Fan Weiqi is not uncommon to support her husband
"Woman, your greatest achievement is your husband, children and family." "When men are tired of playing, they will always go home." ......
Huang Ziling broke the news, Yan Yalun finished crying, and the fire of MeToo soon burned to the head of Chen Jianzhou, a black man. First the ex-boyfriend, then the old classmate plus the ex-boyfriend, sure enough, as long as it involves the previous generation of Taiwan Entertainment, how can it not get out of the world of big and small S.
No, even Chen Jianzhou's wife Fan Weiqi is a resident member of their girlfriend group - Fan Weiqi.
From the time Chen Jianzhou was accused of sexual assault, Fan Weiqi's reaction was particularly worth saying.
First of all, the first time and her husband jointly sued the accuser Daya in court, saying that he had violated Chen Jianzhou's right to reputation, not only demanded that she publicly apologize, but also claimed NT$10 million.
Immediately afterwards, it was rumored to have disappeared. The mainland hit "Disappearing Her", she staged "Disappearing Wife" there, and the drama was also a little full, not losing to Huang Ziling and Yan Yalun.
However, just when we thought that she would make some big moves after the pain, people directly threw out a small essay to fully protect her husband, and gave a targeted refutation to the statement of the new accuser Guo Yuanyuan.
Regarding cheating during pregnancy, she said: People have hardly gone out during pregnancy, and the only five of them are all remembered clearly, and each time they are accompanied by their husbands.
Regarding her husband's direct lure into the house to do something wrong, she said: Well, there is only one bed in my house.
Regarding her husband's whiskey to girls, she said: As we all know, he grew up and did not drip alcohol.
Reading the whole text, it can be said that it is a clear and sworn word, and I even feel that she wrote this text with her finger raised to swear to heaven, and almost pressed a red handprint at the end to let "heaven and earth learn my heart".
Although there is no red handprint, there is a "declaration of love": I deeply believe that my husband is a man of integrity, and his body is not afraid of shadows. I love my husband and I will do everything I can to protect my family.
The last sentence should be true. In such a short period of time, Ms. Fan's determination to protect the family need not be said.
But on the point that "the husband is a man of integrity", I am afraid that there are different opinions.
After all, the honest Mr. Chen loves to expose his nakedness, and often "meets frankly" with people without the consent of the opposite sex, even if he scares people out of the shadow of his psychology;
The honest Mr. Chen also once urinated on a friend's body while soaking in a hot spring;
And, the honest Mr. Chen also likes to kiss everywhere, regardless of men and women, when the interest comes, he should stick out his tongue, and whether people are happy or not.
Perhaps in Ms. Fan's eyes, these are just boys who have not grown up playing mischievous pranks, not only have nothing to do with character, but are also cute and interesting, harmless, insignificant, those who care, but are careful not to play.
In addition, Fan Weiqi's series of rebuttals, except for the certainty of tone, their content is hardly convincing.
She said that she went out a total of five times during her pregnancy, but careful netizens obviously picked up traces of her pregnancy travel on social platforms at least 17 times;
She said that there is only one bed at home, but she has obviously said on variety shows that friends can sleep in another room. Even if time has changed and the decoration has changed, is it really reasonable that their family of four lives in a large mansion with three bedrooms, two living rooms and four bathrooms, and only one bed rests in it? Taking a step back, Fan Weiqi has a lot of real estate in Taipei, maybe the black man took Guo Yuanyuan to the set that happened to be more than one bed?
Regarding not drinking, first of all, there is really no necessary connection between pouring others to drink and whether you can drink it yourself; Secondly, they had a wine cooler in their old home, and blacks once took pictures of wine.
Therefore, this little essay is not so much a bomb to try to turn the storm of public opinion, but rather a can of ecstasy that she has given herself an increased dose, that is, it doesn't matter if others believe it or not, anyway, I must be sure that my husband is still a good husband, and our family is still happy and harmonious.
At the same time, I also took this opportunity to show my attitude: I, Fan Weiqi, am a good woman who chooses to tide over difficulties with her husband, and when I am mentioned in the future, I can only be a representative who does not give up and loves Jin Jian, rather than a negative teaching material similar to "flying separately at the end of the disaster".
In fact, many times, people do not need the truth, but will only cut and piece together relevant facts as needed, and use them as materials to maintain inner order.
Take Fan Weiqi, if she really has to be realistic, will she listen to the black side so easily without research?
Of course, the answer can only be that the facts stand aside, she needs to believe in black people, she needs to carefully build a good family and keep it alive, she needs to preserve the image of a good wife and mother in front of the public, so it doesn't matter so much whether the other party messes or not. Her bottom line is not whether her husband betrayed me, but whether her husband made a crack in the beautiful castle I worked so hard to build.
There is a saying that middle-aged people have so much love and dislove, only to weigh the pros and cons.
So what are the specific pros and cons? Let's take a look at the three underlying logics hidden in the motives of Fan Weiqi's virtuous wife:
First, marriage is a company, and the husband and wife are a community of interests, not only financial adhesion, but also social relationship identity, which can be described as both prosperity and loss.
For example, if your career is soaring today, I can join hands with you to participate in the award ceremony, and I can rub a light; If you squat in prison today, then I will not only be faceless and laughed at, but also have to rely on my own strength to raise the baby, and even have to scratch my head to think of a reasonable answer when the baby asks "where is daddy"... Ah, think about it, let's get the people back first.
When the "pillars of the family" who are responsible for earning money make mistakes and their social status is facing collapse, let alone Fan Weiqi, most wives cannot firmly take the concept of right and wrong and the sense of justice as the first principle.
Husband and wife, usually you have me and I have you, how can it be so easy to "destroy your relatives"? This person may not be very good, but after all, he is connected to his own flesh and blood. The more old the husband and wife, the more painful it is to tear and pull.
In the entertainment industry, when it comes to supporting the wife of the "guilty husband", Fan Weiqi is not the first.
Gao Yunxiang was suspected of sexual assault, Dong Xuan sold his property and went to Chongyang to fight a lawsuit for her husband;
Liu Qiangdong was suspected of sexual assault, and Zhang Zetian said that he "only wishes to keep the clouds open and see the moon";
At that time, Wang Quanan prostituted, Zhang Yuqi posted: We will face it frankly and bear it together.
Wu Xiubo's wife was even more fierce, and after her husband was exposed by an underground lover, she not only did not divorce, but also formed a united front with her husband regardless of previous suspicions, and joined hands to send the "outsider" in.
It is true that the husband and wife are the same forest birds, but they may not be in a big disaster and fly separately, especially when there is still the possibility of seeking food in this forest. Moreover, if you flew away, who would dare to ensure that the next forest would be foolproof?
So many people choose: can be will, can maintain is maintained, anyway, the price is just to turn a blind eye, and intermittently brainwash themselves, there is nothing unbearable, just get used to it.
Once the values are stable, they will become very calm and indifferent, leaving infinite surprise for the little self who does not know the world to digest. Think of Xu Fan's "mother-in-law's declaration" that has so far made people deafening - "Anyway, our family is a man, do not suffer losses", stick to the family base camp, welcome playful men with open arms, and resolutely do not push the "top pillar" outward, exuding an old and glorious atmosphere.
But imagine what if a woman was suspected of being unfaithful to her husband and making the mistake of being unruly in her private life?
Needless to say, after everyone knows it, nine times out of ten, it is a national carnival that grabs "Pan Jinlian" and shouts and kills. From Ma Rong to Li Xiaolu, which one has a good ending? Which one has been treated tolerantly by her husband?
It is not to erase the stain of their private virtues, but to say that in terms of tolerance of "red apricot out of the wall", wives are much more tolerant of their husbands than husbands are to wives?
Why? This brings us to the second set of underlying logic - women's subordination in a patriarchal society and the deep binding of the same family.
Although it is now 2023, it has to be said that the basic division of labor between husband and wife in the family has not completely departed from the traditional model, and "male protagonist outside, female protagonist inside" and "male as the core female auxiliary" are still the norm, especially for post-70s women like Fan Weiqi.
As a result, the shiny shell of high technology still fails to shake the deep internalization of traditional gender concepts in many people's minds.
On the one hand, women's sense of confidence in self-strength is still weak, even if they have the ability to make a living, they can't stop the panic that leaving men will automatically give birth to the collapse of the foundation of life, always feel that with a man to support them, life is complete, and life is steady;
On the other hand, a woman's importance as a wife and mother is higher than her social role, and caring for her children and preserving her family should be the primary source of her sense of worth and responsibility.
In short, for many wives, no matter how the husband plays, whether the marriage is golden or not, rotten is better than nothing, it means that there is support behind it, and it means that she is not a failed woman who screws up the marriage and makes her children cry.
And what about husbands who are unfaithful or suspected of being unfaithful? Tolerance and forgiveness will be ridiculed by everyone for wearing a green hat, holding back and shame; Cut apart, he will not have too strong a sense of loss, social roles continue as usual, anyway, family is not his main battlefield, this number training is wasted, it is better to change one to recover quickly. Therefore, drawing a line with a wife who makes a mistake is of course a better choice for yourself.
It can also be seen that women bear a heavier moral shackle.
If you have an affair with someone else in your marriage, then there is no strong safety net around you; And if the husband has a problem, a powerful force will secretly ask you to become a "lady who knows the general body, a chivalrous woman who lectures on morality", to be in the same boat, or not to give up, otherwise it seems unmeasured, not emotional, and standing with others to accuse your husband is particularly uninteresting.
After all, in traditional discipline, women are not allowed to express anger, not to mention "barking" at their own men, men are heavenly, no matter how strong a woman is, there is no husband around, and the family is not happy ~~
The third underlying logic is about sunk costs.
The longer you get married, the less likely it is to turn your elbows outward. On the one hand, the interest is more and more complicated, on the other hand, she has invested too much over time, and she will not easily subvert the inherent model and destroy her efforts and achievements in family building.
Instead of rebuilding after collapse, it is better to stay in the dangerous building. Even if it is going to collapse after all, it is a natural collapse, and it is also destroyed by others, and it is impossible to get rid of that ruthless hand.
Of course, this also shows that in Fan Weiqi's value ranking, the so-called feminism, the so-called interest correlation of the same gender, can not squeeze into the top five at all, and the cries of other women are simply no match for her husband's child hot kangtou and her already broken late festival.
Maybe her singing has accidentally comforted you and my youth, but that is just the result of her work and company packaging, does not mean how crystal clear she is, and later, her husband, children, and family became the focus of her second half of life, and those filters of youth were gradually shattered by reality.
It turned out that the beautiful people who had stood in the spotlight were at least 108,000 miles away from the representatives of avant-garde women.
The collective disappointment of the melon-eating masses means that she had vaguely expected something in her heart, but the limitations of a generation's gender consciousness are really difficult to break through, and the more secular success she achieves, the more she will value the protection of vested interests above all else.
However, it is quite touching to see their husband and wife united and unanimous, and then listen to "Black and White Matching" and "The Most Important Decision", which is moved and a little tragic.
"There are no shortcuts to happiness, only management". Everyone says that Fan Weiqi is fake, inconsistent, and unreliable in speech, but on the road of marriage, she did not lie to people, she really practiced the vows in the song with actions.
Author: Miss Bovary
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