Song Joong-ki was scolded on the hot search as soon as he became a father: "With children, I lost a lot of job opportunities"

Original | Pregnancy

"Mother and child are safe, and the child is the most precious gift for us as a couple."

On June 14, Song Zhongji officially announced that he would become a father, and the baby was born safely in his wife's hometown and was a healthy son.

In his words, Song Zhongji was full of joy.

But just a few days later, Song Joong-ki was scolded by South Korean netizens for being on the hot search because of an interview.

During the interview, Song Joong Ki was asked: What does it mean to be a father or husband? How do individuals balance family and career?

Song Joong Ki replied: You will lose a lot of job opportunities, in the entertainment industry, become a father, have a baby, marry a wife, it seems that you will lose a lot of job opportunities.

Although he later added: I am not very worried about this, family is always more important than career, I love my job and will do a lot of work for me and my family, I can be a good actor, I can be a good father, a good husband, a good son, I can do it.

But netizens did not buy it, for his statement that he lost a lot of job opportunities as a father, netizens said:

"It turns out that Song Zhongji personally gave birth to a child from his belly."

"Compared to the father and husband, the mother is the one who loses more, and becoming a mother and wife will lose a lot of jobs."

"Then let me say this, becoming a mother, you may die, you may leave a root of the disease, no one mentions it? Why? You're just going to die, and I'm going to lose a lot of jobs." ”

"Female artists who gave birth to children not only have to be judged for their stature and age, but most of them are directly silently and without work.

As an actor, as a father, as a male side, Song Joong-ki's statement is actually no problem, try to balance family and work, and strive to be a competent actor, a good husband, and a good father.

It's just that as many netizens say: becoming a father, you will just lose some job opportunities, but to become a mother, there are too many to pay and sacrifice.

The hardships of pregnancy, the pain of childbirth, the fatigue of bringing a baby..... All this is experienced and endured by women.

Their sacrifices go far beyond the loss of some jobs.

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the course of pregnancy

It's never easy

Giving birth to a baby to grow up is not just a big belly, how difficult this road is, so to speak, no one can retreat from the whole body.

In the first trimester, nausea and nausea, vomiting and dizziness, back pain...

In the second trimester, acne will turn dark, will begin to get fat, and will sleep more and more poorly.......

In the third trimester, chest tightness and shortness of breath, difficulty breathing, edema, frequent urination, and inability to find a comfortable position to fall asleep.......

No pregnant mother can easily avoid these discomforts.

When Zhu Dan was pregnant, he experienced very serious morning sickness, what to eat and vomit, he could only lie down and could not stand, and if he was not careful, he would turn over the river, and more seriously, he vomited until only stomach acid was left.

The stomach acid burned the esophagus, and the pain could only grab my mother's hand, and I felt that I couldn't hold on to it every moment when I was uncomfortable....

When Sun Yanzi was pregnant with her second child, because her belly was too big, she was breathless when she walked, her lower back and rib pain were even more daily, and her feet were swollen, which were only the slightest symptoms of many discomforts.......

Huo Siyan once gained 180 pounds when she was pregnant with Humph, which was double her weight before pregnancy, and she herself said: I was pregnant and fattened myself.

On the Internet, there are also many pregnant mothers who share the discomfort they are experiencing:

"If anyone wants to know what pregnancy is like... Today I peed on myself. ”

"This pregnancy, my constipation is really uncomfortable, I sometimes can't pull it out for days, I feel swollen and nauseous, save me!!!"

"The pregnancy is beautiful, but it also really hurts because I just cried for 30 minutes because of back pain."

"Everyday pregnancy: insomnia, body aches, bear legs, ankle fat, puffiness, constipation..."

Every pregnant pregnant mother has experienced such a situation, but when they are at their hardest, they have to accept doubts and ridicule from the outside world.

When Zhu Dan was pregnant, some people said that you enjoyed the process of pregnancy, don't talk about the bitterness of pregnancy.....

When Huo Siyan became pregnant and became fat, she was attacked by the keyboard man for "Aunt Xiang" and "Tiger Back Bear Waist".

Xie Yilin exposed her belly full of stretch marks when she was pregnant, and some people lamented that this is the real thing of pregnancy, but some people said: This belly is really terrible.

Just like a mother said: morning sickness for three whole months, back pain, wrist syndrome, measles eczema during pregnancy, periodontitis, rib pain for two months after giving birth, waist pain for more than three years... This is not terrible, what is terrible is to constantly accept the contempt and incomprehension of the people around you, this feeling is unforgettable.

Pregnant in October, no mother came easily, and the hardships of pregnancy, no one can understate it.

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Level 10 pain in childbirth

It hurts so much that people forget themselves

How painful is it for a woman to give birth?

Painful, heartbreaking, these words are difficult to describe.

It may be difficult for people who have not had children to appreciate.

But think about it, a broken finger hurts to death, not to mention that it is so small there, and a child the size of a watermelon is born!

A mother said: When I was not born, they said that kidney stone pain was grade 9 pain, I think I was in pain over level 9 that year, and level 10 should not hurt much. However, when the contractions are painful, 10 kidney stone pains are not comparable to giving birth once.

That's right, childbirth is really a grade 10 severe pain, and there is no pain to compare.

A while earlier, Ella disclosed the delivery process of giving birth to her son, and many mothers cried.

Ella was born vaginally, but her vaginal birth was not smooth at all, and after the failure of the water delivery, Ella could only transfer to the delivery bed to continue giving birth, but the labor process still did not progress.

But the amniotic water has broken and labor must be accelerated, so the doctor can only use suction cups, which suck the baby's head, and then several nurses press the stomach.

Ella said: The doctor used a suction cup to pull the child out, back and forth a dozen times, all failed, the doctor would hear a "bang" every time he pulled, but just a bunch of blood sprayed out.

After cooperating hard again and again, the pain was so painful that she roared, and finally, after more than 20 hours of labor pain, Ella gave birth to her son Jinbao, and after giving birth, Ella's belly was black and blue, and the birth canal was lacerated.

After watching Ella's video, many netizens said: This is the real pregnancy, this is the real delivery.

In the Korean drama "Postpartum Conditioning Institute", the heroine also really restored the four painful stages of childbirth.

The first stage: humiliating period to prepare the child for coming out, enema, shaving, internal examination .... Stabbed, plucked, shaved at any time, embarrassed, humiliated, with nowhere to hide.

The second stage: the animal stage, at this stage, because of the pain of contractions, the expectant mothers have changed from "humans" to "beasts" who have been crying and begging for mercy.

The heroine was defeated by wave after wave of pain, so painful that when she doubted her life, she didn't care what Ramazer breathing method, she just wanted to pinch her husband's neck and ask for painlessness.

The third stage: painless heavenly period, in this stage, the expectant mother can stay in the world for a short time, sleep, eat, rest and rest.

Stage 4: During the mad party, the stormy pain hits, and it feels like thousands of wildebeest and rhinos, plopping on your stomach and heart.

That kind of pain will hurt until people faint, it will hurt until people bite their teeth, it will hurt until people forget themselves...

Every mother carries severe pain to exchange for a new life!

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Breast milk, engorgement, cracked nipples

The hardest thing in the world is to raise a baby, and the most tired is the breastfeeding mother

It is said that it is good to give birth.

But after giving birth, I realized that the confinement was not used to rest at all.

Level 12 labor pain gives birth to a baby, and then faces various physical pains, as well as opening milk and breastfeeding.... 24 hours a day, day and night, the child cries at will.

It can be said: what is more painful than giving birth - you have to breastfeed!

Pregnancy once solicited a topic with breastfeeding mothers, the content is: What is the most painful thing about breast milk?

A mother said: The most painful thing is that the nipples hurt, first the nipples are cracked, the scabs are cracked and then the scabs are scabbed, then papillitis, white spots, milk blockage almost mastitis, and breast cramps and tingling.......

Know what it's like to have a cracked nipple?

You can imagine that there is a wound on the body, and it takes 2-3 hours to squeeze and rub repeatedly, plus a negative pressure sucking, what will be the situation? Not to mention that the nipple itself is a particularly sensitive place.

And basically every mother will encounter cracked nipples, that kind of pain, so that countless mothers are afraid when they see the baby pedaling her feet and waving her hands to breastfeed.

There is also milk blocking: "The pain of mastitis that blocked milk is estimated to be a pain that cannot be forgotten in this life." ”

But because they love their children, they grit their teeth and insist, 24 hours a day, day and night, as long as the child needs, they will pick up clothes to breastfeed, no matter how tired they are and how painful they are.

For breastfeeding mothers, whether they are full-time or returning to the workplace, they are destined to be sacrificed.

Being a stay-at-home mother means leaving work and focusing on caring for your baby.

And raising children is never a simple task.

As a netizen mother said: The difficulty of raising children has made almost every full-time mother with a baby cry.

Because of the hard work of bringing a baby, the lack of sleep, the collapse of breast milk, and the deformation of the body, it will definitely make people collapse at a certain moment.

If breastfeeding mothers want to return to the workplace and want to do both, they must become breastfeeding mothers.

And the mother-in-law in the workplace has a bitter history of blood and tears!

For the baby's rations, they have to find ways to express and store milk.

But in this era when the mother and baby room was not fully popular, they could only go to and from various small dark rooms to milk milk.

Better, there may be a private meeting room and pantry, air conditioning with door locks, and breast pump to pump milk, which is also comfortable.

But more often than not, there are no windows, no exhaust system, no locks, locks, fire escapes, and even toilets.

Those "mother-backs" who milk in toilets, utility rooms, fire escapes, are all collapsing while holding on!

Therefore, pregnancy is hard, childbirth is painful, and the days of milk babies with babies are countless collapses of day and night, this hard work and dedication should be seen the most.

Pregnant mothers hope that every mother who grows up with her baby can be treated gently!