Text | Ming Yue
Just after Mother's Day and Children's Day, I decided to write this tweet that was destined to run out of traffic.
A while ago, on the small sweet potato, a mother who sent dinner was out of the circle.
Unlike the previous mothers who made every meal into poetry and made it look like animals, her copywriting at the beginning was the same title - "30-year-old divorce debt 200,000 yuan".
Each meal only has a budget of about ten yuan, which is generally a simple two dishes.
Although the budget is low, my mother strives to achieve a combination of meat and vegetables.
Occasionally, I went to my grandmother's house to get some food, and sometimes I added sweet potatoes.
With his young son, he sat obediently at the table and waited to eat.
It's simple and sad, but every note looks at it with a sense of tranquility.
She was asked why she was divorced and why she was in so much debt.
She said that the child's father owed money, and she had children for divorce, and promised to help him share half of it, otherwise the child would not give it to her.
In a short sentence, I don't really understand this logic.
But looking at this meaning, the child's father should not be a normal reasonable person, she may be to save more trouble.
Don't dare to think about it, behind this picture of "quiet and good years", there are all blood and tears and hideousness.
After a little flow, the wound is exposed, and the flies follow.
Cheap Bs keep popping up in the comments: Why do poor people have children, fortunately I am an only daughter, my baby definitely has no appetite for these meals, where is there anyone living such a life now...
After the small sweet potatoes have been reviewed by pictures, there are countless conspicuous bags that come to dry the big meal.
It's a testament to human diversity.
This matter was discovered by several Weibo Douyin bloggers, and they clicked and stabbed.
I recently went to see that the brain dead no longer dared to openly step on it, and the conspicuous bags were all scolded to the point of being written off.
The comment area has now become a "ordinary people's meal award", which has the momentum of opening a new world in the social software of the group of noble ladies.
The blogger can see that it is a mature and calm lady.
He has come out of the quagmire and is in a positive mood.
In addition to her own efforts to make a good living, she always seriously commented on other people's cooking.
Occasionally, other similar people come over and dare to reveal their scars, and everyone is quite friendly at present.
(When they were young, flies dared to come, and they were afraid to see the light after being watched by a large number of onlookers)
This incident reminds me that I was also on the small sweet potato a while ago, and I rarely left messages, and I quarreled with someone for a single mother in a similar situation.
Compared to the one above, the one I saw was in much worse shape.
Or rather, she is just still in the quagmire of bad emotions, still struggling to get out.
I saw her because of a note that said I couldn't wait for wages.
The picture is a bowl of two dishes in one, probably her dinner.
She has a very high-traffic note about how to ask for two or three hundred more alimony from her ex-husband.
Two or three hundred, yes.
You read it right, she is asking for strategies for the majority of netizens for this number.
According to the mother's own account, she was a rural teacher in Hubei Province, and her husband could probably earn more than 100,000 yuan a year before the divorce.
When the divorce, the two discussed alimony, and she took the child away, and he paid a thousand yuan a month.
Because she saw her ex-husband's recent situation in the circle of friends, it seems that she opened a company in her hometown of Wenzhou and became a small boss, so she wanted more.
In addition to questioning her in the comments (why do you have to have so little in divorce, can't you afford to raise children alone), there are also many people who give her ideas.
So, the blogger went to ask for it.
Lay out the facts and make sense.
It didn't take long for the follow-up to come.
The other party's sentence "Don't use the child to pinch me", and then "I owe a debt", directly sent her.
As if he was the uncle, as if this baby was not his, but came to him to ask for food.
A few days later, the ex-husband took the initiative to find a blogger and asked if I didn't have to pay for his living expenses if you changed my child's surname.
(Oh, this is really good when a man, you are kind enough to give him a surname according to tradition, he can use it as an option, and when it is returned to you, it can be used to offset alimony)
Then her former mother-in-law also came, telling the blogger that if you are difficult, come to Zhejiang to find a job, and your father will also come to find it.
I can also remarry my son in the future, he just bought a house...
Seeing this, my eyes widened, and I dared to owe a debt because I bought a house.
It is estimated that the ex-husband heard that he would give more child support, and went to discuss a plan with his mother overnight-
That is, to lead her to remarry, the child naturally does not have to change the surname, they do not have to pay the maintenance fee, the mother and father-in-law come to Zhejiang to make more money, it is convenient for her to raise her own children, and can also (hiddenly) help repay the mortgage.
If you don't follow this script, it's also your own unwillingness, but don't bother anymore.
This arrow is carved and eaten more, which is worthy of being thought up by a mother-in-law who has survived a thousand years of daughter-in-law.
The blogger was really so ridiculous that he said that "novels dare not write like this" and "I have nothing more to say".
She was no match for their family at all.
The netizens who followed and watched all the way, some had ideas, and some were watching jokes.
At this time, the collective feather returned, and most of them were fried.
Began to line up and ask her, why don't you have the spirit of contract, why do you want more than a thousand you negotiated?! Isn't 1,000 yuan enough for a five-year-old child to spend in the eighteenth-tier county?! Why rob custody if you can't feed your children?!
The mother was overwhelmed, constantly explaining that the child was given to her if the other party did not want it, but I didn't expect it before the divorce, but now I found that 1,000 yuan to raise a baby is really not enough, the divorce is caused by many contradictions, especially the blogger's mother came to her in-law's house to take care of her in the terminal stage of cancer, and the result worsened and died...
This mother does not take many notes, and it can be seen that she is a very responsible math teacher.
In addition to undertaking a lot of teaching work, he will also push himself to do competition questions during the summer vacation.
When she was young, she must have been a beautiful, excellent and proud female classmate.
After tossing a marriage, experiencing the death of her mother, long-term depression, and raising young children, she never gave up her job.
It stands to reason that she has done enough to meet the requirements of the women of the times.
But the reality, the reality is that it's still hard and hard.
There will also be salary arrears in the system, and rural teachers will still have a fairly low income even if they are not arrears, and her energy and financial resources to raise children alone are far from enough.
And the father who does not want children is justified and has nothing to do with him.
Those who say, "I want to work hard to become excellent, but I don't work hard to make money", I want to ask if money is what you want to work hard for, you can get it.
First of all, it is not possible within the system, otherwise it will break the law and commit crimes.
I'm really mad to see this, this life is fucking 360 degrees all dead ends.
If a person fulfills his due responsibilities or lives so poorly, it is not a problem of TA, it is a problem of society, and it is our problem.
Looking at the scolding her in the comment area, asking why she rushed to have children, I couldn't help but scold.
(The kitten is me, the mask is the one who was quarreled with by me)
She has written many times that she thinks about dying and thinking about sending her child to sports school, and I don't understand why she should make it worse.
Oh oh oh, we old people hate iron and steel the most, and we can't complain the most.
That's not strong, it's not productive.
We like to look at Guotai Min'an face.
Everyone thinks their idea is good, it gives you, you don't have to, and you have to talk about it, that is, you can't.
But it is clear that she is overwhelmed at this stage.
There is no big move at all, even if two or three hundred are obtained.
What she needs most at the moment is to channel good emotions.
People can stand up, like the mother in front, there may be inspirational stories that everyone wants to see.
I have seen Chizuko Ueno write before, "If it hurts, it hurts, and human dignity begins here", "claiming to be a victim is not a sign of weakness, but a proof of strength".
- I didn't understand this.
Three years before experiencing masks, I naively thought that the emotional pain was all because I didn't deal with the problems well, and I couldn't do it.
Now when I see these words, I can feel a powerful resonance.
People complaining and crying out for pain are not a sign of weakness, but really the beginning of dignity, and even the beginning of healing.
The premise is that everyone should let people shout ah, and when they see it, they will rush up and scold and interrogate, what is this for.
Perhaps it's because we've always had a bad social support system, and it's always a traditional skill to stir people up through name-calling and sarcasm.
Say you can't do it, and you'll strive for the top.
But this is really unscientific, anyway, I don't eat this set at all when I am not in a good state.
I need someone to tell me that you're not that bad, it's normal for you to be like this.
It may also be that everyone will still be "afraid of weakness".
I can't imagine that I am a vulnerable group, I don't want to believe that this is a good and proud lady, and it is completely possible to fall into a state.
So by scolding her and drawing a line with her, in order to prove that "I have more means than you, I will not be like you."
……
I didn't want to use the term "orphans and widows", but sorry, there are still substantial groups in contemporary society.
She has a job, she has a living ex-husband who can earn money, but the reality of their lives is that they are orphans and widows.
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