Don't easily expose your savings, especially the elderly, even their own children, but also have a long heart. In old age, people cover their pockets, otherwise they will be in constant trouble.
The 56-year-old aunt has finally ushered in her retirement life, and she has been looking forward to this day for more than thirty years; The aunt is a rural teacher, at first it was only private, there was no establishment, but after her own efforts, she finally turned into a public teacher, and her income increased a lot, which made her very proud.
He has worked diligently in the workplace for more than 30 years and has also achieved certain achievements. Compared with work, my aunt is more eager to live after retirement, and she often says to my uncle: When I retire, we will travel all over the country, save a travel fund for ourselves, and then save a pension, so as not to cause trouble for our children in my old age.
The eldest aunt has two sons, the eldest son did not go to school, worked in the hometown farming, and went out to work in his spare time.
The second son graduated from graduate school, worked in the provincial capital and married a girl from the city. The second son's good performance made the eldest aunt proud, and she always said that in this life she was estimated to be stained with the light of her younger son, because the younger son studied a lot, worked well, earned a high income, and married a girl in the city.
Although the two sons are her own children, the aunt still favors the younger son from the bottom of her heart.
Not only is she partial to the younger son, the aunt also looks down on the eldest son a little, she feels that the eldest son is not productive, he studies less, he doesn't make much money, and the eldest daughter-in-law is also an authentic rural girl, how can this be compared with the younger son!
Therefore, the eldest aunt has favored the younger son and neglected the older son since she was a child.
From childhood to adulthood, whether it is food, clothing, toys, etc., the younger son is the mainstay, and the older son sometimes looks at it.
I remember once, my aunt bought a few bananas from the set, you must know that in the eighties, bananas were still rare fruits for our northern countryside; The aunt bought a pound, which is only three or four, and when she took it home, her younger son snatched it and protected it from others.
At that time, the eldest son was only eight years old, had never seen bananas, and must have been very hungry, but the younger brother did not plan to give him one.
The younger son ate bananas by himself, and the older son swallowed saliva and watched; As a mother's aunt, she turned a blind eye, not only did not blame the younger son, but also praised the younger son's ability, and he would definitely not suffer a loss when he grew up.
This incident left a shadow on the eldest son for a lifetime.
Years later, the eldest son went out to work, and his first salary was to go to the market to buy two pounds of bananas. He shed tears while eating, feeling sorry for being neglected, and envious that his brother had so many loves.
In the eyes of the aunt, the younger son is like her, studying well and having a flexible brain. The eldest son, to be honest, although he was also born by himself, is full of dislike for him.
The eldest aunt feels that she will be old one day, the eldest son cannot count on it, without that strength, only the younger son is her own dependency.
But what are the facts?
My aunt is looking forward to finally getting to retirement, and her pension is also considerable, with nearly 4,000 yuan a month, and it will continue to rise in the future.
I thought that when I retired, I could rest and play around. But many things just backfired, and the younger son wanted to take his aunt to the city, not to let her enjoy the blessing, but to help him bring the baby.
This can make the aunt sad, she is now almost sixty years old, and her health is not very good, how can she bring a baby? The aunt didn't want to go, and the younger son said: It's okay if you don't come, then we can pay for a nanny.
The aunt didn't expect her younger son to say such a thing, why let me pay for a nanny? The little daughter-in-law also said: As an old man, you will pay without contributing, which is justified.
The aunt said: I have not brought two children from your brother's family, and I have not seen your eldest brother accuse me and let me pay.
The youngest son and daughter-in-law said together: Do you think my brother has the ability to give you a pension? It is difficult for him to support his own family, so Mom, you and Dad still have to rely on us when they are old.
The aunt is right to think about it, if you are old and do not expect the younger son, then who else can you count on!
The salary of the youngest son and the younger daughter-in-law adds up to 20,000 or 30,000 yuan a month, and the eldest son's family can't earn tens of thousands of yuan, how can it be compared?
The aunt hesitated again and again, although there were a thousand reluctances, she still came to her youngest son's house with a hard head, she was afraid of offending them from her heart, and if she didn't help him watch the child now, they would definitely not care about themselves.
After living in the youngest son's house for more than half a year, the younger son did not pay a penny of living expenses, and the aunt took all her salary into it. She was very uncomfortable in her heart, but this is not enough, one day, the youngest son asked his aunt: Mom, you secretly tell me, how much money have you saved over the years of work?
The aunt didn't want to tell him, but then she thought about it, anyway, it's her own child, and she will go away in the future, and everything is not the youngest son's.
So, the aunt said to the younger son: Your father and I have saved money over the years, in addition to providing for your schooling, we have also saved a little money and prepared it for our own pension.
The younger son's eyes lit up when he heard it: How much did he save?
300,000.
What the? 300,000? The youngest son's eyes widened in disbelief: Mom, you are really rich! Better than us, you see that although we earn a lot, we can spend a lot, and we can't save much money every month.
Since the aunt told her younger son about the savings, the younger son and daughter-in-law have cried in front of the aunt with nothing to do.
Previously, he subsidized his monthly retirement salary to his younger son's family, and later, the younger son was not satisfied with spending only his aunt's salary, and he had higher goals.
One day, the little daughter-in-law said to her aunt: Mom, how do you see this house we live in?
The aunt said without thinking: It's very good, although it is a little smaller, but the surrounding facilities are quite complete, and life is very convenient.
The little daughter-in-law said: Life is very convenient, just a little small, I discussed with your son to change to a bigger one, you think, now a child is barely enough to live, in the future to give birth to a second child, a total of two bedrooms, where do you live? Therefore, if you want to change to a bigger one, you don't have enough money in hand, and you support us a little.
The eldest aunt then understood that the emotional younger son and the little daughter-in-law were the idea of beating their 300,000 deposits.
You know, these 300,000 are saved by themselves and their wife, saving food and thrift for a lifetime, and they will be used for retirement in the future, but now the little daughter-in-law wants to take out 300,000 to buy a house by herself, how should this be good.
The aunt did not want to give it, and she was afraid of offending the younger son's family; In desperation, the aunt called the uncle and asked what to do? The eldest uncle said angrily: Can't give, they earn tens of thousands a month, why are they still gnawing at the old now?
The eldest aunt listened to the words of the eldest uncle, and had an idea in her heart, and clearly said: I will not take out these 300,000.
The aunt originally thought that it would be good to refuse, but she did not expect that the performance of the younger son and daughter-in-law made the aunt heartbroken.
The younger son first fired at his aunt and said: When you are old, I don't care about you.
The little daughter-in-law wants to drive her aunt away: you go home, our family can't support you.
In this way, the aunt was driven out by the younger son.
The aunt was sad, she couldn't figure out why, her favorite young son since childhood, why did she treat her like this.
After returning home, the eldest aunt suddenly collapsed, and during the period, the eldest son and eldest daughter-in-law took care of her in front of the bed; Especially the eldest daughter-in-law, every day to wipe the aunt, bathe, comb her hair, make a meal and bring it to the bedside, wait for the aunt to finish eating, then put away the bowls and chopsticks, and help the aunt lie down. The meticulous care made the aunt very guilty, she didn't like her eldest son before, and of course she didn't like her eldest daughter-in-law, and she really hoped that her younger son would retire for herself.
But at the critical moment, he still relied on his eldest son and eldest daughter-in-law who were despised by himself to take care of him. And his beloved little son, but he didn't even make a call.
During that time, the eldest aunt thought a lot, and the more she thought about it, the more guilty she felt, and the eldest uncle also blamed the eldest aunt for not being partial and wronged her eldest son since she was a child.
Now the aunt can see that it is the eldest son who can provide for herself, so she made a decision.
What decision did the aunt make?
That is, she is ready to give all the 300,000 she saved to her eldest daughter-in-law.
When she handed the card to her eldest daughter-in-law, the eldest daughter-in-law cried, she said that she would not ask for this money, taking care of the elderly is our responsibility, and there is no need to deliberately return anything to us.
The eldest daughter-in-law's words made the aunt's heart more down-to-earth, this child, that's right.
The eldest aunt asked the eldest daughter-in-law to put the card away with peace of mind, the previous decades have been unfair to you, and I will compensate you with the days to come.
The eldest son and eldest daughter-in-law repeatedly pushed and refused to accept it, the eldest aunt was a little angry, and the eldest uncle also advised his son: Put the card at ease, we will live together in the future, your mother and I will still rely on you to take care of it, you don't accept it, and we are unstable in our hearts.
The eldest daughter-in-law accepted the card and said that the money was temporarily placed here for herself, and if you needed it someday, I would return it to you.
How can the gap between the two sons be so big!
My aunt's story tells us that as parents, the palms and backs of your hands are meat, and you must have a bowl of water flat. If you prefer one of them, it will bring indelible damage to the other that is not valued.
There is also after retirement, you must stick to your own principles, try not to tell others about your savings, and do not tell your children, because people's hearts cannot withstand the test; In old age, only people can rely on themselves.