New high-scoring movie: Who is regulating women's lives?
Some time ago, a bloody video caused public indignation -
In the video, an emotional man wields a kitchen knife in his hand.
While hacking and killing the puppy, he threatened his wife:
You are disobedient, and that's it for the future!
What did the pet do wrong?
To pay with one's life for human emotions.
What did the wife do wrong again?
To be threatened like this.
A recent high-scoring movie also raised the same question:
Who is regulating women's lives?
Douban 8.1.
Let's find an answer in the film together——
"My Affair"
My Love Affair with Marriage
This is an "alternative" animated film from Latvia.
From screenwriting to production, it is led by animation director Cygné Baumane.
It took 7 years.
A total of 662 pencils were consumed.
Neither is a money-burning big production in Hollywood.
It is also different from the fresh hand-drawn of Japan.
Just two more glances will reveal how "eclectic" this Eastern European animation is.
First of all, the painting style is different.
The weird tones and grotesque characters all reveal a dark temperament.
Secondly, the type is also freely transformed.
Sometimes it is realism.
Sometimes suddenly fantastic.
Sometimes it becomes popular science in seconds.
The protagonist of the story, Zelma, is also a girl who is "different from the public" and "eclectic".
Her hair was always messy and her clothes were always dirty.
Everywhere she went, it was like a tornado passing through.
When not in school, Zelma's daily routine consisted of climbing trees and playing with stray cats.
Going to school is also very different from other girls.
Elementary school boys all over the world seem to like to pull the hair of their female classmates.
And most girls' first reaction is either to file a complaint, or to drop the golden beans directly.
But Zelma fought back directly, the kind that was ruthless.
Zelma's unexpected reaction made classmates and teachers, including them, think-
She's not a girl.
Biologically speaking, Zelma is, of course, a schoolgirl.
However, her behavior is not considered by the people around her to be what a "normal" girl should look like.
Growing up, Zelma was full of "written rules" that taught her how to be a girl.
When she was a primary school student, her female classmates used their example to guide and demonstrate.
1. Ignorance is a girl's happiness.
Don't show that you're smart, don't have special talents, and don't have a sense of competition.
Because:
Boys hate feeling small when girls cause them to fail.
2. Any form of attention is a joy, self-esteem is not important.
So, when a boy bullies you, don't fight back, but smile and say:
I am very happy to have your favor.
I will fully cooperate with you.
3. The most important thing is appearance.
Good girls don't need to run, they don't need to be strong.
She just needs to wear nice clothes and shoes and wait beautifully for the boy to help.
When menarche arrives and sexual characteristics begin to mature, Zelma begins to receive guidance on the next step.
Her mother told her how women could achieve their "success."
Very simple, there are only three rules:
First, keep chastity until marriage.
Second, marry on merit.
Third, preserve the marriage at all costs.
So, is Zelma a thorough standard girl to do this?
No, there is no end.
After entering marriage, women also have rules from their husbands to follow.
It's also very simple to say.
First of all, take care of your husband's daily life.
Laundry and cooking, needless to say.
And don't forget to be like his mother, sewing the thread straight when making pants.
Second, we must be considerate, understanding, and tolerant of your husband's feelings.
Even if he doesn't work, he only talks at home, which is "normal".
Even if he laughs mercilessly at your figure, it is "should".
Even if he earns more because you earn more than him, his self-esteem is frustrated, and he is incompetent and angry, which is "reasonable".
These "rules" are shouting at Zelma:
Do this and you are a successful woman.
These rules, from beginning to end, are a naked PUA.
It is under the banner of "love" to gradually eliminate her self.
At a young age, Zelma retracted her edge.
In order to get the attention of the boy who likes it, put up with all the bullying.
When I grow up, I take my mother's teachings to heart.
Even if it is not out of genuine liking, he will enter the palace of marriage with a man.
After getting married, Zelma completely abandoned her self-esteem and obeyed her husband.
At this point, it is hard to imagine that the lawless little girl at the beginning ended up like this.
More terrifying is yet to come.
Over time, the disciplined person also becomes part of the discipline of others.
After ending her first marriage, Zelma met a second man who attracted her heart.
After suffering from the pain of marriage, she still quickly married this man.
It's just that Zelma's husband has his own little secret.
He likes to wear women's clothes and is a transgender person whose consciousness has not yet fully awakened.
In life, he will also inadvertently show a less "manly" side.
This bores Zelma.
Often ask the husband: "Like a man!"
She accused her husband of looking exactly like the person who said she was "not like a girl".
The most interesting thing about this film is that it does not just tell the story of a woman.
Instead, various neurological and psychological small sciences will appear at any time to explain the heroine's behavior.
This is precisely because the director himself is curious about how women's self-perception is changed.
She spent a lot of time and effort studying and researching with a Ph.D. in biology from New York University.
In order to ensure accurate description, a total of 24 drafts of the script were written.
Finally, science is incorporated into this animated story.
In addition to scientific explanations, the background of the times and social concepts cannot be ignored.
Zelma grew up in a high-pressure patriarchal society.
In such a cultural environment -
Men died heroically in war.
The death of a woman is so banal.
Who died in childbirth, fuck?
Only experienced menstruation, pregnancy, abuse, rape
It is possible to understand what a woman is.
These statements look shocking.
It seems like an ancient fantasy now.
But if you think about it, these plots still exist in the present.
It's like the "killing dogs and scaring wives" mentioned at the beginning.
The man who hacked and killed the pet dog is just an ordinary person.
After getting drunk, he wants to use the cruelty of killing pets to show his manhood and thus shock his wife.
Afterwards, the girl wanted a divorce, but was opposed by the man's family.
Just for the sake of a dog, ruining a marriage is not worth it.
What is the difference between this and the "maintain marriage at all costs" in the movie?
The chat history of the parties with their husbands and fathers
Even in different times and cultures, society has never stopped disciplining women.
Irresistible structural problems, and the cultural environment forged by history, cannot be changed overnight.
Like Zelma.
Throughout the process of discipline, her inner self is like an unrestrained little wild cat, which will run out to fight from time to time.
However, the power of the individual is still too small compared to the whole concept of society.
The rules that pervade her life are like the singing banshee who always follows her.
Brainwashing attacks are carried out on her all the time.
No matter how rebellious and alternative Zelma was, she was eventually domesticated.
Even after her first marriage, she attributed her mistakes to her excessive pursuit of love.
Then as long as there is no love, there is no problem.
The self-castration of women is completely completed.
Fortunately, Zelma later began to face her true side.
Especially motivated by her second husband after the transition.
After the two embraced affectionately, Zelma said goodbye to the banshee who had whispered in her ear.
Since then, he has really embarked on his own path.
This is also the call that director Baomane wants to convey to all female compatriots:
A little more courage, a little more confidence.
Say no to the discipline of this world out loud!