Original | Pregnancy
There is a baby who used to come!
TA brought joy to his parents and gave them expectations, but suddenly left at a certain moment.
The pain of loss, for mom, no matter how long it takes, sadness will hit one after another!
Recently, some media reported that "Big S has miscarried more than once", such reports will conflict the past, making Big S fall into the pain of losing a child again.
In response, Big S issued a statement in response, confirming that it had indeed miscarried 2 times.
The first was in 2011, when the fetus suddenly had no heartbeat and had to be surgically terminated and the wedding was held 4 days after the miscarriage.
The second time was in 2018, because the baby had no heartbeat and terminated the pregnancy, and participated in the variety show recording 7 days after the miscarriage.
According to Da S's statement, he was unable to appear for an interview at the wedding because he had just lost his child, and he was severely hit physically and mentally, and he was unable to do so.
After the second tire arrest, he also participated in the recording of the program very quickly, so the state in the program at that time was also very bad.
On the eve of Mother's Day, because of the media reports, Da S felt deep grief, self-blame, longing, sadness and pain...
Although because of the divorce incident, Big S has been caught in various disputes, and many people have questioned whether it is a hype with private affairs.
But for a mother, the pain of losing a child is indeed the most painful pain in her life.
No matter how long it takes to think about it, my heart will feel a faint pain.
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"Pregnancy stopped at 3 months of pregnancy
I've figured out the baby's name! ”
Fetal arrest is not a small blow to every mother!
There are many fans of pregnancy mothers who shared their experience of fetal arrest, fetal arrest, is inevitable loss, is inevitable injury, but also psychological deep self-blame.
"The pregnancy stopped at 3 months, and I thought of the baby's name."
When the fetus stopped in two or three months, the name was ready, I don't know if my health was too bad. There was no deliberate birth in the back, nor did it deliberately contrapose, and the body had adverse symptoms again, which could not be cured by Western medicine, changed Chinese medicine, and only took medicine for a month.
"The fetus has stopped twice, and the heart-wrenching pain really can't be said."
The first is planned, all almost three months, the preliminary examination is good, that is, the sudden news of pregnancy, a little uneasy to go to the hospital for examination, found that the abortion was stopped, the doctor immediately recommended that the abortion could not bear and was unwilling to delay for another week. The second is to find out that there is no fetal heart rate if it is pregnant, alas, it is all life, there is no life of the second child.
"After three abortions, I don't believe it just went back to get a gift, it just didn't want to come."
After three fetal arrests, some self-pregnant and some with test tubes, which occurred at 8/15/10 weeks, has lost the confidence to be a mother, and the desire to be a mother, I don't believe it just went back to get a gift, it just didn't want to come
"The 38-week fetus stopped, obviously the baby kicked me in the stomach in the morning!"
"The 37-week baby has no heartbeat, and since the accident to the current 9 days, I have nightmares as soon as I close my eyes!"
After getting pregnant, I went to the hospital for a check-up with joy, and the doctor said that the fetus stopped, and at that moment it really felt that the whole world lost its color, and the feeling that the sky was falling apart made people unable to let go for a long time!
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What is tire arrest?
Mothers who have experienced fetal arrest will ask:
Why do you stop a tire?
Did I do something bad that affected my baby's development?
Fetal arrest, as the name suggests, the fetus stops developing, which is manifested as the heartbeat of the fetus is gone, that is, the living life in the stomach, at an imperceptible time, disappears, without any clinical symptoms!
Most of the fetal arrests occur at about 10 weeks, and some occur at 16 weeks, 20 weeks, or even 30 weeks, which is most common in the first trimester.
There are many causes of fetal arrest, but unless there is a history of multiple miscarriages, the cause is unknown most of the time, and it is difficult to relate to the living habits of pregnant mothers.
Therefore, if you encounter fetal arrest, mothers must not blame themselves too much, most of the fetal arrest is abnormal in the embryo itself, and the pregnant mother itself has little to do with it.
How do I know if my baby has stopped?
In fact, many fetal arrests are detected during pregnancy tests, generally after 8 weeks of menopause, ultrasound has not yet detected fetal heart rate fluctuations, it is likely to be fetal arrest.
If the fetal arrest is not detected in B overweight, then the only sign may be that the symptoms of pregnancy disappear, such as nausea, breast tenderness, fatigue and other symptoms.
If this occurs around 10 weeks of pregnancy, it may be a sign of fetal arrest.
Some people will also have a period of pregnancy discomfort after the abortion, that is, the body has not reacted immediately, and even the signs will not appear until a few weeks after the fetal arrest.
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What causes tire arrest?
There are various reasons for tire arrest, or a combination of reasons.
However, many times, unless there are multiple tire arrests, it is difficult to find the reasons behind tire arrests, the most common reasons are:
(1) Chromosomal abnormalities in the fetus
More than 50% of embryos are chromosomal abnormalities, simply put, the quality of the embryo is not good, it is not suitable for continued growth, and it is eliminated.
(2) Immune factors
Common autoimmune diseases are systemic lupus erythematosus, scleroderma, mixed connective tissue disease, dermatomyositis, etc., and the immunity between mother and fetus is not adapted to cause maternal rejection of the fetus!
Zhao Xiaoqiao, who stopped the fetus at 16 weeks of pregnancy, was caused by immune factors.
(3) Blood clot disorders
The mother's blood clotting disorder (thrombosis disorder) causes blood clots to form in the tiny, most fragile blood vessels in the placenta or umbilical cord, which can block blood flow and cause the fetus to stop due to hypoxia-ischemia.
(4) Umbilical cord torsion
Wrapping the umbilical cord around the neck or limbs may cut off the blood and oxygen supply to the fetus, which may cause the fetal heart to stop.
(5) Infectious factors
Infection accounts for 15%-30% of fetal arrest, and common pathogens include TORCH infection, including toxoplasmosis, cytomegalovirus, herpes and rubella, as well as the mother's own immune factors, endocrine factors, anatomical factors, infectious factors, environmental pollution, bacterial infections, or male sperm abnormalities.
(6) Progesterone hormone deficiency
After pregnancy, the body needs progesterone to have a successful pregnancy, but if the level of progesterone is too low in early pregnancy, it may prevent the growth and development of the fetus and stop the baby's heart from beating.
(7) Age factor
Age is also an important factor in fetal arrest, as the body's reproductive system functions gradually decline, the quantity and quality of eggs also decline, and the miscarriage rate begins to increase.
(8) Unhealthy lifestyle
For example, smoking, drinking, or drug use, these bad lifestyle habits may also cause fetal arrest.
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What should I do if the tire stops?
The doctor will choose the most appropriate way to deal with it based on the diagnosis results and physical condition.
●If the pregnancy is less than 12 weeks old, the doctor may offer three different treatments: spontaneous abortion, medical induction of labor, and uterine evacuation.
●If the pregnancy is 12 weeks pregnant, the following treatments may be done: medical induction of labor, uterine evacuation.
The specific treatment method will be formulated according to the specific situation of each person.
Many mothers have an emotional breakdown after a miscarriage and allow themselves to be sad, but do not blame yourself too much and do not lose hope, pregnancy is a complex process that requires every link to be perfect so that it does not go wrong, do not blame yourself too much, it is not your fault.
A fetal arrest is mostly abnormal embryonic development, which has little to do with the mother, and the natural survival of the fittest is to give birth to a healthy baby in the future, and the most important thing is to raise your own body.
If you experience fetal arrest in large months, or repeated abortion (≥ 2 times), you must pay attention to it, and you must carefully check before preparing for pregnancy again.
Consider sequencing screening from noninvasive to minimally invasive:
(1) Male: semen routine, chromosomes of both couples, blood type.
(2) WOMAN: TORCH (INCLUDING RUBELLA, HERPES, TOXOPLASMOSIS AND OTHER EXAMINATIONS), GYNECOLOGICAL B ULTRASOUND, FULL SET OF SEX HORMONES, THYROID FUNCTION, PROGESTERONE IN THE LUTEAL PHASE, SOME IMMUNE ANTIBODIES, SUCH AS ANTI-SPERM ANTIBODIES, ANTI-ENDOMETRIAL ANTIBODIES, COAGULATION DYSFUNCTION, ETC.
If necessary, further hysteroscopy and other examinations are required.
After the fetus stops, when can I get pregnant again?
If it is the first time the pregnancy is stopped, many times it is just a probability event, you can not do the examination, and you do not need to be too nervous.
Usually, doctors will recommend waiting 3-6 months before trying to get pregnant, giving the body a time to recover, and most importantly, adjusting your emotions.
If it is a large month of fetal arrest or repeated fetal arrest, follow the doctor's advice to do a full examination, eliminate the problem and actively intervene before pregnancy!
The last thing to say is: for fetal arrest, many mothers have an emotional breakdown after a miscarriage, allow themselves to be sad, but don't blame yourself too much, and don't lose hope!
Pregnancy is a complicated process that requires every link to be perfect so that nothing goes wrong, don't blame yourself too much, it's not your fault.
If you lose your baby, be sure to get out of the pain and don't fall into guilt and self-blame!
As a netizen's mother said:
Little babies, they must like their mothers very much,
Each mom is hand-picked by the TA herself.
If for some reason TA cannot meet you smoothly,
Be sure not to blame TA, and do not blame yourself,
He likes you so much, one day you will meet again!