The sea in the dream: I don't like He Hongling, but seeing that she is not doing well, I can't laugh

Once joked with friends that aside from the starring fans and passers-by audience, "The Sea of Dreams" should be more in line with the appetite of male audiences, the screenwriter understands men too well, and, the second half of the plot, simply and crudely summarized, isn't it the straight man's favorite "ex-girlfriend after the counterattack"?

It has always been said that women are jealous, but the screenwriter wrote about men's careful eyes and jealousy to the fullest, making people see that men are more terrifying when tea.

The main female characters in the play are not intrigued, even the unpleasant He Hongling, has always been only his own internal friction, Chen Can's hostility to He Hongling in the literary troupe, thinking about it, is not just simple jealousy, but more Meng Jinzhu's dissatisfaction with what he thinks is unhealthy wind.

He Hongling and Tong Xiaomei both love Xiao Chunsheng, but just like when Xiao Chunsheng and He Hongling were together in the early stage, Tong Xiaomei was able to generously appreciate and bless He Hongling, Xiao Chunsheng chose Tong Xiaomei in the later stage, and even if He Hongling was unwilling, he only revisited Xiao Chunsheng in the end, instead of competing with Tong Xiaomei.

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Speaking of which, I have to mention the famous scene of Little Red Riding Hood wearing "pure yuan clothes" at the Shichahai Ice Rink, which is also the "ex-girlfriend who hit the face after the counterattack" I imagined before the broadcast, and it was the "Spring Trough You Don't Accompany, Who Are You Coming Back in the Coming Back" before the broadcast.

The first feeling of this scene was embarrassment, everyone at the scene knew what He Hongling wanted to do, but it was unbelievable that she really did it, and even the audience outside the play couldn't help but pick their toes.

But in addition to embarrassment, the sourness I imagined was actually only a little, and more of it was melancholy.

In particular, the picture of the two chasing on the ice when they first met was still so bright and bright, but now, one of them is about to exit the scene.

It was this scene that made me deeply feel the gentleness and compassion of the screenwriter.

The screenwriter did not let He Hongling be hysterical like the usual vicious female second, nor did he let anyone taunt or humiliate her, even if it would be more bloody and sour, and the ratings were higher, but it was precisely the calm sadness that was more poignant.

She stood there quietly, watching her former lover turn away, taking the hand of another girl, tears slipping silently, not looking down, not looking down, still beautiful and proud, even the corners of her lips were perfectly curved.

Of course, she was unwilling, but just as when she first saw Xiao Chunsheng, she would ask very bluntly whether his brother had taken a fancy to her or he had taken a fancy to her, and now she would also express this unwillingness very bluntly.

After recognizing the reality that she had completely lost Xiao Chunsheng, there was no other unnecessary move.

It's embarrassing, but I think it's already a very decent exit, and this decency allows Xiao Chunsheng not to regret that he once loved her.

And Xiao Chunsheng did not say a single heavy word to her, he frankly admitted that he loved her and admitted that the past time was very important, but life cannot be repeated, and every choice they have made will push them forward.

The price of choice

Then He Hongling miscarried, as soon as the trailer came out, some people immediately said that this was a "bad woman" who refused to take care of her paralyzed boyfriend and was punished, saying that the screenwriter was full of malice towards women... Apparently, he didn't watch the drama properly at all.

Miscarriage has never been, and should not be, a punishment for women, and He Hongling is not a bad woman.

If you have to say punishment, it is also a punishment for the Ye family who cares about the heir who wants to stay, and you can't punish her with something that a person doesn't care about.

Of course, it cannot be said that He Hongling does not care about the child at all and deliberately does not want this child, after all, they are already taking folic acid.

However, after losing love, she can only put all her enthusiasm into her career, and after having to leave the literary troupe, the orchestra is her next goal.

At this time, she was pregnant, with her usual entangled personality, she wanted to have children and gain a foothold in the orchestra, if she told the Ye family that she was pregnant, perhaps she would have to leave the orchestra like she had to leave the literary troupe before, after all, in Ye Guohua, who neither understood nor respected her, fighting for a career was "suffering".

That's another reason why I can't hate her even though I don't like her.

She has ambitions to make a career in the field she loves, which will not change due to any external reasons, and love, children and even external temptations cannot stop her.

Of course, she was angry with Ye Guohua, if she would cry for the child she had never met when she first learned of the miscarriage, then when Ye Guohua later asked her why, she might have a sense of revenge in her heart.

Why? Don't you know why?

If you don't tell me when you report to my career, I can't tell you if I'm pregnant, you don't respect my wishes, why should I respect your wishes?

Such two people are destined to become grudges.

After being with Ye Guohua, He Hongling was not happy, but this was not a punishment, but the price of choice.

Choosing a difficult road or a good road actually has a price, but some costs are immediate sharp pain, and some costs are long-term dull pain.

But as long as she is willing to let go, no matter how long the dull pain will end, when she divorces Ye Guohua in the future and turns around to pursue her career, the regret of losing her child will become the freedom to go on the road easily.

The screenwriter has given He Hongling the greatest kindness, so when he saw that He Hongling was not doing well, compared to the sour feeling of "revenge for revenge", it was more sentimental, and he felt that He Hongling deserved the audience, and the road was narrow.

I also can't understand those comments that feel that He Hongling is sorry for Ye Guohua and complains for Ye Guohua, because this is also the price of his own choice.

Delongwangshu is one of the tragic roots of He Hongling, but not all.

I also once thought that if she lived well with Ye Guohua, she could also be happy, but it turned out that it was not, Ye Guohua was selfish and cowardly, and his love for her began with her appearance, and did not continue to go deeper, naturally he would never respect and support her ideals like Xiao Chunsheng back then.

He Hongling's love or not love is so obvious, Ye Guohua knew from the beginning that He Hongling only loved Xiao Chunsheng, but he didn't care at all, or even whether she was happy, he only knew that he was happy, because he had the most beautiful wife, and this brilliance was more important than anything else.

He obviously has such a good family background, but for so many years, he can only be a foil for Xiao Chunsheng, and the only two things in this life that can make him the focus of attention, one is to rob Xiao Chunsheng's military merits, and the other is to have a woman who can only look at Xiao Chunsheng.

This ability is not worthy of the ambitious Ma Bao man, and it is not a good match in the first place.

Therefore, even if she chooses Ye Guohua from the beginning, she will not be happy.

Family of origin

For He Hongling, the vast majority of viewers do not like her for two reasons:

First, she always seems to be righteous and ungrateful when she accepts help from others;

Second, when Xiao Chunsheng is likely to never stand up, she wants to break up without God's perspective, which is understandable, after all, for many people, they may have given up Xiao Chunsheng and chose Ye Guohua when their mother was hospitalized for the first time and needed surgery, and it is impossible to survive until now; But she could have slowed down first, instead of running to break up in such a hurry, and then thrust a knife when her boyfriend, who had helped her so much, fell into the lowest ebb.

Regarding the first point, there is a very interesting place is that He Mu went to Qi Tian's store, Qi Tianbai sent her some vegetables, this kind of thing is not the first time it happened, when she came last time, Qi Tian had already sent her eggs, in fact, at this time, He Hongling had married Ye Guohua, and the conditions in their family must have improved long ago.

Change it to someone else, may not be able to shirk the first time, the second time will not come to this store, after all, come is to take advantage, or the second time to come, even if the other party does not collect money to give back some other gifts, there are contacts, but He mother came empty-handed, at this time He Hongling came over, and also persuaded He mother to accept it.

The influence of the original family may not be fatal, but it is definitely profound, and as He Hongling grows older, after a round of reality tests, her mother's influence on her has indeed become more and more profound, just like Ye Fang, even if she clearly recognizes and dislikes her mother's desire to control, she is still gradually becoming her mother.

He Hongling back then was not like this, she actually rejected Qi Tian and Ye Guohua back then.

Qi Tian sent her something, she refused, but she failed to refuse;

Ye Guohua gave her something, she folded it into money, and returned it to her.

As Ye Fang said, there are two people living in He Hongling's body, one is the real her, and the other is the ideal her.

In the early stage, she had the upper hand in the ideal, she fell in love with Xiao Chunsheng, and briefly forgot the difficulties of reality, and may even have the idea of being a complete idealist for a while.

But later, the reality of her prevailed, and even killed her in turn for a while.

How did this change happen?

Ideals and realities

As soon as she appeared, everyone could see that she was an ambitious girl, but ambition is not a bad thing, and such a vitality-filled ambition is even more fascinating.

In the small world of Shichahai, there are handsome and considerate lovers who provide emotional value, she can ignore material deficiencies (and this deficiency itself is relative, not absolute), immerse herself in the enjoyment of the spiritual world, even on the Great Wall, with only one listener, she can happily play the piano.

Moreover, although Xiao Chunsheng's family lineage was not as good as Ye Guohua at that time, he was top-notch in other aspects, worthy of her attention in the crowd.

But when she joins the army and comes to the army, she sees a wider and more competitive world, and the reality that has been dormant for a long time is awakened again, she will want a bigger stage, and she will strive for it, even if it is under the condition of preserving the bottom line, using dishonorable methods.

But at this time, Xiao Chunsheng, who joined the army, not only lost the aura of the past, but also did not seem to plan for the future like her.

After Xiao Chunsheng joins the army, the audience will stand in his perspective and understand that he will gradually find that he and Ye Guohua and even He Hongling are not fellow travelers, but they ignore that Ye Guohua and He Hongling, especially He Hongling, will also become more and more clear that he and Xiao Chunsheng are not fellow travelers.

Then, it was hard not to contradict her heart, it was hard not to suffer:

At the beginning, she was obviously attracted by Xiao Chunsheng's personality, but now it is she who hopes that Xiao Chunsheng can change his personality;

Obviously, in terms of career development, Xiao Chunsheng is no longer worthy of her, but she will have a feeling that she can't catch up with Xiao Chunsheng's footsteps;

Obviously, breaking up is the most rational choice, but she just can't bear it.

The incompatibility between the two people is increasing, and her mother has to find Ye Guohua for help during surgery, which also makes her more and more aware of the gap between her thoughts and reality, which was once enough to support her spiritual comfort as an enemy of reality, gradually disappeared, and even began to become torment.

Xiao Chunsheng's injury was actually just a fuse, causing all contradictions to break out completely.

I initially thought that the choice she faced was "love and bread", but after seeing it, I felt that "ideal and reality" was more accurate.

She is selfish, but she is not vain and worships money, just like later, Ye Guohua would want to change careers and become rich because other people were doing business, but she just firmly wanted to stay in the literary troupe to play the qin.

She is not a girl who cannot endure hardships, and she can and does have "sentient drinking water".

The real test she faces is not material, but spiritual, because she increasingly finds that she cannot be as pure as Xiao Chunsheng in any way, just as Xiao Chunsheng cannot be as realistic as her in any way.

The most fundamental thing is that the three views are incompatible.

Ye Guohua compared love at first sight to Paul meeting Tonya.

But the real Paul is actually Xiao Chunsheng, He Hongling is like Tonya, it is a love when she was young, but Tonya loves Paul, but she can't love Paul's ideals, and the two can only part ways in the end.

He Hongling loves Xiao Chunsheng, just loves this person, but can't support all his ideals like Tong Xiaomei later, because she knows how difficult it is to pursue ideals, she doesn't have the courage to accompany him to chase his dreams, and she wants him to accompany her on a better path.

She must also think that she is too realistic and even a philistine is not good, so when Ye Guohua confessed to her how she was sorry for Xiao Chunsheng, she found another comfort in her spirit: Look, everyone is like this, it's not that I'm too realistic, it's that Xiao Chunsheng is too unrealistic.

The more selfless and pure Xiao Chunsheng was, the more it reflected their selfishness and darkness, so they huddled to keep warm. (In the days after breaking up with Xiao Chunsheng, she may have thought that Ye Guohua and herself were fellow travelers: although she was a little selfish and cowardly, she could also love someone from the bottom of her heart, but she was obviously wrong, Ye Guohua was far from loving her as much as she loved Xiao Chunsheng.) ）

And when Xiao Chunsheng might not be able to stand up, He Hongling felt that this time he should bow to reality like her, but he still said no.

She annoyed that she hated it, but at the same time loved it more.

In fact, the more realistic people are, the easier they are to be attracted to idealists, but they often doubt the firmness of idealists because they are not firm enough.

If Xiao Chunsheng really can't stand up and do anything in a career, she can't imagine or believe that she can afford the future of the two of them.

Love doesn't stand up to trade-offs

In fact, I don't think He Hongling dislikes Xiao Chunsheng for being paralyzed, if she hadn't broken up at the beginning, if she had chased to the train station, maybe she would be tired of such a tired life in the long time of getting along, but at least at that time, even if Xiao Chunsheng really could never stand up, she didn't want to let go, as long as Xiao Chunsheng bowed his head like her.

I saw an analysis that said that why He Hongling ran to break up with Xiao Chunsheng in such a hurry in the first place, because she finally made up her mind, afraid that if she was slower, she would be reluctant to break up again.

I think it's very reasonable, I even think that the moment she saw Xiao Chunsheng was actually not firm, Xiao Chunsheng has always been so optimistic and strong, and she seems proud but fragile and needs a lot of dependence, as long as Xiao Chunsheng is willing to coax her, even if she lies to her that I will definitely be able to stand up, she will not leave.

But at that time, Xiao Chunsheng, who was exhausted, was the one who needed to be coaxed, he really didn't have the strength to coax her, and he didn't want to coax her anymore.

The letter Xiao Chunsheng left to her before leaving had already explained everything, he had already realized that the two of them were like parallel lines, and trying to get closer to each other before was actually a futile consumption for both parties, and this injury also made him completely realize that it was time to end this cycle.

The road to pursue ideals is certainly difficult, but for He Hongling, since she has chosen to bow to reality and admit to life, she must be prepared to be pinched by reality from now on.

On the midnight streets of Kunming, in order to save Xiao Chunsheng, she once desperately tried to block the gangster's knife.

The violinist's hand was scratched like that, but that was her instinctive reaction.

If there was enough time for her to think about the trade-offs, she might not have stepped forward.

People are like this, many things can't stand up to careful thought, and the more you think about it, the more you retreat.

But the subconscious reaction is often the deepest longing in the heart, in fact, although she was injured, how happy she was at that time.

Her first reaction is always to love him, just like when she returned to Beijing many years later and saw Xiao Chunsheng again, she didn't know whether he was a successful person or a loser at this time, but as long as she saw him, she only saw him in her eyes and couldn't help but smile.

Chun Yuan's old clothes may be the rare time she still obeyed her heart's decision when she had time to weigh it, and she didn't even let herself think rationally, how would she face Ye Guohua if Xiao Chunsheng really turned back.

I don't think she just wants to turn back when she sees that his legs are good, even if Xiao Chunsheng is still in a wheelchair at this time, she will still show a smile the moment she sees him, but the next pure yuan clothes may not necessarily have.

If she is really a realist who is completely free from the beginning, then it is better, there is no need to tiptoe to reach the threshold of idealism, what is afraid is to oscillate between ideal and reality.

Her strength is just a fragile pride formed under the pursuit of everyone, in vain, the actual heart is very unfirm, mother said, the head of the group said, her inner balance will shake, and then she likes to weigh the pros and cons, repeatedly overwhelm emotions with reason, and finally let the real self kill another purer and better self.

When she rejected Ye Guohua, she once said that her father taught her not to take advantage of others, but her father died early, maybe it was born or forced by life, so her mother, who loved to take advantage of others, had a more lasting impact on her.

I don't like the character, but I can't hate her, probably because it's so real, sometimes it seems like I see that obnoxious self.

But I have to say that it is really great to have such a character full of interpretation space in film and television dramas.