Recently, two big things have happened on the Internet.
The first is that Luo Cheng, the "second son" of Hollywood, was rumored to be in love, and the second is that Douyin Internet celebrity @Xiaohuijun framed his previous MCN boss with sexual harassment to seek termination of the contract.
Unlike the common victims of pornographic rumors and sexual harassment in the past, the two victims this time are both men.
So public opinion was in an uproar, and some people fished in troubled waters and pointed the finger at women's "small essays".
"I don't believe in the little essays of the little fairies anymore, there is no cost to spread rumors!"
Some even launched a poll, accusing the little essay of being a "wolf" scam.
Going around in circles, the process is incredibly familiar, and we're stuck in a vicious cycle of rumors.
How troublesome is it to prove that you are not in a relationship?
Let's start with Luo Cheng's oolong.
Before combing this little melon, her sister first introduced Luo Cheng to friends she didn't know.
Hollywood, a chain dessert shop that has opened all over the country, I believe everyone is no stranger, this Luo Cheng is the second son of the boss of Holly.
It's just that unlike other rich second-generation who are keen to show off their wealth or invest, most of the time, Luo Cheng is active on short video platforms, and often posts his social fear daily life and happy interaction with studio friends.
He will help the company's employees grab tickets, and he will also be punished by subordinates on his birthday, and occasionally run into drivers who are afraid of society, and he is more nervous than others.
Source: Douyin @ Boss Luo Cheng
Good-looking, generous, no shelves as a boss, and sometimes behaves like ordinary people around him, this amiable and interesting character is particularly likable, and soon attracted a large wave of fans for him.
Today, he has amassed 2.8 million followers
Originally, it was very lively, but not long ago, someone suddenly posted that Luo Cheng was secretly in love, and the object was still a female Internet celebrity.
Click into the girl's homepage, it seems that there is really something to do with it.
Seven or eight of the ten are all retweets of Luo Cheng's Weibo, and the love words are one after another.
Sometimes some relevant chat records are posted, and "concentrate on loving Luo Cheng" is written on the bright side.
When people are doubted, they can't wait to come out to clarify, while saying that they have a sense of crisis while secretly poking and showing affection.
The plot developed to the end, and it also triggered engagement speculation, and many fans called for an official announcement below.
Some people feel like dream girl literature, after all, a group photo has not been released, but the girl's side has posted the same car and the same dog, and it looks like "it can't be more solid".
For a time, the topic of #Luo Cheng's fiancée# appeared on the hot search, and Luo Cheng quickly came forward himself and made the first clarification.
Chat records with employees were posted on Weibo, indicating "outrageous" and "fake, don't believe it"; On Douyin, he directly refuted the rumors, saying that he was not in love and did not know each other.
The dog was secretly photographed, the hotel was stalked, and the roses were secretly released by her.
However, this clarification has had little effect.
In the comment area, there are also many people who doubt the relationship between the two, thinking that they are either in love or artillery friends, and even involuntarily buttoned Luo Cheng with a "ruthless" hat.
The story has developed here, it is still just an unspeakable scandal between Internet celebrities, but as the woman's side plays bigger and bigger, the consequences are completely uncontrollable.
Some people broke the news that the reason why the woman made up rumors of love with Luo Cheng was to sell her emotional courses, and even used the so-called metaphysics to defraud fans, the maximum amount reached more than 100,000 yuan.
In other words, this is a habitual fraud who uses Luo Cheng to cheat money.
Tempted on the edge of the law, this is not just peach news. Luo Cheng, who was afraid of getting into trouble, hurriedly clarified for the second time, this time it was more serious, and released a long article to refute the rumors to the public.
Not a fiancée, not a PY (artillery friend), I don't know each other at all.
He recounted his repeated self-evident exhaustion with great pain:
"How do you prove that you haven't done a thing? It's really hard. ”
The one who fell into the turmoil like him, or even worse than him, was Sun Haoyu, the boss of Chidu Media.
In November 2020, blogger @xiaohuijun posted a video claiming that he had been tricked into signing the bully clause, and had been sexually harassed by his boss, and he was forced out of depression.
As soon as this remark came out, it instantly detonated public opinion. Soon, @Xiaohuijun's colleagues @Qiaolezi also stood up to help speak, accusing Sun Haoyu of his evil deeds.
Sun Haoyu's reputation was discredited overnight, and four-fifths of the company's employees left and it was almost impossible to operate.
But no one expected that not long after, someone exposed the chat records of @Xiaohuijun and @Qiaolezi.
In the screenshot, they fictionalize the scene of sexual harassment, constantly enriching the details of time and place, everything, just to be able to terminate the contract without paying liquidated damages.
In a continuous stream of evidence, people finally found that Sun Haoyu was the one who suffered unjustly.
Now, Xiao Huijun has been punished by law, the Douyin account of tens of millions of fans has been blocked, and people shouting that they have done a good job, they seem to have finally realized how much a rumor hurts the victims.
And it is worth playing that both Luo Cheng and Sun Haoyu have accepted a small meme trial on major platforms.
For the Internet celebrity Luo Cheng, they said:
"On purpose, how can you touch porcelain if you show up every day, clean yourself and not attract bees and butterflies?"
To Sun Haoyu, they said:
"Dog eats dog, the male boss may not be innocent."
Huh, why is this set of words so familiar?
Gender swapping, clarification no one looks
Click into Luo Cheng's related discussion, there are many familiar comments.
"Good boys don't show up every day to seduce women."
"Flies don't bite eggs, in case it's your cannon friend."
"Let the bullets fly for a while, who knows if he is entangled with others and exposed."
Hundreds of likes at every turn seem to be full of malicious speculation about Luo Cheng. But discerning people can see at a glance that this yin and yang strange atmosphere is just a sexual transformation of the "victim guilt theory".
Because Luo Cheng released a long article to explain clearly, and incidentally gained a lot of sympathy for the "dream girl" incident, if it falls on a woman, it will be difficult to pick up the sewage that countless long articles can not pick clean.
Unbelief?
Then look at the hard self-testimony of these girls.
A few days ago, the once million Internet celebrity @doghead loli sold pancakes on the hot search.
Her past experience really illustrates the saying: "Women's beauty alone is a dead end." ”
In her early years, she was molested by her biological father, and after graduating from high school, she was raped by the team leader of an electronics factory, and her online dating partner took her indecent photos and video releases, and was later terminated by the platform and owed six million liquidated damages.
In order to repay the money, she became a "fringe Internet celebrity", and was abused by countless people on the Internet, and even killed herself for a while. In the process, she has published long articles more than once, explaining her motives and telling about her pain.
Now, she finally came out and decided to set up a stall to sell pancakes to make a living, but she was once again scolded for dressing up on the hot search.
People denounced her for being a blogger and not really spreading pancakes at all. She could only come out again and post a video testimony.
Source: Weibo @doudousauce_stunned version
In order to show that he is really trying to set up a stall, he also posted a dense breakdown of costs and expenses, and even shared his income on Weibo every day.
Even so, some people still use this as a script and stalk it in the comments section.
Because she has been an edge Internet celebrity in the past, everything she has now is for eyeballs and hype. Netizens are keen to occupy the moral high ground to judge her words and deeds, pushing her into the public eye again and again, arguing her "crimes".
Want to start a new life? Stop dreaming, you're not clean.
Internet celebrities who have had a "bad record" will be scolded if they want to start again, so what about people with clean lives?
At the beginning of the year, the pink-haired girl Zheng Linghua died in an online violence.
Since July 2022, the comment section under her social account has been filled with a lot of taunts, slurs and attacks.
"Is it really a graduate student? The hair is the same as the one who accompanies the bar. ”
"Can a nightclub dancer also have a master's degree?"
"Your hairstyle is a graduate student of Chinese Normal School? Is it being studied? ”
......
The speech poured in, and there was a 360-degree judgment around her hairstyle, looks, smile, etc. Those people took pleasure in humiliating her, relentlessly channeling rumors under her every social dynamic.
The source of it all was just because she shared an acceptance letter with pink hair.
Under the indiscriminate online violence, Zheng Linghua suffered from depression.
She tried to refute the rumors and explain them to every fierce netizen; She also took up legal weapons, printing out curses and invectives on various platforms to be taken to court; She went to find a psychologist and packed her time with various classes.
But these efforts and self-proof did not stop the attack of the sky, nor did they save her from the abyss.
Going forward, this process has been played out thousands of times.
The Hangzhou girl who took the express delivery and was scolded as a "sick woman", the female patient who took photos on the hospital bed and was scolded as a "sick woman", and the female college classmate who was uploaded to the pornographic website by P nude photos...
The "indefensibility" that Luo Cheng accidentally felt is the daily life of most women.
It's just that Luo Cheng's comment area is just a meme, and it's difficult for girls to avoid the real dirty water.
Whether you are a "marginal pornographer" or a "good woman"; Whether you're high-profile brave or low-key and restrained; No matter what you wear, what you say, or what kind of life you lead.
As long as a pair of eyes are fixed on you, you can be dragged into a siege at any time by malicious cameras.
We often say that women are a situation.
What is the situation of women? It is not understood, it is to endure humiliation and bear the burden, it is to break through the layers under the strict discipline, it is to devote one's life in exchange for a chastity archway.
If you want to prove your innocence, you can only open your stomach again and again and prove that you have only eaten a bowl of powder.
Source: The movie "Let the Bullets Fly"
Misogyny, a kind of public unconsciousness, is the soil watered by countless gazes and judgments.
In this soil, girls who are at risk have to use sexual conversion memes to try to offset the judgment of the victim's guilt.
You see, things fall on you, and you begin to justify.
What about the girls who have been stigmatized for a long time? Have you heard their confessions?
Men who are misunderstood are paying for a small group of people
Her sister certainly had no intention of blaming all men.
But it must be admitted that for a long time, men have always been unable to understand the current situation of women's lives.
I don't understand why women are afraid, why women are angry, and I don't understand the pain women feel when they face stigma.
In the background of her sister's comment area, there is always no shortage of men shouting grievances:
Why do you always engage in "gender opposition"? Why pick out a small part of the group to represent all men?
But have the boys who shouted wrongs ever thought that when you speak out your anger, there are countless women who cannot speak innocently; When you express objectivity, there are countless women who are being attacked by subjective assumptions; While you shout not to knock down with a pole, countless women are being stigmatized by the group.
To put it bluntly, the blame you receive never comes from the women themselves, you are just paying for the same kind of behavior.
So why blame those who voice fear?
Last month, a girl felt uncomfortable while sitting in a soft sleeper.
In one box, the other three are men, which makes her feel very embarrassed, and hopes that in the future, there will be a car of the same gender to facilitate women.
As expected, there was another quarrel in the comment section.
Women felt the same way, hoping that big data could launch this kind of service, and many shared their embarrassment when sitting in a sleeper. But many men feel "pretentious", "unnecessary", and "too much to take themselves".
But from a woman's point of view, it is clearly not a small part of oppression, but a structural fear.
British journalist Caroline listed a set of data in "Invisible Women":
"Women often feel scared in public places. In fact, they are twice as likely to be frightened as men..."Crime surveys and empirical studies from around the world show that most women fear potential violence in public places. Analysis of crime data from both the United States and Sweden shows that women and men react differently to similar environmental conditions, with women tending to be "more sensitive than men to danger signs, social disorder, graffiti, messy and abandoned buildings."
The Department for Transport research highlighted men's and women's very different perceptions of danger, with results showing that 62% of women were afraid to walk in multi-storey car parks, 60% were afraid to wait on the train platform, 49% were afraid to wait at bus stops, and 59% were afraid to walk home from a bus stop or train station. The proportion of men who are afraid of these activities is 31%, 25%, 20% and 25% respectively."
In public spaces, women are constantly confronted with uncomfortable male behaviors: glancing, looking, asking for contact... These acts are not criminal, but they are enough to make women feel the potential violence, and this feeling of being in danger accompanies women every time they travel.
Men don't need to fear an all-female environment, but women need to hesitate just to walk into an all-male elevator.
"Even the best men don't know what it's like for one person to walk through the world with this body and others to use it as a completely open playground."
Back to Luo Cheng's oolong scandal.
He ended his confession by saying: "I can finally understand how uncomfortable those who have been rumored are.
"How do I prove that I haven't met this person?
How should an internet celebrity prove that which indecent video was changed by AI?
How can ordinary girls prove that none of the things said by the rumor-mongers are true? ”
Luo Cheng gained innocence, but there were still many girls who did not.
Rewatching Xiao Huijun's incident, her sister's anger may be deeper than the audience.
She manipulates public opinion with elaborate lies for personal gain. Her false accusation is undoubtedly a backstab for you and me, who are fighting for women's rights.
As the comments of netizens said: "It is the existence of such people that makes it more difficult for those who are really violated to defend their rights." ”
Because of her existence, the real victims of the future have another layer of dirty water that needs to prove themselves;
Because of her false accusations, the secondary harm of public opinion will fall on the heads of real rights defenders.
After the tide receded, the real victims' demands were quietly drowned, leaving only endless confrontation and noise, attacking each other and embarrassing each other.
So what if the next victim is a woman? What if the next incident spreads from a nude photo?
Will there be new self-evidence and public opinion playing out again?
There are already people who have tasted this groundless accusation.
So next time, don't ask the victim why they're "swaggering," and turn the trial on the person who brought shame on the group.
Regarding gratuitous rumors, this is not a war between men and women, stop first and stand shoulder to shoulder with the victims.