Today's children need wisdom to support their growth and integration of mind, mind, and soul. School nurtures children's minds, but suppresses the natural impulse of the body to run and play. We must support our children's experiences in all aspects, whether physical, emotional or spiritual, and support them in ways appropriate to their current level of development.
In the Complete Book of Chakras, Dr. Andrea Judith gives some brief introductions to the correspondence between chakras and childhood development stages, as well as some advice and suggestions for parents, and tells them how to support the development of some important areas of their children's lives.
First Chakra: Uterus to 1 year of age.
Promotes physical development. The most important thing that can be done at this stage is to help your child fully develop his body. Touch him frequently, hug him, care for him, and pay attention to his physical needs. Your touch affirms the child's body, and your embrace teaches him to embrace himself. Your child's play will help him develop motor coordination. You play with his little hands and feet, give him toys for him to grab, and play with him in the shower are all helping to stimulate his motor development.
Allow attachment and bonding and build a sense of trust. The only security for a child comes from attachment to the person who takes care of him primarily. One of the most important things for the mother (or father, if he is the primary caregiver) is to accompany the child as much as possible during the first year of establishing his foundation. When your child cries, pick him up, hug him often, hug him, talk to him, protect him from noise, hunger, cold and discomfort. The constant presence of a caregiver during infancy will help resolve your child's choice between trust and distrust, and help build hope and confidence.
Proper daycare. If a mother must work and not stay with her child during the child's first year of development, when looking for daycare, ensure that the child receives frequent and appropriate touch, eats as hungry as she wants, and is cared for by an adult in a suitable environment. Spend some time with your child in the day care until he adjusts to the environment. Family daycare and bringing a babysitter into the home can provide more continuous care for children. At night when parents are at home, children need extra care, touch, and mother-infant bonding exercises.
A sense of security comes from a safe environment. Staying at home quietly, away from loud noises, sharp objects, being careful not to fall out of bed, feeling warm rather than cold, and not being treated with violence by adults or siblings, are all very important for children to feel safe. When your child is in an unfamiliar environment, such as a store, park, clinic, friend's house, parents are the child's safety island, and you need to come again and again to comfort you to rest assured.
Healthy nutrition. Breastfeeding has been shown to be more beneficial for a child's physical and emotional development. The mother's emotional state when feeding her child is more important than breastfeeding herself with the breast or feeding with a bottle. Bottle feeding with love is better for a child than feeding with a breast with a grudge.
Second Chakra: 6 to 18 months.
Separation and attachment are allowed. As his body grew, he developed more and more body movements and began to want to be separated from his parents. At this time, it is important to provide a safe environment to encourage him to explore, encourage him to be separated from his parents, and provide love and warmth for his child when he needs to be safe.
Provide an environment to develop the senses. Create a world of color and sound, provide fun toys that delight him when touching him while playing, and ensure that the surroundings are safe for exploration; These are all important for children.
Support children to explore through action. Find a safe place for your child to crawl and walk. It allows him to run around the park, roll around the backyard, and learn to use his body in activities that are constantly discovering new things.
Reflect emotions. If you want to develop his emotional qualities, reflect his emotions like a mirror. Respond to his crying, anger, fear, need, or confusion. Don't deny him or punish him because of his emotions—he can't control how he feels yet.
Third Chakra: 1 and a half to 3 years old.
Support the child's autonomy and willfulness. When your child begins to separate from you, celebrate his independence. Try to support your child's wayward approach. Alternatively, you can take out a few things and ask him to choose; It is appropriate and safe to create conditions for the child to feel spontaneous.
Encourage self-esteem. Self-identity is formed at this stage. Be happy with your child's small achievements and make him feel appreciated by you. Support your child to develop independence, but don't reject him. If you give your child tasks and he succeeds, he will develop self-confidence. Age-appropriate puzzles and toys, small household chores such as putting toys in a tidying box or picking up animal dolls can help develop basic self-confidence. When he clumsily tries to do something simple, don't criticize him or make him feel frustrated. Be patient, and that patience will eventually pay off in the long run.
Successful toilet training. When a child is 1 and a half to 2 years old, the sphincter is able to control bowel movements. Maybe without waiting until he is 3 years old, he will be able to go diaper free all night. If you can wait for the right time to train him, he will be proud to learn the new adult behavior of toileting. Rewards for successful behavior are better than punishments for wrongdoing.
Proper discipline. While supporting the child's autonomy and willpower, it also needs to have appropriate limits and firm execution. Although children cannot understand complex reasoning, they can understand simple causal statements, such as "watch out for dog bites, don't touch them." Try to divert your child's attention to appropriate things, such as if you take the remote out of his mouth and he cries, don't yell at him, give him something else to grab and help him out of dangerous situations.
At this stage, the child is very sensitive to the approval of the parents, and if necessary, the parents should show that it is his behavior that does not approve of him, not himself.
Fourth Chakra: 4 to 7 years old.
Keep an eye on relationship patterns. At this stage, children need to learn to play social roles through identification and imitation. The parents' identification makes the child feel that they will always be with him even when the parents are not present. If you are angry and aggressive, you are teaching your child that he can also be angry and aggressive when dealing with himself and others.
Develop compassion and ethical behavior. While identifying with parents, it also lays the foundation for children's moral behavior. Explain to him why there are some things you do and some things you don't. Also pay attention to your behavior patterns towards gender. Treat sons and daughters with equal love, responsibility and respect. Let your child recognize the acceptable scale of behavior. Let the daughter realize what a powerful woman looks like, and let the son realize that showing soft emotions does not damage his manhood.
Explain relationships. Your son is trying to understand why everything he observes is related to something else. The more clearly you explain the connection, the safer he feels. For example, "We need to put the puzzle pieces away so that we don't lose the little pieces." "Mom has to go to work so she can earn money to buy food." A regular routine is important. If your routine is disrupted, explain why.
Support your child's peer relationships. Your child can now make friends with children of the same age under parental supervision. If he's not in school, find a way for him to get along with other children. If he goes to school, ask him about his interactions with children. Find opportunities to nurture children's friendships outside of school.
Fifth Chakra: 7 to 12 years old.
Support communication. The child now has a solid foundation in the language. Help him use language, talk to him for a long time, and explore the nature of the world. Encourage him to ask questions and take the time to answer them seriously. Ask him questions he can talk about, about himself, his feelings, and his friends. Be a dedicated listener.
Inspire creativity. Success is the biggest driver of developing talent. Encourage your child to find innovative ways to do things to foster creative thinking, even if it's just something like setting the table. Teach him how to use tools to stimulate his creativity by reading, watching movies, attending concerts and watching plays. When your child shows you what he has created, be sure to praise him, even if it looks like a mess.
Explore the wider world. Take your kids to explore new places such as museums, street markets, zoos. Go on vacation trip, go camping in the mountains. Exploring the different possibilities of life encourages him to expand his horizons.
Sixth Chakra: Adolescence.
Support the formation of a sense of self-identity. Adolescent children are looking for their sense of identity. Don't control harmless little details like hair, dressing, or listening to music. Respect his personal expression. Encourage him to think independently and ask him more questions instead of giving answers.
Support independence. Allow the child to have more of his own life. Encourage him to earn money and take on more responsibilities in life, such as buying his own clothes, having his own transportation, and engaging in some creative activities. Be able to allow him to make mistakes. If he can trust himself, he can act more responsibly.
Set clear boundaries. Teens must know clear boundaries. At this point, they are already able to do complex reasoning, and it is important for him to learn to think about the reasons behind the boundaries, and even let him deal with these limitations thoughtfully.
Seventh Chakra: Early adulthood and beyond.
The process of shaping the seventh chakra lasts throughout childhood. When your son or daughter actually comes to the seventh chakra stage, he is himself, and the influence of parents is minimal. But there are some principles to follow:
Encourage asking questions. Ask questions, not give answers. If your home is a safe place to ask questions and discuss values, your child will learn to think independently. Have some intellectual discussions with him, ask for his point of view,
Make him feel that it is worth the time to think.
Provide a variety of spiritual options. Spirituality should not be imposed on children. A better way is to teach him to be consciously aware of his actions. When he expresses interest in spirituality, share with him what you know and think. In addition to exposing your child to your faith, giving him exposure to other religions and choices will make him more spiritual.
Provide educational opportunities. Learning is how we nourish the seventh chakra and update the entire operating system. Either way, support your child's learning. Teach the child to discover lessons from experience and ask him what he has learned from different activities.
Let go. Now it is time for the young man to leave home to support and celebrate his independence. There is no benefit in pulling him away from letting go or forcibly pushing him out the door. As a parent, to regain control and attachment to the child, the young man will naturally go to his own world.