"The wife of the chaff must not be abandoned"
The well-known singer Jiang Tao, when he was interviewed that year, once said in a loud voice: "The wife of the chaff cannot be abandoned, and I will never abandon my wife in my life." ”
And married for more than 30 years, he has always put this sentence in his heart, no matter how many trophies he has won, no matter how famous he has, his ordinary wife has always been the person he loves the most.
It's just that the couple has tasted too much suffering along the way.
Jiang Tao was born in Qingdao, Shandong Province in 1967.
Neither of his parents was an intellectual, so he could only work in a factory, and together with Jiang Tao, he had to raise three children in total, so the family's economic conditions were not good.
In fact, Jiang Tao showed musical talent at a very young age, but it was already difficult to feed and feed his family, and there was no extra money to cultivate his musical interest.
Although life is hard, this family is happy in hardship and happy, but when Jiang Tao was in the fourth grade, his parents somehow made a lot of noise all day until they divorced.
The older brothers and sisters follow their mother, and the youngest Jiang Tao follows his father.
Only father and son were left to rely on each other, and his father was especially fond of Jiang Tao, and after discovering that Jiang Tao really liked music, his father took out his only savings and sent him to the Children's Palace.
In the Children's Palace, Jiang Tao finally came into contact with professional music theory knowledge.
It's just that this knowledge is not enough to satisfy Jiang Tao's admission to a famous music college, so he was rejected in the first two college entrance examinations.
Just when the provincial cultural troupe was recruiting new people, Jiang Tao thought of trying again, but as expected, it was still unsuccessful.
A little frustrated, he found that CCTV was recruiting announcers, so he thought that he really couldn't be an announcer, but this time he met a strong opponent Wang Ning, and he also failed to get his wish.
In 1986, at the age of 19, Jiang Tao became an unemployed vagrant, following in his father's footsteps and becoming a railway worker.
Life on the railway was very boring, but fortunately Jiang Tao could sing at any time to pass the boring time, but he did not expect that his musical talent was noticed by a teacher of the railway literary troupe.
And Jiang Tao also cherished the other party's recognition, and then followed the teacher Fu every day to learn guitar, and sometimes went to the teacher's house to eat.
At that time, Jiang Tao was already a handsome guy, but unfortunately he was never in love.
One day, Jiang Tao went to the teacher's house again to learn guitar, before cooking, Shi Niang casually asked him if he had an object, Jiang Tao immediately replied no, but Shi Niang immediately called his niece and asked her to come over for a light meal.
And this niece of Shi Niang is Jiang Tao's later wife Wan Xiaomu.
When Wan Xiaomu arrived, it was still Jiang Tao who opened the door, and the moment he opened the door, he was fascinated by the pure Wan Xiaomu, and he couldn't say a word with a blushing face.
Immediately afterwards, Shi Niang asked Jiang Tao to sing a song "Hotline You and Me".
"Except for us, we don't want to take half a second, because time is never enough for us"
Under such ambiguous lyrics, two young people who have never met before, their feelings have just opened, and they have left a deep impression on each other.
In the following days, Shi Niang kept giving the little couple a chance to meet, and over time, Jiang Tao and Wan Xiaomu confirmed their relationship, and Jiang Tao learned guitar even more vigorously.
However, Wan Xiaomu's family is much stronger than Jiang Tao, and his ancestors were once famous salt merchants, although Wan Xiaomu's generation is no longer as brilliant as it used to be, but the family remnants are still not to be underestimated.
When he fell in love with Jiang Tao, Wan Xiaomu's family had always lived in a villa.
Therefore, the parents of the Wan family are very opposed to Jiang Tao's association with their daughter, but Wan Xiaomu has a deep affection for Jiang Tao, and it is still to the point that he will not marry.
In 1987, Wan Xiaomu's parents, who could not resist it, finally agreed to let them register their marriage.
The following year, their son was born and named Jiang Yukuo.
After starting a family, Jiang Tao continued to love music, and when he was a railway worker, he also composed a song "Memories of the Small Station", and the "mother" that constantly appears in the words is enough to see that he misses his mother very much.
In addition, with this song at that time, he achieved a good result of third place in the railway parade.
For the first time in his life, he achieved glory through music, and Jiang Tao's musical dream in his heart became more determined, and just as the "Joy Cup" singer competition was underway, he had the idea of going to Beijing to find opportunities.
But having married and having children, he obviously can't go to Beijing willfully, and how to let his family live well is his primary concern, so he has been suppressing this idea.
In fact, the careful Wan Xiaomu had long discovered her husband's entanglement, so after a dinner, she talked freely with Jiang Tao for a long time, and her words supported him to go to Beijing to pursue his dreams, and planned to take her son with her, so that Jiang Tao had no worries.
With his wife's support, Jiang Tao finally let go of the doubts in his heart.
In this way, the family of three embarked on the road of "North Drift".
It's just that a family of three without financial support can only rent a small room after arriving in Beijing, forcing the dark environment, which makes the pampered Wan Xiaomu very uncomfortable, but for the sake of her husband, she endured the discomfort.
Jiang Tao, who can't bear his wife's suffering, runs around many music companies day after day, but running around, no one is willing to accept him at all.
Seeing that the hard work for opportunities was fruitless, and there was little savings left in his hand, Jiang Tao could only work part-time and run the company in his free time.
Wan Xiaomu felt very sorry for her husband, seeing that Jiang Tao was not sleeping well at night, and borrowed money from his mother's family, bought Jiang Tao a good mattress, and a brand new set of quilts.
In order to save, in fact, Wan Xiaomu just bought a single mattress, and when she slept at night, Jiang Tao and her son always slept on it, and she was still lying on the mattress of the hard state.
In 1992, the fifth "Five Continents Cup" Young Singer Competition began to be held, and Jiang Tao naturally did not miss this opportunity.
After years of precipitation and hard work, Jiang Tao won the championship in this competition, and the song "Snow in My Hometown" sung by him once became the golden song of the year.
In the same year, he also released his debut album "Please Friend", which finally gained some fame.
In 1993, Jiang Tao appeared on the Spring Festival Gala in one fell swoop, sang a song "Light of the East", and was also selected as a national second-class actor.
The following year, he joined the Armed Police Cultural Labor Corps.
While his career became more and more stable, the house was also settled, and the group allocated him a small apartment of more than 60 square meters at that time, and the family of three finally did not have to squeeze into a small rental house with four walls of the family.
However, his life is only that, and there is still not much increase in salary.
In 1998, Sun Tao was already on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala for the sixth time Jiang Tao, and sang a song that really made him popular - "The Fool Moves the Mountain".
When he saw the lyrics of this song for the first time, Jiang Tao thought of his experience along the way, and every time he sang it was full of affection, and finally touched countless audiences.
Until this moment, Jiang Tao completely got rid of his poor life and became a well-known big singer.
After Jiang Tao became famous, her mother-in-law couldn't sit still, she was always worried that if her son-in-law had money and fame, she would abandon her daughter, and simply moved directly to Jiang Tao's house to live with this family of three.
Jiang Tao did not express any dissatisfaction with the arrival of his mother-in-law, but said a sentence in front of his mother-in-law: "The wife of the chaff cannot be abandoned, and I will never abandon Wan Xiaomu in my life." ”
In the years that followed, Jiang Tao practiced this oath all the time.
In the first year of popularity, he immediately paid for a property for Wan Xiaomu, and wrote Wan Xiaomu alone without writing anyone's name on the real estate certificate.
Going out, every time he entertains or performs, Jiang Tao will also report his itinerary to his wife at any time, sometimes Wan Xiaomu will be annoyed by him, but in order to make his wife feel safe, Jiang Tao is willing.
He was friends with Fu Disheng and Ren Jing, and he often went out for performances together, even in front of the couple, Jiang Tao spoke to his wife without concealment.
In terms of economy, Jiang Tao has never left money in his hands, and every time he earns the remuneration for the performance, he will call Wan Xiaomu all at the first time.
And the reason why he did this, in addition to loving his wife, there is also an aspect that Wan Xiaomu is very good at financial management.
The couple has always been Jiang Tao responsible for making money, and his wife is responsible for financial management, so that the family's money is spent on the right path, and also make some small investments appropriately to make money make money.
In fact, in this marriage, Jiang Tao not only has a lot of love for his wife, but also has a lot of regrets, after all, when he still had nothing, Wan Xiaomu accompanied him without complaint, and even followed him to Beijing to suffer.
As far as Wan Xiaomu is concerned, in addition to accompanying Jiang Tao, she has also made great sacrifices in the family.
When Jiang Tao works outside, she must take care of the housework, including raising her son, and from childhood to adulthood, almost all of Wan Xiaomu is responsible for alone.
When Jiang Yukuo was young, Wan Xiaomu signed him up for piano lessons, and every time his son practiced the piano at home, Wan Xiaomu waited on the side.
In Jiang Yukuo's high school days, in order not to let his son slack, Wan Xiaomu also found time to find 100 math problems and let Jiang Yukuo do them next to each other.
After doing all this, she had to eat again, waiting for Jiang Tao to come home and eat.
After having money, Jiang Tao knew that his wife was very hard, so he waved his hand and bought a massage instrument for Wan Xiaomu.
In addition, other families may be male protagonists and female protagonists, but in Jiang Tao's family, almost only his wife is alone, because in addition to family affairs, even Jiang Tao's business, makeup and hair and other issues are all suggestions given by Wan Xiaomu.
Seeing that the couple were so loving, the mother-in-law finally gradually let go of her heart, no longer doubting that "the son-in-law will abandon her daughter", and her relationship with Jiang Tao is also excellent.
Because his biological mother separated from him very early, Jiang Tao has always treated his mother-in-law as his biological mother.
And Jiang Tao's filial piety, of course, also touched her mother-in-law, she once said bluntly in an interview: "Jiang Tao is better to me than my own son." ”
But Jiang Tao, who has worked hard, has a regret full of grief in his life.
In 1999, Jiang Tao, who was on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, sang a song "Always Go Home and See" with Cai Guoqing and others, and countless people sat in front of the TV to enjoy the time of reuniting with their families.
But behind the stage, Jiang Tao lost his father.
Just the day before the Spring Festival Gala, Jiang Tao, who was rehearsing, received the news of his father's death, and not seeing his father for the last time became an eternal pain in his heart.
Today, Jiang Tao is 56 years old.
From the failed examinee who was rejected four times, to the boring railway worker, to the arduous North Drift, he and Wan Xiaomu suffered too much.
But life is like this, the road to chasing dreams is never smooth, you always have to go through all the ups and downs of sorrows and joys, in order to strengthen your beliefs, but also to make the moment to achieve your wishes, it is precious.
In terms of husband and wife relationship, Jiang Tao and Wan Xiaomu also told us with practical actions: "Mutual support and mutual achievement are true love." ”