The strong show weakness, the rich give benefits, and the wise keep foolishness
Anything is too full,
It's easy to get into trouble.
Author: Insight July
Zheng Banqiao once said:
It's hard to be smart, it's hard to be confused, and it's even harder to turn from smart to confused.
Let go, take a step back, be at peace of mind in the moment, and be blessed later.
Looking at the world, smart people abound, but they often don't get cheap when they do their best, and they can live a confused life but can go far and steady.
People who are truly wise know how to show weakness, give advantage, and guard humility.
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The strong show weakness: advance by retreat
There is a famous "law of weakness" in psychology:
In life, the more aggressive the person, the easier it is to stimulate the resistance of others.
People who know how to show weakness can overcome rigidity with softness and win favorable situations for themselves.
In "Luding Ji", Wei Xiaobao came from a humble background, but he could become the emperor's confidant because he knew the principle of "advancing by retreat".
When he first joined the Heaven and Earth Society, the gang members wanted to elect him as the chief helmsman.
Wei Xiaobao knew in his heart that once the gang was exposed, he would inevitably bear the brunt of it, so he took the initiative to lower his posture and politely refused:
My brothers have seen a lot, and I have eaten more salt than I have eaten rice, and I have no skills, so I am afraid that it will be difficult to take on the task.
He blended into the palace and became a favored courtier around the emperor, and he was even more convergent and weak.
When reading the article, he deliberately said the wrong idiom, and secretly bent his knees when he was taller, but the emperor did not dislike him in his eyes, but was closer to him.
With his humility and weakness, Wei Xiaobao was reused by the emperor and has since soared.
As the saying goes: arrogant people always want to prove themselves, and good people like to hide themselves.
Blindly competing in case of trouble, it is easy to lose the square inch and lose the pattern;
And those who know how to back down dare to put down their arrogant figures, and finally use their strength to achieve things and go straight to Qingyun.
Acknowledging at the right time, judging the time and sizing up the situation, and cultivating obscurity is not only a wise move, but also a kind of preservation for oneself.
Wang Yi was a famous general of the Qin state, and his military talent was very prominent.
When the King of Qin ordered him to attack the state of Chu with the help of the whole country and promised him fame and fortune, Wang Chong pretended to be terrified, saying that he only wanted the land to buy a house for his descendants.
Wang Chui's subordinates were puzzled and ridiculed him for not having big ambitions, but Wang Chong said: "King Qin is suspicious, now that he has handed over the national army to me, if I still want fame and fortune, it will definitely lead to trouble."
It is better for me to take the initiative to take a stand and dispel his doubts on the grounds that he has invited more Tian Zhai to buy a house for his descendants, and he may escape the disaster. ”
Two years later, Wang returned victorious, and the King of Qin, seeing that he had no two hearts, gave him many fields as promised, and Wang Chong was able to spend the rest of his life in peace.
The literary scholar Li Kang once said: "If wood is shown in the forest, the wind will destroy it; If the pile comes from the shore, the stream will be turbulent; Walk higher than man, and all will not do it. ”
Han Xin was able to endure the humiliation of his crotch, so he was made an official and knighted, and his reputation was made to future generations;
Yang Xiu didn't know how to bow his head at the right time, and finally because he was too strong, he attracted the scourge of killing.
In life, if you are too strong, it is easy to break, and if you are too strong, it is difficult to last.
Good at lowering eyebrows, lowering posture, seemingly compromising and losing, but can win further opportunities.
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The rich give profit: give for it
Kazuo Inamori once said:
Success or failure in life, everything, in the final analysis, depends on whether we can give full play to our "altruism".
The essence of altruism is actually self-interest, and how much altruism a person has means how much wealth he can have.
People who have been poor for a long time always keep money like slaves, live frugally, do not give up money, and eventually cannot get out of life's difficulties;
The rich know how to benefit others, so they win people's hearts, expand more contacts, and eventually master the wealth code.
During the Kangxi period of the Qing Dynasty, Laiyang had the richest man named Zuo Wensheng.
He was just a small trader earlier, but by chance, he met a squire from a foreign country named Zhou Jixian.
The two shared similar interests and soon became friends and began to do small business together.
Once, Zhou Jixian went out on an errand, entrusted 30 yuan to Zuo Wensheng to resell the goods, and said that he would pay 3 cents of interest at the market price at that time.
Unexpectedly, soon after, there was a shortage of money on the market, the price of money increased, and the interest increased several times.
When the settlement at the end of the year, Zuo Wensheng took the initiative to settle to Zhou Jixian at a high price, and Zhou Jixian originally wanted to shirk, but Zuo Wensheng said:
Business should be done according to the rules of the market, the capital is yours, and the extra interest should also be yours.
Zhou Jixian was deeply touched and took the initiative to introduce his contacts to Zuo Wensheng, and Zuo Wensheng soon became the richest man in the local area by virtue of his business methods that benefited people.
As the saying goes, "When wealth is scattered, people gather, and when wealth is gathered, people are scattered." ”
I always want to hold the interests in my hands, and I refuse to give in at all, and I will eventually block my own future.
Those who learn to give for the benefit of others, and truly put the interests of others first, will never suffer.
In the late 90s, affected by the financial crisis, a Japanese supplier came to Cao Dewang, hoping that he could buy more glass from him.
At that time, everyone thought that Cao Dewang would take the opportunity to lower the price, but he did not expect that he had entered a lot of glass at a price higher than the market price.
Cao Dewang explained: "When others are in difficulty, we have to help, give away the benefits, and it doesn't matter if we earn less." ”
Later, after the financial crisis, the price of glass began to rise, but the Japanese supplier still sold to Cao Dewang at the original price, and the two cooperated for many years and finally achieved a win-win situation.
Zeng Guofan once wrote in his book: "Profit can be shared but not alone, and independent benefit is defeat." ”
It is human nature to chase profits, and it is human nature to only want to monopolize and not share, which is bound to attract resentment.
Those who achieve great things are well aware of the principle of giving for gain, and leaving some benefits to others is to give long-term benefits to themselves.
Less greedy for self-interest, more concession to others, and those who are willing to suffer losses, the future wealth path can become broader and broader.
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The wise keep foolishness: to flex and stretch
Lin Yutang once said: "When wisdom reaches the extreme point, when you see the harm of wisdom, you retreat to foolishness and hide your humility to complete your body." ”
In life, there are always some people who think that they are smart, show their talents everywhere, and show off their achievements.
As everyone knows, exposed intelligence is not real wisdom, and people who are too shrewd are often mistaken by cleverness.
During the Three Kingdoms period, there was a man named Ma Chen, who had been familiar with military books since childhood and prided himself on being talented.
While guarding the street pavilion, he overturned all the original deployments in order to show off his talents, and often boasted to his subordinates.
But in the end, because he had no actual combat experience, soon the street pavilion was lost, and he was also sent to death in prison.
Su Shi once composed: "If you ask the envoy and the skill, what is it?" It is foolish to occupy the world. ”
True wise people never regard talent as boastful capital, but hide and guard everywhere.
This seemingly stupid approach is precisely the expanse of the world, and it is also the understanding of human feelings.
Only by knowing the wisdom of foolishness and not being swayed by low-level wisdom can we focus on accumulating strength and tending to the heights of life.
Xun Fu was known as Cao Cao's "mastermind", with outstanding military talents and brilliant schemes.
However, when he offered advice, he would always deliberately make some obvious small mistakes that needed to be corrected and corrected by Cao Cao.
Everyone else said: It's really stupid to bother Cao Gong with this little thing.
But Xun Yu disagreed, and still got along with Cao Cao as a fool.
When he died, Cao Cao was deeply saddened and posthumously named him "Marquis Jing".
Lao Tzu once said: "A gentleman is as good as a fool." ”
People with profound wisdom often represent people with humility.
They are not domineering, they are not in a hurry to achieve quick results, they are not bombastic.
The world thinks that it is empty and nothing, but they do not know that this is the highest state of cultivation with foolishness.
There are too many troubles in the world, you may as well be confused, not only save a lot of troubles, but also make life easier.
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Lao Tzu once said, "It is better to hold on to it than to make a profit; It cannot be preserved for a long time. ”
It is better to stop at the right time to hold on to the fullness; The edge is too exposed, and the sharp momentum is difficult to maintain for long.
Doing too much is easy to get into trouble.
If you want to be comfortable in life, you need to back down at the right time.
Head down when it's time to bow your head, give profit when it's time to give up, and confuse when it's time to be confused.
When you are able to take it in your stride and hold on to yourself, you will find that every step you take to back down is paving the way for yourself.
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