Shakespeare said:
"An unsatisfactory marriage is like a hell, a lifetime of chickens fighting and geese, not having a peaceful life, on the contrary, choosing a satisfactory spouse can be harmonious for a hundred years and happiness."
Marriage, as it sometimes is, is far more important than effort.
If you can choose a good man who is worth entrusting, then a woman will have a comfortable life for the rest of her life.
But if you don't trust people, you may ruin your life.
A partner is the biggest investment in life.
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, then men with the following three characteristics, even if they like it again, don't marry.
Emotionally unstable men
Life is never a fairy tale, it is full of ups and downs.
With an emotionally unstable man, you will find that if there is a little wind, the other person will lose control of his emotions and even cause you harm.
Imagine how long you can last on such days?
I have seen such a story:
There is such a couple, after being together, usually two people Nong Nong My Nong, it can be said that it is so sweet that it is enviable.
But after something unsatisfactory happens, the man will be like a changed person, irritable, rude, and unable to calm down for a long time.
At the beginning, the girl felt that it was normal to encounter something unpleasant, as long as he loved himself.
But the more she went on, the girl found that there was really no sense of security with him.
Until once, the two people had a little conflict, and the man made a move on her after losing his temper, and she was completely cold, and also proposed to break up.
Marriage is a lifetime, and two people together need to overcome thousands of difficulties together and deal with various contradictions together.
If a man does not have a stable mood, then there will be a series of problems.
From work and children to family chores.
If a small problem will become the fuse that ignites his emotions, then how can you expect that in such a state, two people can get through the difficulties together!
Controlling man
There is a good saying:
"The essence of love is inclusion, understanding, and respect, not control, manipulation, and possession."
A good relationship is never an affiliation of one person or another, and a good partner never wants to manipulate you.
With a controlling man, you will find that either you lose yourself completely or all kinds of arguments.
Either way, relationships are destined to last.
Friend Moon Moon and ex for three years.
In three years, Yueyue can be said to have really sacrificed a lot.
After the two are together, he will ask Yueyue to stay away from the circle he used to have, ask Yueyue to delete his friends of the opposite sex in WeChat, and even manage what clothes Yueyue wears.
At the beginning, Yueyue just felt that he was also like this because he loved her, so he didn't think too much.
But the more later, the more Yueyue found that in the constant compromise, he became more and more intense, and she became less and less like herself.
In this way, the relationship persisted for three years, but in the end it still failed to persist.
Zhou Guoping said:
"I think a good partnership should be one that trusts and does not restrict each other's freedom, and at the same time cherishes one's freedom without abusing one's freedom, which is the best relationship."
The biggest disaster in the relationship is trying to transform and control your partner.
No matter what kind of relationship, the foundation of long-term together is equality and respect.
If a man always wants to arrange your life and always asks you to live according to his ideas, even if this control is out of love, you will be tortured.
People, always have their own space, their own life mode. With a controlling man, the final outcome is not destined to be what you want.
A man who does not seek advancement
Venus said:
"Love is beautiful because it pushes trouble to marriage."
Men and women in love may be able to focus on enjoying the world of two people, only need to consider whether they love or not, and do not need to think about life's firewood, rice, oil and salt.
But when it comes to marriage, there are many practical problems, the most inescapable of which is "money".
In this era where the taste of "consumption" is everywhere, it is really difficult to move without money, and with a man who does not seek advancement, no amount of love will eventually be consumed by the cruel reality of life.
In the TV series "Under the Warm Sun", Song and Lu Keying married each other and really loved each other. This can be seen from the fact that Lu Keying can follow Song behind her back and run away from home.
But when we live together, all the factors of reality come.
Rent, living expenses, make two people anxious.
However, for these situations, Song Wei not only does not want to make money by law, but also has no intention of making progress.
In this way, under the disappointment again and again, Lu Keying was completely dead to Song, and the marriage of the two came to an end.
Marriage, really needs to consider practical factors, must also consider practical factors.
If love is an impulse brought by hormones, then what sustains marriage is more about responsibility and commitment.
With a man who does not seek advancement, you will find that he simply cannot bear the burden of life and the responsibility of marriage.
So how can such a man give you happiness!
For women, one of the most important choices is the choice of partner.
In life, if you meet the above three men, you should carefully consider whether you like it, after all, whether you love or not is very important, but it is more important to live a happy life in the future.
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Author: Slightly cool from the rain, a post-90s writer who can be rational, emotional, likes to express personal views with words, and brings you spiritual healing, emotional solutions, and life insights.