important, but they can't tell you how to land~
Second, some people will give you the method of internal drive, but whether you can "do" it in the end is your own business~ (seriously, if there is no "comer" to accompany you on this road, you are easily confused or yawn, or groping for a long time).
"Not only to 'know', but also to make you 'do'", this is my original intention.
As a first-hand experiencer, from only thinking to knowing feelings, from being angry at will to being aware of emotions, from lack of self-security to replenishing one's own psychological nutrition a little.
My stuff is learned step by step by myself and stepped on on a down-to-earth basis. This also allowed me to really appreciate the joint points and subtleties (especially critical) in the process of cultivating internal drive.
I will also assist you on this path without reservation.
What might have been your gains?
- See clearly the nature of internal drive;
- Master a set of scientific and effective parent-child communication methods of internal drive;
- By analyzing the appearance of children's behavior, explore the current situation of children's psychology and needs, so that you can better "understand" children;
- Insight into the problems encountered in the process of children's growth, give accurate diagnosis, let you see the essence;
- Interpret the essence of children's internal motivation and parent-child relationship and professionally sort out to make you more transparent;
- Excavate the educational concept misunderstandings, communication misunderstandings, and internal belief patterns in parents' family education, so that you suddenly realize;
- Match personalized growth direction and landing guidance suggestions suitable for children's future growth, so that you can be clearer and more confident;
- After doing it, about a month after doing it, you can see the change in your child or yourself.
- ……
How can I participate in the growth plan?
You have four ways to participate, which are as follows:
Note:
1. The most suitable people corresponding to each product will be different (not only the age of the child, but the difference in parents' psychological nutrition and cognitive level), WeChat for details.
2. There are differences in the age of children, but in fact, many methods can be used (specific application needs to be adjusted).
3. The "in-depth accompaniment" service is different from ordinary psychological counseling, which is a new way explored in practice, detailed interviews.
Let's leave it at that.
We learn and change together, so that children grow into more confident, loving, self-disciplined and courageous, energetic and motivated people.
Every child with abundant internal drive will live a blooming life.
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Text | A little teacher | Original