Education is the top priority of the family, and many parents do not realize how important learning is when they are students, but once they become fathers and mothers, they begin to put all their energy into their children. They long for their children to get ahead and even change the fate of their families.
There are many excellent chapters in primary and secondary school Chinese textbooks, they are talking about the principle of planting trees on the surface, but as long as you delve deeper, you will find that it is actually an excellent material for educating people.
For example, Liu Zongyuan's "The Legend of Guo Qiao Camel Planting Trees", it tells about a hunchback who planted trees, with superb skills, whether it is ornamental trees or fruit trees, as long as he takes care of them, they will grow luxuriant or fruitful, so that those rich families in Chang'an City are vying to ask him to take care of their gardens.
Seeing this, do you feel incredible, how can the child not care about him? He is so unconscious, you don't care about him, he doesn't turn the sky.
Therefore, you desperately try to control the child, not only three meals a day, serving him like an ancestor, but also telling him everything in every detail: get up quickly, eat quickly, hurry to school, hurry up to write homework, hurry to bathe, hurry to sleep.
The result is that the more you talk and stare harder, the more disgusted and abrasive the child becomes. Parents can't understand why they just don't appreciate it when they break their hearts for their children. And some children, who have not been disciplined by adults since childhood, are actually obedient and sensible.
The tree planting master in the article also sighed that there is a type of tree planter's attitude towards trees: love is too kind, worry is too hardworking. Once he saw it, he was gone and looked back. Moreover, the claw of its skin is to test its life and withering, shake its essence to see its density, and the nature of wood is separated day by day. It means that they are too worried about the trees they plant, and sooner or later they have to look at them, touch them, and even pick their nails to see if they are alive or dead, or shake the trunk to see the tightness of the soil.
I did a lot of stupid things when I was a child, and I remember when I was about 8 years old, I was particularly interested in growing flowers and corn. At that time, my parents worked in an arsenal, and there was a small hillside behind the house, and I climbed up and down with other children to secretly plant a corn on the barren land.
I water and fertilize it every day, hoping for early fruits. When the corn was pumped, I was so happy that I had to go to see it at least three times a day, and each time I went, I couldn't help but break it to see if the corn on the cob had grown. The result was that I planted one seed and only one seed was harvested. I still remember that on the skinny and skinny corn cob that was malnourished, there was really a seed, and nothing else.
I used to have hope for it, and I wanted to hold that corn every day, like a hen hatching a chick, and the result was that the bamboo basket was empty. This is strikingly similar to what some of our parents do.
Children are actually not so delicate, but in their early childhood, they still have to give them solid roots. That is, let them develop good habits, have the right values, and know how to get the sun and rain. The rest of the task is left to the child himself, just as the so-called "how to see the rainbow without experiencing wind and rain", it is really a wise saying.
Writer Lin Qingxuan once wrote a very interesting essay "Mahogany", which was selected into the primary school Chinese textbook, which mentioned a lazy-looking tree planter who only came occasionally to water the trees, not every day, and the reason he gave was that he was just imitating the rain in the sky, because the rain is not accurate. In this way, the tree can desperately take root, find a water source, and survive in uncertainty.
It is indeed very appropriate to apply the method of "planting trees" to "educating people". Everyone also understands that many people find it difficult to do it. To put it bluntly, it is your inner obsession that prevents you from seeing the essence of the problem.