People who do not entangle in case of trouble are Ji people, and Ji people have their own natural appearance!
The first verse of the "I Ching", the first word: the sixth year of the first year: not forever deeds, small words, the end of auspicious.
What does that mean? It is not to dwell on the matter of litigation for a long time, with a slight verbal friction, but in the end it is auspicious.
The lawsuit represents a dispute, the yin is in a soft position, and the submissive character means that it will not continue to entangle people for a long time, there may be some verbal disputes, but in the end it will be auspicious.
During the Warring States period, Zhao Guolin and Lianpo will have a discord, but the two are not vindictive to the end, but reconcile halfway, so that Zhao Guo can keep safe.
During the Warring States period, King Zhao Huiwang, the king of the State of Zhao, owned a piece of "Heshi Bi", and the King of Qin wanted to take it for himself. In order to keep the Heshi Wall, King Zhao chose Lin Xiangru to go to the Qin state. Lin Xiangru lived up to his mission and "returned to Zhao after the wall", and since then, he has been reused by Zhao Guo. Later, he also became the Xiangguo of the State of Zhao.
The state of Zhao had a great general with outstanding combat achievements named Lianpo. He saw that Lin Xiangru did not have any battle merits, and actually became Xiangguo, which was even bigger than his own official, so he was very unconvinced in his heart, and often looked for faults and squeezed Lin Xiangru. However, Lin Xiangru affirmed his righteousness and knew that if he quarreled with Lianpo, it would be harmful to the interests of the country, so he ignored Lianpo's practice and treated him very politely. Although Lian Po is a rough man, he is very honest, and after understanding that he is wrong, he decides to plead guilt to Lin Xiangru, and the contradiction between the two is resolved, and the two finally become friends.
Do not entangle others, the sea and the sky.
Conflicts between people are inevitable. After a contradiction occurs, the best way is to resolve the contradiction as soon as possible, achieve reconciliation, and end the struggle in a state of "speech", rather than expanding and continuing the struggle.
During Su Shi's demotion to Huangzhou, life was difficult and there was nothing to do, and one night, Su Shi saw the moonlight entering the door, and he was happy in his heart, so he went to Chengtian Temple to find his old friend Zhang Huaimin to enjoy the moon together.
For this reason, he wrote "Night Tour of Ji Chengtian Temple", he said, which night is there no moonlight? Where is there no bamboo and cypress? It's just a lack of idle people like the two of us. In life's difficulties, he can also enjoy the moon leisurely. The open-mindedness of not paying attention to everything allows him to look at right and wrong freely.
If conditions permit, move on. If not, just stop and take a look at the scenery. In the face of right and wrong, many people are entangled, unable to jump out of the net they have woven for themselves, and cannot see the bigger world. How can you open up new situations if you are confined to a small circle? Others are jealous of gossip, do you care? If so, what's the difference between you and that person? Jumping out to see the jealousy of others, you will find that it is an extremely ridiculous thing, and you will not waste precious time and energy in entanglement, and the world is naturally vast.
Don't entangle yourself and make your life more exciting!
Lian Po and Su Shi are both smart people. Because they understand that if you are entangled for a long time, you will be annoyed, you will hurt, you will be anguine, you will be tired, you will be sad. In fact, in the end, you are not unable to get by, but with yourself.
Some things, don't dwell on all the time, otherwise you will cause trouble.
Zhang Fei's death was actually very humiliating: he did not die generously on the battlefield, but was killed by his own entangled heart.
When he heard that his good brother Guan Yu was killed, Zhang Fei did not suppress his grief, and his blood and tears sticked. He then beat the soldiers drunkenly and asked them to build weapons day and night, hoping to avenge their brothers immediately. In the end, his subordinates Fan Jiang and Zhang Da could not bear it anymore, so they had to assassinate him in the barracks while Zhang Fei was drunk again.
No one denies that Zhang Fei is very capable. But people with such great ability do not get a desired ending in the end.
People who are entangled in the things they let go of will not help no matter how powerful they are.
Only those who do not entangle can achieve everything.
In ancient Tibet, there was a man named Aidipa who, every time he got angry and got into an argument with someone, he quickly ran home and ran three times around his house and land.
After running, he continued to work as if he was fine, his house was getting bigger and bigger, and his land was getting bigger and bigger.
Every three laps of the altercation, people wondered about his move, but Ediba remained silent.
When he reached his twilight years, he finally explained the reason: "When I was young, I went for a run whenever I quarreled with people and got angry, thinking that my house was so small and the land was so little, how could I have time to be angry with people? As soon as I thought of this, my anger disappeared and I spent all my time working hard. ”
A person with smart self-control will not give up his roots. It's not that they don't have mood swings, but they don't get caught up in it. Instead of dwelling with precious time, focus on what is more important.
When Stetson was just paralyzed, he was short-tempered and resentful. Later, he washed away his melancholy heart in the world of words. "Some painful emotions and unpleasant memories, if they fill the mind, can make people depressed," he said. Therefore, sweeping the floor and dusting can make the dark heart brighten, and there is more and greater space for happiness. ”
They understand that the process of entanglement will only exacerbate losses.
In life, we often encounter a lot of inexplicable slander, obviously did not provoke each other, but the other party is behind your back to slander you in various ways, presumably whoever encounters such a thing will also be angry.
But if you think about it, you will find that most of these people do not live smoothly, they just use this way to cover their sense of powerlessness and find some mental balance for themselves.
If you tear up with him, not only will it look embarrassing, but it will also waste a lot of energy and time. At this point, if you entangle with him, you lose. Ignoring is the best contempt.
The goddess Faye Wong always looks like she loves whomever she wants, let you talk nonsense, and she never says a word more about senseless nonsense. She runs herself calmly, even if the whole world tells her gossip, she does not explain or reason, but only walks sideways through various fetters and walks where she wants to go.
The wind is not talking about victory, and the sleeve is speechless for the longest.
So, for those malicious slander, silence is the best weapon, it is more powerful than bursting.
"Hou Hanshu Guo Tai Biography" records the story of "breaking the knot and ignoring it": When Guo Tai was in Taiyuan, one day he saw a man walking with a crockpot on his back on his back, walking and walking, and the crockpot suddenly fell to the ground, making an uproar and frightening. Who knows that the passerby does not look at it and continues to walk its path as if nothing had happened.
Guo Tai saw it and felt very strange, so he took the initiative to step forward and ask him: "Why is your crockpot broken, don't look at it, abandon it, and continue walking?" ”
The man replied, "What is the use of looking at everything broken?" ”
Guo Tai felt that this person was extraordinary, could afford to put down, and was a wizard, so he persuaded him to study. The book records that this person's name is Meng Min, the character Shuda. After Meng Min studied for ten years, he became famous all over the world.
Life needs to look forward and get rid of bad emotions as soon as possible. If you spend your energy and time on things that are not useful, how much attention is there to improve yourself?
Smart people, never entangled. Making your life more exciting is the wisest thing to do.