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Lead:
With the opening of the second and third children, parents who could only plan their children, although they no longer have the ability to have a second child, but they will pin their hopes for this second child on their children.
Therefore, parents with only one daughter will ask their daughter-in-law to have a second child, and change the surname of one of the grandchildren or granddaughters to their own surname. In this way, their own property can be safely handed over to their grandchildren, and they can continue their blood and surname.
Most of them, especially parents of only children, are willing to think like this. Because even if the grandchildren do not have their surnames, the money they should subsidize cannot be less.
Confidant:
When my daughter and son-in-law got married, my wife and I bought them a house and a car in full, without asking for anything in return. But my only request for them is that they must have our surname regardless of whether their daughter's first child is a son or a daughter. In the future, our property will also be given to this child.
At first, the son-in-law and the in-laws did not agree, thinking that their son was not a son-in-law, and if the child took our surname, he would be laughed at by relatives and friends. But I offered to let them buy a house for the bride price for the wedding, and they were silent.
Because the in-laws did not contribute money and efforts, and the matter of my daughter giving birth to her first child and our surname was hammered down. After that, my daughter successfully became pregnant, and my own mother really did not come to take care of it, but pushed everything onto me, saying that the first child is with your surname anyway, and you will take care of it.
The words of the mother-in-law made the daughter a little sad. I couldn't bear it, and I thought about working for my grandchildren, so I took care of all the housework without saying a word. The mother-in-law, on the other hand, hid in her daughter's house and did not ask about the child for several years.
After my daughter gave birth to a child, I served my daughter's confinement, and I took care of the child, and even the daily expenses of my daughter's family and the expenses of my little grandson were all paid for by me.
After that, I also handled everything for my grandson. From childhood to kindergarten, we covered even the tuition fees, and did not let our daughter and son-in-law worry about the slightest snack. The mother-in-law did not contribute money or effort, but she still said cool things on the side, saying that her grandson had become the grandson of someone else's family and had lost a lot.
Once or twice, everyone did not take it seriously. After all, this is a request that was said at the beginning, but when the mother-in-law said it many times, the son-in-law also took it seriously, and even consciously or unconsciously always gave me a look on my face at home, as if we had snatched his son strongly.
In the first three years of our grandson's life, when someone needed to take care of her, my daughter was on our side. But when the grandson did not need much care, the daughter seemed to be encouraged by the son-in-law and began to waver.
My daughter even hinted to us unintentionally that she wanted to change her grandson's surname back to his father's surname, saying that she was worried that her child would be ridiculed and ridiculed in the future. My wife and I were a little chilled, but we didn't say anything either.
Seeing that we did not express our position, my daughter stopped mentioning it later, but actively put the birth of a second child on the agenda. Later, her daughter gave birth to a second child as she wished, which is a caring little padded jacket. It's just that the two in-laws rushed to see the child, but after finding out that it was a daughter, they turned around and left.
The son-in-law had to take care of his daughter and his newborn granddaughter, and he was so busy that he called his own mother many times to help. But my own mother was unwilling, saying that it was so rare to give birth to a girl.
Seeing that my son-in-law was busy and exhausted every day, and my daughter could not sit in confinement at ease, my wife and I began to feel distressed again, and directly took over the work of taking care of our confinement and granddaughter.
The daughter was well looked after under our care. After confinement, my daughter and granddaughter were raised white and fat, and their complexion was particularly good. Seeing this, the son-in-law is grateful to us in various ways, and bluntly said that he feels sorry for his daughter, and after all, he has to look at his parents.
Originally, we brought our grandchildren, and our granddaughters were brought by our own mothers. But my own mother kept shirking, refused to come, and finally saw that my daughter was in a dilemma, and we began to feel distressed again, so we took the initiative to take care of our granddaughter.
After taking care of it for a few years, I spent more than 200,000 yuan for my two children, and for us, my grandson and granddaughter are the same, but the surnames are different.
But as soon as we brought our granddaughter to kindergarten, our daughter's son-in-law came to us to discuss, saying that since we treat the two children equally, they planned to change the grandson's surname back to the son-in-law's surname, and as for the granddaughter, they would change it to our surname, after all, the son-in-law is the only son in the family, and he cannot die. And we have a granddaughter to inherit the surname and bloodline, and there is no break.
Our daughter's son-in-law's request surprised us. What makes us even more uncomfortable is that it is human nature for son-in-law to have this idea, after all, men want their sons to have their surnames. But my daughter also has such thoughts, which makes us a little embarrassed and cold.
How much we have paid for our two children, our daughter and son-in-law are obvious to all. We didn't say anything, and our daughter didn't want to continue to force us, but just persuaded us to think about it again, saying that anyway, the two children grew up in front of us, they are all her bloodline, and whoever has our surname is similar.
My wife and I have been gritting our teeth, and we have long planned that when our grandson is older, we will transfer the house under our name to his name. But now my daughter and son-in-law suddenly made such a request, and my wife and I suddenly felt overwhelmed.
Seeing that we had not agreed, the daughter and son-in-law were still anxious at first, but then they didn't know what they were muttering, and they didn't mention it again. We are secretly rejoicing, thinking that we can fool the past like this.
Until the son-in-law went out in a hurry in the morning and forgot the treatment he was holding on the shoe cabinet. I just saw it, and I wanted to chase out the door to send it to my son-in-law, but suddenly I saw that it was a family registration book.
I couldn't help my inner curiosity, so I opened the household registration book, and when I saw it, the whole person was stunned, when did the grandson who originally followed the surname of his wife change back to the surname of his son-in-law, and the granddaughter who followed the surname of his son-in-law followed our surname?
I couldn't believe it, so I quickly showed it to my wife. After my wife saw it, her whole face was ugly. And when my son-in-law found that he had left behind the information and hurried home to get it, he saw us holding the household registration book and did not know what to do.
Seeing that the matter had been debunked, the son-in-law had nothing to hide, and directly told us that I am the only son in the family, and my parents are my son, and my son must have my surname, otherwise my family will be broken. But you already have only one daughter, and it is only natural to let your granddaughter take your surname now. What's more, both children grew up in front of you, and they have the same surname as whoever they are.
The son-in-law was still explaining, and even called his daughter back. But no matter how my daughter and son-in-law explained it, my wife and I couldn't listen to it. The daughter and son-in-law have changed the child's surname first, and now they are still pretending to explain to us, what is the use?
Seeing that we never listened to advice, my daughter also blamed us for being selfish, and for her own selfishness, she let her family and husband and wife break down. Listening to my daughter's complaints, I couldn't say a word.
My wife and I are full of ashes, and the plans and schemes we used to have for our grandson have also been thrown into the East China Sea. At this moment, we especially regret being a cash machine for so many years, allowing our daughter's family to claim it.
No matter how our daughter stayed, my wife and I insisted on leaving. As for the subsidies for my daughter's family, we also cut them off. Since my grandson doesn't have our surname, then we spent so much money in 5 years, and it was just an empty joy.
Today's Topic:
What do you think of your daughter's son-in-law's first cut and then play?