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Life in the world is inseparable from interacting with people, and when you come and go, you can't avoid pulling up the family, talking about what has happened around you recently, and even climbing relationships, so as not to embarrass the atmosphere.
But no matter how broad the topic of discussion, smart people know a truth and know to stick to a basic principle and bottom line.
Some things can be said, and some things cannot be easily discussed. When talking to others, you must say less about your three things, so as not to get into trouble and not know it.
One: Reveal less about your family
When others come to inquire about the conditions in your home, be more attentive and less revealing your family background to them.
You know, if you don't have anything to offer, you are either a traitor or a thief. It is not a person with another purpose, and will not turn around to probe your reality.
If you have good conditions at home, rich connections, and rich family resources, do not easily inform others to avoid being jealous, or being entangled by others for no reason, asking for help, in essence, you want to use you.
Social connections are very important now, and in a sense, personal debt is more difficult to pay than monetary debt. If you waste human resources in order to help some unnecessary people, when you need it later, I am afraid that no one will be willing to help.
And if your family is very poor, after others find out, they will not help you out of pity, in reality everyone will only forget about you after realizing that you are not useful to them.
Two: Discuss other people's gossip less about right and wrong
There are ears in the wall, and you will never know whether the person who pulls you to discuss the right and wrong of others today simply loves gossip or uses the name of chatting to set your words.
Everyone speaks in front of everyone, and everyone is said behind everyone's back.
In this world, the reason why there are so many disputes and conflicts is also because everyone likes to talk about rare things, and everyone is interested in other people's parents.
Many times some false and groundless words, just because of the pleasure of the public, no one seeks and no one cares about evidence, just a mouth, word of mouth, the more outrageous.
If you don't want to one day suffer the malice of being slandered and no one stands up, stop chewing the root of your tongue behind people's backs immediately.
Three: Talk less about your emotional entanglements
If you want to ask what people are most interested in, it must be peach news.
They are all adults, more or less have had one or two relationship experiences, maybe they didn't end decently, maybe the other protagonist of the story is still haunting you.
In any case, these are things that are not necessary to be said on the table, and it is better to talk less about the specific entanglements and details with people.
You think that talking to others about these is a necessary step in socializing and represents the beginning of your relationship.
It's just that most of the people who listen are just used as a conversation after tea, and it is just a joke that he takes out to warm up the atmosphere when chatting with the next person.
You must not have a harmful heart, and you must have a defensive heart.
Although it is a cliché, there are still many people who can't remember this basic truth, and in the end, they are often severely punished by others because of unintentional words.
Remember these three things, don't talk nonsense, don't talk lightly, you can definitely ensure that you don't fall into the trap of others and don't be used by others.
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