In the rivers and lakes, everything is based on "speaking" and "speaking" as the first.
How the person speaks and what he is doing indicates what attitude he has. What kind of words this person has, how he treats others, is the embodiment of his true side in his heart.
Generally speaking, when doing things outside, as long as you listen to how others speak, you will know what kind of person the other person is. Because "words are as you wish", the words he says are the attitude he gives after careful consideration.
Those who tell lies are not necessarily villains. Those who speak well are not necessarily gentlemen. We need to combine the circumstances, personal personality, and various factors to analyze why the person said these words.
The so-called "listen to their words and watch their deeds". In addition to seeing through a person, you should also listen to a person, and then reason, to achieve the purpose of understanding the details of this person.
People speak four words, not good. Nine times out of ten, the person who says these things to you will harm you.
First, people with sweet mouths are mostly villains.
A famous person once said that when I was rich, I found that the people around me were "good people". When I had no money, I found that the people around me were "villains".
The "good people" mentioned here are those hypocrites who like sycophancy and love to hug people's thighs. And the "villains" mentioned here are all those who bully others and bully the weak.
In fact, compared with the latter, the former with a mouth full of sweet words is more hypocritical. When you have money, others will treat you as a true brother and a true idol. When you have no money, others will treat you as mud under your feet, and you can't hate to step on two feet.
A successful boss said to his son: Those who flatter you when you are rich and powerful are probably not good people worth associating. The words of these people, just listen to it, don't take it seriously.
Many people do not understand this truth, and in the sycophancy of others, they become proud and swollen, and they cannot recognize themselves. This is the beginning of decay.
It is better to listen to the truth of a gentleman than to the sweet words of a flatterer. Arsenic coated with honey can kill people.
Second, people who always love to brag and deceive will take you into the ditch.
Now it is not easy to make money, the employment environment is not very good, and many people are at risk of layoffs. At this time, some people who "teach people to make money" will appear to tell you how to manage money and how to invest in projects.
Due to human nature's greed, everyone wants to make more money, which is doomed, and others will take advantage of these people's greed to cut leeks.
If one day, someone tells you that a certain financial product or project has a 20% interest rate, then do you believe it or not? For those who are in a hurry to make money, it will definitely be believed.
As a result, you want to make some pocket money, and someone else directly traps your principal, or rolls your principal away, so who can you blame? You can only blame yourself for not being rational enough.
No one will come to teach you how to make money at any time, because fertile water does not flow into the fields of outsiders. There are really good projects, others have eaten clean early, how can they teach you?
Therefore, people who always love to brag and rip-off, just want to harvest your principal and treat you as leeks, which is not credible.
Third, people who speak yin and yang strange have a dark heart.
Before I came into contact with the rivers and lakes, I especially hated those who spoke straight, and felt that these people said some realistic things, which was very harsh.
When I came into contact with the rivers and lakes, I found that these straight-talking people are real gentlemen and good people. At least, they tell the truth and directly show their attitude, and they get along better than those who are yin and yang weird.
Especially in the workplace, you encounter some problems, you want to ask a senior for advice, but others are weird at you and sarcastic you, then do you think it makes sense to deal with these people? It doesn't make sense.
There are only zero times and countless times about the yin and yang strange qi. As long as others have ridiculed you, it means that others definitely don't like you and have an opinion about you. In this case, why use your own hot face to stick to other people's cold asses?
People in the rivers and lakes can have no money and power, but they cannot lose their personality. Some people, not worth associating. Some people don't deserve to be treated sincerely.
How others treat us, then we treat others, one report for another, it is enough.
Fourth, people who always love to talk to you about interests have a strong sense of purpose.
Psychologists believe that people are creatures with a strong sense of purpose for interests, and will change their mentality and principles for the sake of interests.
Speaking of "interests", Wang Zhiwen said that in the face of interests, people are a changeable function, today may be your friend, tomorrow may become your enemy.
At the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, the Sun-Liu alliance resisted Cao Cao. When Cao Cao's troops were defeated, the two fought over the ownership of Jingzhou. In particular, Sun Quan, in order to get Jingzhou, also sent Lu Su to talk with Liu Bei and Zhuge Liang many times.
When the world felt that the Sun-Liu alliance was indestructible, the two families had already conceived ghosts, and on the surface they were still in an eternal alliance, but in fact, they were deceitful.
Later, Sun Quan secretly sent Lü Meng to backstab Guan Yu and seize Jingzhou, which greatly damaged the vitality of the Shu state, and there was no possibility of competing for the world.
Be wary of people who always talk about interests. Perhaps, they will turn their faces and not recognize people for the sake of profit, the means are ruthless and cold. #夏日生活打卡季#
Text/Shushan has deer