The author of this article | Cao Rong
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In the workplace, you must put yourself in the right position and obey the leader's orders, rather than not taking the leader seriously, or getting too close to the leader, because it is you who suffers losses. If you challenge the authority of the leader, easily deny the leader's decision-making, hurt the leader's face, point out the leader's mistakes in public, and put forward different opinions in a hurry, or make decisions without authorization, overstep the bounds, make a high contribution, report at a higher level, take advantage of the situation, grab the leader's limelight, talk back with the leader, do not eat the immediate loss, or do not break the siege for the leader, sweep the leader's prosperity, communicate with the leader poorly, discuss the leader behind his back, listen to the leader's unspeakable secrets, and do not protect the leader's privacy, it will be impossible to win the recognition and trust of the leader. Don't even think about getting a promotion and a raise. And if you see the leader as a friend and choose the leader according to your own likes and dislikes, you will not be able to find a foothold in the office.
Talk about leadership behind your back
A few years ago, Hao Na worked as a clerk in the army, and several cadres in the company liked her more and were willing to talk to her or let her do some personal affairs for herself. In particular, the deputy instructor of the company trusted her very much, and sometimes told her about some things between the company leaders.
There were dozens of female soldiers in this company, and in order to join the party or enter the military academy, a few female soldiers tried every means to seduce the company leaders, and the deputy instructor was very disgusted by this. At that time, Hao Na was still very young, and she felt fresh and curious about these things, so later when she was chatting with a very good comrade-in-arms, she told the deputy instructor what she said. Unexpectedly, Hao Na's comrade-in-arms told the instructor her words in order to let the company recommend her to go to military school. Later, the comrade-in-arms went to the military academy as she wished, and Hao Na left the clerical post after the instructor asked her to make a seemingly affirmative but negative conversation, and returned to the newspaper detachment to do her old business.
【Trap Interpretation】
If you and your colleagues talk about the leader behind your back and reach the leader's ears, then even if you work hard and have good performance, it is difficult to get the leader's appreciation. Moreover, you have completely exposed your weaknesses and are easily exploited by those with bad intentions. And all of this can have a very negative impact on your career development.
When hearing colleagues talking about leadership behind their backs, first of all, you should advise them not to discuss leadership behind their backs, not to expand the scope of discussion, and even more not to use false rumors, intentionally or unintentionally to demean the leader or damage the image of the leader; secondly, you should try not to discuss the leadership behind your back, and when you have to make evaluations or explanations, you should only point to the end, and do not take the initiative to provoke the topic, let alone add oil and vinegar, so as not to cause unnecessary speculation and misunderstanding.
The heart of defense is indispensable, and words must look at the object. Some people themselves are the "red people" in front of the leader, they are not separated from the leader, and if you talk about the leader in front of them, you are not throwing yourself into the net. Some people are selfish, specially collecting colleagues' dissatisfaction with the leader, and then asking for merit and reward in front of the leader to achieve personal goals. The way to deal with such people is to pretend to be deaf and dumb and not let them grasp the pigtails. In short, whether you are intentional or not, it is not right to talk about leadership behind your back.
Listen to the unspeakable secrets of the leader
Li Yan works as an accountant at a small renovation company. The owner of the company is surnamed Hai, and everyone affectionately calls him "Hai Ge". Due to the start-up and small scale of the company, there was not much business at the beginning. But Hai Ge is good, often staying up late with employees to catch up with work, when tired, he will find a place to lie down, and when he is hungry, he will cook instant noodles with them to fill his hunger. After each job, Haige would pull the employees out to celebrate. Since the company is just starting out, they are still very happy to do a good job even though their salaries are not high.
Hai Ge is a man of letter. At first, the company operated smoothly and the salary could be paid in time, but due to the fierce competition, when Li Yan came to the company's fifth month, the business was somewhat improved, but it was not ideal.
In the month that followed, although the company took a few orders of business, it did not make much money. At this time, a large customer who has cooperated with the company for a period of time has found an excuse to default on the decoration payment, so that the funds cannot be connected, and the company is in trouble for a while. Hai Ge was anxious like an ant on a hot pot, swirling around.
One day, Li Yan went to Haige's office to report on his work, and as soon as he arrived at the door, he heard him arguing loudly with a customer inside. Li Yan was inconvenient to go in, he listened outside for a while, it turned out that the customer was picky about the company's work was not done well, and strongly asked the company to send someone to rework, if Hai Ge did not agree, he not only did not pay the honorarium, but also complained to the Consumer Association.
Only to hear Hai Ge say with a pleading tone: "Dude, recently I am tight on hand, if you think that our decoration has a problem, you can pay half of the decoration first, and the other half of the decoration can be repainted according to your requirements." I'm going to be paid tomorrow, and a few young people are following me day and night, and I can't make them hungry! ”
When Li Yan heard these words, his heart was very unhappy. In his eyes, Hai Ge is a very humane person, and he has always treated Hai Ge as if he were his own brother. Thinking of this, Li Yan turned around and returned to the office, telling his colleagues what he had just heard. After listening to it, everyone felt that they should share the worries and difficulties for Haige at this critical moment, and after discussion, they decided that this month's salary should not be removed first, so they entrusted Li Yan to tell Haige.
Half an hour later, Li Yan knocked on Hai Ge's office. Only to see hai ge's face blue, a person there sullenly smoking, Li Yan realized that he had not talked to the customer just now. When Hai Ge saw Li Yan come in, he smiled bitterly and still did not speak. Li Yan said softly: "Brother Hai, don't worry, we know that this month's capital turnover is difficult, and the salary can be deferred for one month." I believe that through our efforts, the company's business will get better and better. Listening to Li Yan's words, Hai Ge's tight frown suddenly stretched. He said movingly: "Thank you, just wronged you." However, please rest assured that I will raise funds as soon as possible and will definitely pay you a salary next month. ”
Then Hai Ge seemed to ask very casually, "Li Yan, how did you know that I had difficulty in capital turnover?" Li Yan thought to himself that he must not say what he had just heard about his conversation with the customer, because eavesdropping on other people's conversations was not good after all. So, he smiled and said, "Don't ask, I only found out by chance." Hai Ge saw that Li Yan did not answer him head-on, and his face showed a trace of displeasure, but he did not say much.
A month later, Haige paid back the previous month's salary on time. To make up for his guilt, he also invited employees to an entertainment center for a night of revelry.
Since then, everyone's enthusiasm for work has been higher. Young people with innovative and pioneering spirit, once all the energy is released, the resulting synergy is amazing, so with everyone's efforts, the company's various businesses are getting better and better, and gradually embark on the track of a virtuous circle.
Who thought that Hai Ge, who had always been kind in Li Yan's eyes, somehow opened a knife to him. In a later business, due to his negligence, the company suffered some losses, and Haige actually used this as an excuse to fire Li Yan. Although the colleagues who started the business together tried their best to say good things for him, Hai Ge showed unprecedented toughness, and did not seem to consider that Li Yan was an old minister who fought with him in the world. In desperation, Li Yan had to leave this small decoration company full of grievances.
Although Li Yan is gone, he has been in contact with his original colleagues. They often come out to get together during breaks, drink wine, and chat. Once, during their dinner together, an old colleague who had a good relationship with Li Yan said to him: "At a dinner party in the company, Hai Ge drank too much, inadvertently revealing the real reason for dismissing you: he did not understand how you knew that he had difficulty in capital turnover, he said that it was terrible to like to listen to the leader's unspeakable employees, and in front of such employees, he was like no clothes." ”
Listening to his colleague's words, Li Yan was suddenly speechless. When I stumbled upon Hai Ge's unspeakable secret, I wanted to help him relieve his worries, but I didn't expect that my kindness was not well rewarded, and I actually became a ghost under his knife.
Many professionals believe that if they can put themselves in the shoes of the leader, then they will get the weight and trust of the leader. Therefore, they spend a lot of time to listen to the leader's unspeakable secrets, so that they can walk in front of the leader at the first time and share the worries and difficulties for the leader. However, they did not think that the leader is the leader, and the leader needs to maintain his dignity and status in front of his subordinates, so the leader is most afraid to make his unspeakable secrets public. Therefore, subordinates who like to listen to the leader's unspeakable secrets will naturally become a thorn in the leader's eye and a thorn in the flesh. With such subordinates around, the leader has a feeling of being on his back and will want to get rid of them quickly.
Therefore, as a professional, you must not listen to the unspeakable secrets of the leadership, even if you know the unspeakable secrets of the leadership, you should not go around making noises, but rotting in the stomach. In this way, you will not become the object of leadership taboos, and your workplace safety will be guaranteed.
Does not protect the privacy of leaders
Guan Qi had just graduated from college and came to a city to look for a job. She majored in computer science, so her resumes are from companies that work on software development. After the resume was submitted, she began to look forward to hearing back.
Three days later, Guan Qi received a call from a company asking her to go to the company for an interview. After the one-hour interview, the interviewer directly informed her to take the re-examination held two days later. The re-examination is presided over by the vice president of the company.
The re-examination began, facing the vice president, Guan Qi was calm and unhurried, with a confident look. When the two talked about their profession, Guan Qi was even more confident and calm. Two hours passed, and the vice president smiled satisfactorily and held out his hand to welcome her joining.
Guan Qi is very happy, this company is a very famous company in the industry, and working in this company is something that many people dream of.
The next day, Guan Qi happily went to the company to report, and according to the arrangement of the vice president, she was assigned to the company's technical department. Because Guan Qi was modest and studious, her hands and feet were diligent, and she left a deep impression on the supervisor, the supervisor decided to vigorously cultivate her. After a long time, the two people slowly became acquainted. Sometimes, the supervisor will also talk to Guan Qi about some more private topics. Guan Qi only regarded himself as a supervisor as a caring person.
Since their homes are all in the same direction, the supervisor always let Guan Qi hitchhike with him. In this way, the relationship between the two people seems to become more special. To this end, the company's colleagues still have some criticism of them. But Guan Qi did not take these things to heart, she thought that she had not done anything wrong, of course, she was not afraid of ghosts knocking on the door.
Soon, the company planned to develop a new project, so the employees of the technical department began to work day and night. At this time, Guan Qi was already a core member of the technical department, so her workload was much more than other colleagues in the department, and every night after work, the other colleagues left, but she had to stay and work overtime.
Once, after the employees of the technical department finished their shifts, the supervisor asked Guan Qi and his colleagues to go first, and he stayed to deal with something. At this time, it was already very late, and Guan Qi was already hungry. She walked out of the company and went directly to the opposite restaurant to order bowl noodles, eating and eating, she suddenly remembered that the supervisor had not yet eaten, so she bought a box lunch and returned.
Guan Qi came to the supervisor's office, saw that the door was not closed, she did not think about it, and directly broke in. She was dumbfounded by what she saw, and a charming-looking female colleague was sitting in the arms of her supervisor. Suddenly, the atmosphere in the room became awkward, three people, you look at me, I look at you, I don't know how to be good. Guan Qi fixed his mind, pretended to be indifferent, and rushed out of the office with a red face.
Walking on the road, Guan Qi regretted it very much, she regretted that she should not buy a box lunch for the supervisor and send it back, and even more regretted that she did not knock on the door and directly broke into the supervisor's office. Remorseful, Guan Qi did not sleep all night.
The next day, Guan Qi walked into the company with a hard scalp, and she was a little uneasy in her heart. She didn't know how to face the supervisor and the female colleague, although she tried to pretend that nothing had happened, but she already felt that the female colleague was deliberately alienating herself, and the supervisor also changed her usual style and became polite, and after work, she would not let Guan Qi hitchhik.
Guan Qi thought left and right, not knowing how to be good. She thought to herself that the supervisor must be worried that she would spread the word about this matter and have a negative impact on him. In order to show her attitude, it is also a reassuring pill for the supervisor, she sent a text message to the supervisor: I am a tight-lipped person, and I will never say this matter, please be assured.
Guan Qi thought that as long as she did not mention it, this matter would pass forever, but what surprised her was that a few days later, this matter actually spread in the company, and every employee of the company was talking about it and turning heads and ears. It turned out that the supervisor forwarded the text message sent to him by Guan Qi to the female colleague, and the female colleague was distracted because her "good thing" was discovered by Guan Qi, and forgot the mobile phone in the office. Another female colleague, out of curiosity, checked the female colleague's mobile phone information to know about the matter, and she passed it on to other colleagues.
At this time, the supervisor's attitude towards Guan Qi has changed drastically, and Guan Qi can only be indefensible.
Soon, the company set up a branch in the field, and Guan Qi was transferred. Although Guan Qi was full of complaints, he could not change the facts.
Every professional has privacy and doesn't like their privacy to be made public, especially leaders. When you inadvertently discover the privacy of the leader, you become the person who makes the leader feel uneasy. At this time, in order to protect yourself, the leader may take you as a victim.
Some professionals even naively think that discovering the privacy of the leader is equivalent to grasping the leader's "pigtails", so that the leader will please himself or favor himself. In fact, this kind of thinking is stupid. You know, no one likes to feel threatened by someone else, and this is especially true for powerful leaders. For a powerful leader, your presence is like a thorn in his body, and his insecurity will prompt him to pull out your thorn as soon as possible.
Therefore, for the privacy of the leader, you must keep your mouth shut, or even pretend to be deaf and stupid. Only in this way can you let the leader completely dispel the guard against you; only then will you not have to worry about the privacy of the leader all day long or think wildly.
See leaders as friends
Yu Yue graduated from a famous business school, and due to her excellent grades, she was hired as a sales director by a private enterprise to be responsible for the company's sales network construction. Seeing that the leaders used themselves so much, Yu Yue worked very hard, the company's sales performance climbed steadily, and the profit doubled several times than before.
The female boss was pleased with the eyebrows, promoted Yu Yue to vice president of marketing, and often greeted Yu Yue in ordinary life, and the two people seemed to have become a pair of good sisters who did not talk about anything in the eyes of employees.
However, the good times were not long, Yu Yue was proud of her close relationship with the female boss, and the treatment of work became more and more sluggish, and then caught up with the global financial crisis, the sales performance fell sharply, the company suffered huge losses, the female boss was furious, and ruthlessly swept Yu Yue out of the house.
Perhaps, in your eyes, the leaders in life are gentle and personable, gentle and close to their subordinates, and seem approachable and suitable for being friends. However, these are only your wishes. The workplace is like an ecosystem, and survival of the fittest is the only law. Friendship with the leader is both a real luxury and a fragile product that is cracked at the touch.
The good relationship between leaders and subordinates is based on common interests, and any leader's careful care and booing of subordinates will not be separated from the most essential problem - interests. Encouragement, praise, and warm words are just a means for leaders to manage their subordinates more effectively. In the eyes of the leader, there are no eternal subordinates, only eternal interests; in the dictionary of leadership, there are no eternal friends, no eternal enemies, and whoever can bring economic benefits to the unit can get the courtesy of their friends. Leaders are the most rational realists in the world, and behind their approachability and gentleness there are always only two words: interests.
Admittedly, if you can make your leaders call yourself brothers and sisters, then it will definitely be of great benefit to your future career development. But one thing you must remember is that you are not a friend of the leader, and you can only get the leader's appreciation if you make full use of all your abilities to make money for the unit. Once the unit spends more on you than you can provide in return, then the so-called "friendship" between you and the leader will disappear without a trace.
Get too close to the leader
When Dong Ming first joined a pharmaceutical company, he was assigned to the Chinese medicine group of the purchasing department. The leader of the Chinese medicine group is named Xu An, who is not only experienced and capable, and is deeply appreciated by the manager of the purchasing department, but also never calls Dong Ming around like a "rookie", but cares for Dong Ming everywhere. Dong Ming secretly rejoiced that he had met a nobleman, and his eyes were full of gratitude to him.
The first time Xu An took Dong Ming on a business trip, he purchased a batch of traditional Chinese medicines for the company. When negotiating with the supplier Zhang Zong, Xu An was at ease and forced the other party to reduce the price from time to time. And Dong Ming wants to take the opportunity to work hard, find out all kinds of reasons, desperately suppress prices, and must fight for everything, Zhang Zong's face is red, and some are overwhelmed. Just when Dong Ming was proud, he suddenly found that Xu An not only stopped making a sound, but also had a gloomy face. As a result, the negotiations broke up unhappily. Dong Ming wondered: Is there anything wrong with fighting for the interests of the company?
In the evening, Xu An handed Dong Ming a red envelope and said calmly: "Zhang Zong gave it." Dong Ming suddenly realized that this was clearly a loss of public wealth and private interests, in case the company knew, the quasi-guarantee was fired. Xu An seemed to see through Dong Ming's thoughts, so he comforted: "Don't worry, as long as our brothers don't say it, no one knows." Besides, even if we don't take kickbacks, Mr. Zhang will not reduce the price, this is the industry rule, slowly you will understand. ”
Since the matter had already been spread out, if Dong Ming did not take it, it would be equivalent to making an enemy of Xu An. Therefore, in addition to accepting the red packet, Dong Ming had no second choice.
The next day's negotiations were particularly smooth, and after signing the contract, Mr. Zhang was overjoyed and personally sent Xu An and Dong Ming to the airport. Back to the company, everything is business as usual.
Next, every time Dong Ming followed Xu An out to purchase, they tacitly agreed with each other, and the common interests brought their relationship closer. It's just that Dong Mingyin is a little worried, afraid that one day the East Window incident will occur.
More than half a year passed, and the thing That Dong Ming was most worried about did not happen, but another thing happened. The original purchasing manager sought another high, and before leaving, he recommended Xu An to the company. Upon hearing the news, Dong Ming was so excited that he did not sleep well all night, and he thought that his spring was coming.
Xu An successfully became the manager of the purchasing department. Unsurprisingly, on the day he took office, he handed over all the procurement business in his hands to Dong Ming. Dong Ming is just a newcomer who has only been here for more than half a year, and to get Xu An's weight, colleagues are naturally a little jealous, but there is nothing they can do. Everyone can see that Dong Ming is Xu An's "confidant".
Not long after, people in the office suddenly panicked, rumors that the company was about to lay off employees, and the purchasing department was going to lay off half of the staff. Dong Ming deliberately ran to ask Xu An, and Xu An said to him meaningfully: "You just have to work with peace of mind, with me here, you don't have to think about it." After eating this reassuring pill, Dong Ming was no longer worried about the sky.
One Monday morning, as soon as Dong Ming arrived at the company, he was told to go to the general manager's office. When the general manager saw Dong Ming come in, he took the initiative to shake hands and personally poured tea, which made Dong Ming's heart straight. The conversation was brief, no more than 5 minutes, and Dong Ming didn't know exactly what the general manager had said, but he understood one thing: he was laid off by the company and was the first to get out.
Dong Ming immediately went to xu an and wanted to ask for the truth, but he did not come to work, called his mobile phone, and also turned off. There is no doubt that Xu An had already planned. Angry, Dong Ming wanted to go to the general manager and expose Xu An's laodi, but just after taking two steps, reason pulled Dong Ming back. After all, I was also involved in those things, and once I shook it out, didn't I lift a stone and drop it on my own feet? Dumb eats Huang Lian, Dong Ming can only leave in disgrace.
Dong Ming's first career ended inexplicably, but he has been wondering why Xu An had to kick himself out?
Professionals who base their future on close relationships with leaders often want to make a good impression on leaders. They usually think that as long as they and their leaders get along like friends, they will naturally get the opportunity for promotion and salary increases in silence. However, this is a workplace trap. Because if you get too close to the leader, optimistically you are his "confidant"; but from a pessimistic point of view, you are also his confidant.
Choose leaders based on their own likes and dislikes
Qiu Lingsu is a college graduate who has just entered the workplace, and she is full of longing and vision for the future. She always imagined that she could become an executive of a multinational company in a few years and buy herself a spacious and beautiful house.
The first leader Qiu Lingsu met was an old gentleman, who looked gray-haired, but mentally sound, amiable, and approachable. This old gentleman is very sympathetic to his subordinates, never throws a tantrum at his subordinates for no reason, even if the subordinates really make any mistakes, he only calmly and calmly says a word.
Once, the old gentleman was going out for a meeting and instructed Qiu Lingsu to go with him with the documents he needed for the meeting. The time was urgent, and Qiu Lingsu panicked and went out with him before he had time to prepare. However, when she arrived at the venue, she found that she had forgotten to bring the documents. She was dumbfounded, anxious like an ant on a hot pot. She thought that if she had made such a big mistake, this old gentleman would definitely criticize himself harshly, and if he didn't want to fire his own squid. However, what made her dare not believe was that the old gentleman not only did not blame her, but also comforted her a few words. Only then did Qiu Lingsu's dangling heart fall to the ground. On the way back, she thought left and right, thinking that she was really lucky to be able to meet such a good leader. Because many of her friends have complained to her about how harsh their leaders are, how harsh they are, it is almost like Yama Wangye who has no smiley face all day. She was so happy thinking about it. So she made up her mind to follow the old gentleman and do a good job.
And just like that, 3 years have passed. When he was idle, Qiu Lingsu began to worry about his future life. Because although she has been working in this company for 3 years, she has no savings at all, and she still lives in a rented house. Every time his parents came to see him, he was always crammed into a small house only 8 square meters in size, which made Qiu Lingsu feel very overwhelmed. Think about what you have gained in the past 3 years? Is it just the old gentleman's friendly attitude towards himself? Think rationally, is this friendly attitude really good for you? After working for 3 years, not only did he not save up, but he also developed a lot of loose habits, Qiu Lingsu felt that it was really unbearable to look back, and the good time of 3 years was wasted in vain. Looking at the friends who came out with him to find a job, all of them have been promoted, raised, and even some have bought houses and cars, and then look at themselves are simply poor, Qiu Lingsu regrets that he did not heed the advice of his friends to leave the company early. So, a few days later, she handed the old gentleman her resignation report.
Qiu Lingsu's second leader was a German. When she first met the German leader, his grim face was deeply rooted in her heart. Every day when he saw that unsmiling face, Qiu Lingsu was inexplicably nervous. Once, the German leader wanted to go abroad for a meeting and asked Qiu Lingsu to book him a plane ticket, but Qiu Lingsu ignored the jet lag problem, so that he missed the important meeting. This German leader was furious at that time, and criticized Qiu Lingsu bitterly, and she was nervous and afraid, and her tears kept flowing down.
But the strange thing is that since then, this German leader has not only always assigned work tasks to Qiu Lingsu, and seems to have completely forgotten the serious mistake she had made before, but also called her at any small meeting, and if she did not ask questions or express opinions at any meeting, he would feel that the meeting was not thorough. Slowly, Qiu Lingsu became acquainted with the German leader, and sometimes even dared to argue with him about certain issues. In these constant arguments, Qiu Lingsu found that not only did his work ideas become clearer and more eloquent, but even his courage became bigger and bigger. However, once when this German leader habitually threw angry and did not say anything at the meeting, the embarrassed Qiu Lingsu could not bear it, and actually jumped up in front of many people and jumped up and said, "What are you shouting?" and then resigned indignantly. When he calmed down, Qiu Lingsu thought about it carefully, and then he felt that although he had only worked under this German leader for one year, he had truly grown.
Qiu Lingsu's third leader was a handsome young man. He had a successful career and a promising future, and almost every executive liked him, including her. But when she began to be a little confused about whether she was more appreciating a good leader or appreciating a good man, when she was more and more accustomed to using this leader as a reference to be harsh on her boyfriend, she knew that she should change jobs, because leaders were not liked.
After resigning, Qiu Lingsu applied for a job as a general manager's secretary. The general manager asked her, "What kind of leadership do you like?" She replied: "The leader is not liked, but the person who can help me grow, and I can't choose the leader according to my own likes and dislikes." ”
In the eyes of many professionals, "good leaders" are usually those who see people love "and Mr. Slime", they all have amiable, approachable characteristics, employees are not completed tasks, they not only do not blame, but also give comfort; employees make mistakes, in their view is not worth the fuss, they will think that no one is perfect, everyone has to make mistakes, so they always smile and give understanding. And those leaders who are strict with employees, treat their work meticulously, and try to pursue perfection have become typical "bad leaders". In the eyes of employees, they are always serious, demanding, highly principled, and critical. Therefore, working under the "bad leader", employees are always nervous, nervous, cautious, afraid of what is wrong. However, countless facts show that the execution of the teams led by "bad leaders" is far superior to the execution of teams led by "good leaders". Working under the "bad leader", you will learn a lot from it and make obvious progress; while working under the "good leader", your inertia will become more and more, your enthusiasm for work will become weaker and weaker, and in the long run, you will gradually degenerate invisibly.
So, for those who aspire to succeed in the workplace, choosing a "bad leader" is the wisest choice. Remember a saying: Leadership is not liked, and you can't choose leaders based on your own likes and dislikes.
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