#头条文章养成计划#
Author: Insight Hujiao
In this life, winning and losing are meaningful.
July, divide the year into two.
Half has passed, and half still needs to continue.
Half full of regrets, half full of expectations.
In the first half of 2023, no matter how many uneasy intentions, can't ask for it, can't let go, it's time to unload.
Born like a long river, there are thousands of ferries, only the ferry side is a real ferry.
Let the heart return to zero, do not think about the past, the future can come.
01
First half: Acceptance
There is a famous white bear effect in psychology.
If you remind yourself that there is not a white bear in the brain, a very distinctive white bear will appear in the brain.
The more unacceptable you are, the more you will consume yourself.
Therefore, allowing everything to happen can loosen the bondage of the heart.
In the first half of 2023, you may have experienced a lot of difficult times.
Perhaps, every day for the broken silver a few taels, but still can't make ends meet, the pressure is so great that I can't breathe.
Perhaps, you treat others sincerely and kindly, but you have been betrayed and hurt by gratuitous malice.
Perhaps, you have endured the heart-wrenching loss, and the people who are still around you one second will leave you the next.
I know that the rainstorms that fell in your heart in the first half of the year kept you awake at night.
But time can't be rewinded, wake yourself up: it's all over and it's time to move on.
One of the most important lessons we should learn in the second half of 2023 is to accept what has happened.
1. Accept imperfection and allow yourself to be just a normal person.
But you and I are mortal, please stop embarrassing yourself.
When tired, allow yourself to rest; When you are in a bad mood, allow yourself to collapse; When the state is poor, allow yourself to adjust ...
Zhang is relaxed, and living ordinary life a little bit well is a great talent.
Do the things in the moment steadily, and time will naturally give you the answer.
2. Accept all departures and allow stories to be fruitless.
All that is lost is never yours.
All those who leave are just passers-by.
Mountains and rivers are full of empty thoughts, it is better to pity the people in front of you.
Cherish the people who are still with you, and cherish them even more than before.
3. Accept the impermanence of the world and allow the unexpected to come.
Luo Xiang's impromptu speech at the 2023 graduation party of China University of Political Science and Law a few days ago:
"Actually, I'd love to wish you all the best of luck, but I don't think it's realistic.
The wise man said that there are at least three things that cannot be avoided in this life. One is suffering, one is evil, and the other is the end of life. ”
The adult world is full of reefs.
Suffering is inevitable, injuries to others cannot be prevented, and life and death events are even more unpredictable.
Every day after that, the only thing we have to do is to do our best and obey fate.
Full experience, thorough experience, quietly watching, just watching, and then allowing everything to happen.
If the heart is calm, time does not hurt; If the heart is bright, the years are warm.
02
Second half: change
In the book "Antifragile", two types of people are mentioned:
One group of people is Damocles. They had a sword hanging from their heads, suspended from a horse's hair. This type of person is difficult to resist any risk, and the sword can fall at any time.
The second group of people is Hydra. For each head chopped, two new heads will grow, which are more powerful than the original.
In the first half of the year, we always seemed to suffer more than we could bear.
Suddenly being cut or laid off, the bodies of themselves and their loved ones suddenly turned red, and harmonious families quarreled over trivial matters...
Each of these things is like a sword hanging above our heads, ready to fall and kill us at any time.
In the face of the cold wave of the times, some people are like Damocles, let fate play tricks, and then go to self-destruction in the sound of complaints.
Someone lived as a hydra, and all attempts to strangle him made him stronger.
In the second half of 2023, you might as well practice a growth mindset and tell yourself that everything that happens is grace.
Everything comes because of you, not at you.
Everything is good for you, everything is meant to teach you something.
Small ailments and pains are a reminder to pay attention to your health; The job is not satisfactory, that is forcing you to improve your skills; Broken feelings are helping you stay away from the relationship that consumes you...
Stabilize yourself in the second half of 2023, don't run away, don't be afraid, don't be depressed.
In the second half of 2023, change can change, evolve in change, and metamorphosis in tribulation.
- Reinvent the body.
Staying up late until three or four o'clock in the morning, irregular meals, and long-term inactivity, our bodies are dragged down little by little.
It's time for the second half of 2023 to reinvent your body.
Don't push too hard in everything, listen to the sound of the body calling for help, rest when you are tired, don't resist, don't be stubborn.
Regular schedule, healthy diet, and the habit of exercising for half an hour a day.
Just like Zhou Guoping said: have a healthy body, a peaceful soul, you are happy, you are a happy person.
Only when the body is free of disease and there is nothing in the heart can we be intertwined with the beauty of the world.
2. Change habits.
Procrastination, garbage pleasure, addiction, perfunctory ...
In the first half of the year, you have tasted the pain of bad habits, and those beatings in life are all reminders to change bad habits.
Starting today, be sure to force yourself to develop the following three habits.
The habit of reading, reading oneself in reading, transgressing oneself, pleasing oneself;
The habit of deep thinking, breaking a single superficial thinking framework;
Review the habit of introspection and overturn the old stereotypical perceptions and behaviors.
These good habits are like rain, moisturizing everything silently, but with the power of dripping water through stones.
3. Evolutionary ability.
Writer Liu Cixin once proposed a "technological explosion" theory in "The Three-Body Problem".
At a certain time, high technology will develop rapidly in an explosive form.
In the first half of the year, we continued to experience dimensionality reduction blows brought by technological explosions.
AI replaced a large number of illustrators, and drones began to deliver food.
Unmanned supermarkets, unmanned hotels, unmanned warehousing, it is even more overwhelming.
The housekeeping skills of the past have long become worthless in recent years.
Only by looking outward at the changes in the world and evolving inwardly with the ability not to be replaced can we dance with the uncertainty of the times.
4. Purify the magnetic field.
People and things that make you depressed are here to pollute your magnetic field.
Learn to let go and stay away from all the people and things that disturb your magnetic field and drain your energy.
Read, travel, exercise, appreciate yourself, purify yourself little by little from the little things that are beneficial, and save energy.
When you create a positive energy magnetic field, everything around you will become orderly and beautiful.
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Writer Li Mengji wrote in his book "Let Everything Happen":
"True strength is not confrontation, but allowing everything to happen.
Life is just an increasingly fulfilling experience, and it is meaningful to win or lose in this life. ”
You might as well live a little more relaxed, cheerful, open to what has happened, and try to change what you can.
Like it, in the second half of 2023, may everything be done smoothly, everything you ask for is what you want, and all you meet good people.