终于把《Kevin Kelly 的《Excellent Advice for Living: Wisdom I Wish I'd Known Earlier》读完,把自己有启发的金句整理下:
About children's education
- To benefit the child, give him only half of his pocket money, but double the time spent with him.
- Read to your child regularly, it's the best "school" they can attend.
- When the child keeps asking an endless question, the smart answer is: "I don't know, what do you think?" ”
- Nurture resilient children so that they develop a sense of belonging to the family and make children proud of their unique family habits.
- Encouraging good behavior is 10 times better than punishing bad behavior, especially in children and animals.
- Keep your child behaving: Bring your child's favorite bulk candy and throw a piece out every time you misbehave.
- Be kind to your children because they will choose your nursing home.
- Let the child choose the punishment for himself and they will be tougher than you.
- Instead of asking your child "what they learned today," ask who they helped today.
Interpersonal and communication skills
- During family quarrels, disable the word "you".
- Don't keep any of your gentle compliments.
- Don't pursue people who others like you, aim to make others respect you.
- The best response to an insult: "You may be right".
- The best communication sentence is "Yes-And" (a bit like a common practice for comedians).
- Ask for feedback and you'll get a critic, ask for advice and you'll get a collaborator.
- The more interested you are in other people, the more interesting they will find you.
- When you're young, you have older friends, and when you're older, you have younger friends.
- Calm is contagious, stay calm and help others.
- Ignore what others might think of you because they don't think about you.
- Usually, speak concisely.
- Criticize privately, praise publicly.
- Be polite and don't spend a penny.
- Improving communication skills is easier and more important than improving intelligence.
- It's a humbling and courageous experience to learn from people you don't like because everyone knows what you don't.
- When speaking to an audience, it's better to look around and focus on a few people and really believe what you're saying.
- Assuming no one remembers your name, even people you've met before start with their own names.
- To reduce disputes or tensions, mimic the other person's body language.
- When you make people wait, they start thinking about all your shortcomings.
Work & Career
- One-third of the time is spent exploring something new, and two-thirds is spent optimizing and deepening what already exists.
- The first idea may be good, but usually the fifth idea works best.
- Want to get something done quickly and let a busy person do it.
- The reward for good work is more work.
- Using money to buy someone else's time is often the biggest lever to hire and outsource as much as possible.
- Low-key commitment, efficient over-fulfillment.
- Don't be the best, be the only.
- Indulging in your customers will take you further.
- If your goal doesn't have a timeline, it's a dream.
- Figure out when you have the most energy of the day, increase productivity and protect that time.
- We tend to overestimate what we can do in a day and underestimate what we can achieve in 10 years.
- Never work for someone you don't want to be.
- You can't make smart people desperate just for money.
- The best way to give advice to young people: find out what they really want to do and then suggest that they do it.
- People can't remember more than three speech points.
- Backups are cheaper than regrets.
- Finish is more important than perfection.
- It's easy to think about the weaknesses of others, it's hard to reflect on your own, but it leads to higher rewards.
- Think twice before you speak: Is this true? Is this necessary? Is it well-intentioned?
- Explaining the problem is part of the troubleshooting process.
- Manage yourself with your mind and manage others with your heart.
Innovation and creativity
- Don't edit while writing, don't reflect when writing the first draft, judging will lose creativity.
- The most inconsistent idea of cosmic intuition: the more you give to others, the more you get.
- Everything that is real begins with fiction, and imagination is the most powerful force in the universe.
- Ask seven times and you'll find the answer at the source.
- When you get stuck, go to sleep and think again, give the subconscious a task, and the next morning there may be an answer.
- Cultivate an allergy to banality.
- Don't make the same mistakes all the time, try to make new ones.
- Learn to be alone without feeling lonely, loneliness is essential for creativity.
- The best way to get the right answer: post an obviously wrong answer on the internet and wait for someone to correct you.
- When it comes to the parts you think are important, pause and let the audience absorb the details.
- Spend enough time polishing the topic, as the theme is often the only thing people read.
- Don't struggle with the old and build the new.
- Instead of bashing out what you hate, promote what you love, live short and focus on the good.
- Your strengths and weaknesses are two extremes of the same trait.
Psychology and lifestyle
- The purpose of habit is to remove self-negotiated energy expenditure.
- Don't be in a hurry, when you're in a hurry, it's easier to be scammed or manipulated.
- How to apologize: Quick, clear, and sincere.
- The secret corrupts all who hold it.
- Rest and time off are essential for top performance.
- If you have good news and bad news, say the bad news first, because the end is better than the beginning.
- You can eat any dessert you want if you only eat three bites.
- The easiest thing to do to be a good ancestor for future generations is to plant a tree.
- All-round frugality so you can splurge your passion.
- Always give praise and take responsibility quickly.
- Property buying strategy: buy the worst property on the best street.
- Your time and space are limited, cleaning up, giving away things that no longer bring you joy.
- Unhappiness comes from what you want others to have, and happiness comes from what you already have.
- Anger is not an appropriate response to anger, compassion is.
- Worries are ineffective, and 99% of what you fear won't happen.
- You can choose to be lucky by believing that you are lucky.
- A third of life is in a bed and a third in a chair, and it is worth investing in a good bed and a good chair.
- The biggest killer of happiness: comparison. If you have to compare, compare with yourself yesterday.
- If you want to go fast, go alone. Want to go far and walk with others.
- The most effective way to control anger is procrastination.
- Popular Recipe for Success: Do weird things and develop your quirky habits.
- Everything you have has a cost, and not all prices are on the label.
- Read books that your favorite authors have read.