The number of households in China is roughly 330 million, while the proportion of divorced families is 4%, and the proportion of families about to collapse is 9%. That is, 1 in 25 families is divorced; Among precarious households, 1 in 11 is at risk of disintegration.
We all know that every family, regardless of its family situation, is a member of the whole society and the lowest unit of the whole society. Like a sky full of stars, each of our families is every star, and if there is no combination of every star, how can we enjoy the brilliant nebula? If there is too much family instability, it indicates social instability, and this is not unfounded. The ancients: The destruction of a thousand miles of levee in an anthill is not just an inconspicuous idiom, but a warning to the world that we must always have a sense of crisis. In particular, the stability of each family can bring about the stability of the entire society, and we can be qualified to say that China is about to enter an epoch-making transformation.
The divorce rate is so high that if it is in the first forty years, who has this situation, it is difficult for a family to raise its head in society, which can be said to be a disaster for a family. But now it's better, divorce has become the norm, and some people even say: divorce is normal, not divorce is not normal. This anomaly is indeed the sorrow of the Chinese nation, when everyone has no money, they can still "share suffering", but when they have money, they cannot "share happiness". This phenomenon is obviously caused by money, but can't we face reality and rationally solve economic problems?
Especially the women of a family play a leading role in the current life, if the woman does not mess up, a family is difficult to break. This statement will definitely be strongly dissatisfied by female friends, thinking that a slap can't be slapped, divorce is not the responsibility of the man? But on the matter, most of the current families are women in charge of the economy, if the man in the family is a well-behaved and decent man, if the woman is not too vain and has a very planned life, it is difficult to break the family.
Of course, there are many complications for both men and women in a family, and the breakdown of the family cannot only hold the woman responsible. But let's imagine that if the woman is not willing to divorce anyway, the divorce rate in the whole society will definitely not be so high. As far as is known, it is true that the majority of those who wish to file for divorce are women, and most of them are related to economic disputes. Since most women in the family are in charge of the economy, why can't they communicate rationally when there is a problem in management?
The so-called "women's rights", to put it bluntly, is that women now have economic autonomy, and even do not rely on men to live, and women's economic requirements are significantly higher than men's. Although this is a good thing, it does bring hidden dangers to society. Why was the divorce rate not high in previous decades? Because at that time, even if women held economic power, the economy at that time was very good just to meet living expenses, there were not many luxury, everyone lived in a circle where they could understand each other, economic management was relatively simple, and there were not too many problems. But now life is different, satisfying living expenses is not the main problem, while satisfying vanity expenses is the main problem at present, and the confrontation between traditional expenses and open expenses is the main source of current family economic contradictions.
There is a very real phenomenon that can illustrate the problem, in families with very rich economic conditions, women rarely run away; It is not uncommon for women to migrate from economically poor families. Marx once concluded that the economic base determines the superstructure, and this "superstructure" here is each family. The stability of a family is very related to the economic foundation. There is also a strange phenomenon among them, relatively wealthy families, men are in charge of the economy, women are more dependent, and it is rare for women to give up their superior lives and leave. From here, we can see a problem, it is difficult for women to break up the family that is willing to be attached, even if the family conditions are poor, if women are willing to resign themselves to fate, the family will also be stable for a long time. This is the reason why everyone can share happiness and suffering when there is little money, but the divorce rate is not high.
In other words, although women are in a weak position in society, they have a decisive role in stabilizing a family. No matter how unmanageable the family conflict is, but the woman does not easily talk about divorce, the family will definitely be able to keep it from breakup, and once the woman decides to divorce, the family will basically fall apart. Therefore, women are a force that cannot be ignored in family stability, and it is also an important factor in social stability, men in the family to read women, not to die to face and be angry, women say divorce you also go to agree, isn't that gambling with their own fate?
It is said that there are still more than 100 million leftover women in China today, maybe this data is a bit exaggerated, but there are indeed unmarried women in life, either unmarried, or divorced and still unmarried, why are so many women "left"? It is understood that most women are waiting to live a "quality life" and hope to live a "decent life" regardless of the conditions. To put it bluntly, this "high-quality" and "decent" life is not the ordinary life we imagine, and their ideal is to be a "rich woman". But the economic source is naturally a "decent" man, if it is an ordinary unmarried or middle-income man, basically cannot enter the "eyes" of these women. In this way, there are too many emotional women and too few rational women, isn't there too much "leftover women"? It has also naturally created a large number of "leftover men".
Relying on a person's high income is an ideal candidate for many female recruits at present, but there are very few such candidates in today's society. If you know how to put yourself in your shoes, what kind of woman can't find a rich man, why would you run into it? The so-called "right" man will naturally find the "right" woman, do you really have this blessing? Many women do not know how to cherish when they are married, so lofty and far-reaching, once they lose their true love, they will enter a confused dead end. Advise rational women, do not touch divorce casually when there is a warm home, it is not a joke, divorce and then find a man may not be better than the ex-husband, because everyone has their own advantages, everyone also has their own shortcomings, happiness is not measured by the economy, even if life is shabby but the days are happy, love to old age is happiness.
Many men and women who ask for divorce are not really breaking up, but do not know how to think rationally. Especially men do not easily agree to divorce, sometimes women will be very irrational in anger, do not really want to divorce. This point men must understand female psychology, women in a family to be strong, is caused by excessive psychological pressure, men must know how to "reduce the burden" for women. Of course, as a woman, you must also learn to think rationally, men are not money-making machines, and they must learn to be self-reliant. In this way, two people in the family have something to do, and the attention will not be all on the family, which will naturally reduce many unnecessary problems.
Economically independent, strive to build a career-oriented family, such families are relatively stable, both men and women understand the hard-won economic resources, and will cherish the hard-won family. As a woman, you must first understand what a "strong woman" is, not a tough or domineering person, but a strong woman who pursues a certain height in her career. The best way for women is to learn a set of skills, strengthen what they like, and have outstanding performance in what aspects, so as to take out this skill and realize their value through social practice activities, in order to truly realize the dream of "strong woman" and maintain a warm "family harbor".