#头条创作挑战赛 #
On the night of the holiday, turn on the TV that I haven't watched for a long time, and I want to relax by watching a drama casually.
Unexpectedly, I was stunned by this scene that was introduced into my eyes - I saw two middle-aged people over half a hundred years old in the picture, with hairstyles like the Haier brothers, and their eyes had read all the vicissitudes, but they staged the idol drama plot of shy and pure love.
So I quickly changed the platform, but I saw the female bully Liu Tao and Chen He kissing again.
Then the camera turned, the female bully Liu Tao sat on the sofa, whistled at Chen He, a middle-aged man who was no longer immature opposite, and shouted evilly: "Little things." ”
At this time, not only did my original wish to relax be disappointed, but I even felt my heart tighten, my palms sweated, and I began to pick my toes in embarrassment.
Clicking on the major social platforms, I found that there are still many people who feel the same physical discomfort as me.
30+ middle-aged women, it was originally worth riding the wind and waves.
But when, the middle daughter of domestic dramas has been reduced to this?
The current heroine of domestic dramas
It really makes people want to vomit
With curiosity, I went to watch a batch of recent domestic dramas, and found that the plots of these dramas were really bloody one by one, and the heroine was really crazy one by one.
They have outstanding abilities, excellent careers, and beautiful appearance. However, even with so many buff blessings, he still lived a chicken flying dog, and even failed, went crazy and went crazy.
They are either stuck with appearance anxiety -
It is clear that he has seen the flowers of the high ridge in the world, but he forcibly pretends to be tender, and from time to time he creates two literary and artistic golden sentences that have nothing to say, which are not similar.
The sassy and cold goddess in the original work of "Dragon City" has become a vulgar woman with heavy makeup in domestic dramas
Or trapped in fertility anxiety -
Obviously a female elite in the workplace, but because of her age, she was forced to carry the KPI of giving birth to a child, and she had to step on the sky high to go to a meeting at 32 weeks pregnant, which is called "motherhood."
"This Life is also the First Time" preaches that the heroine of 32 weeks pregnant insists on going to work and endures hardships and hard work
In "Lady's Character", the heroine Yao Wei is a company executive, who is in the rising stage of her career but is unexpectedly pregnant, facing the problem of choosing between career and fertility classics, her choice is: birth.
However, such sacrifices are exchanged for "keeping the small but not the big".
Or trapped in the seven-year itch, busy catching the mistress to engage in female competition and start the marriage defense war——
For example, the cool drama drama of the main room fighting junior.
For example, the mother-in-law who openly escaped for his cheating.
In Feng Xiaogang's new drama "Echo", when a middle-aged wife met the junior who came to the door to provoke, she quietly said a strange "mother-in-law" remark, and received the "general understanding" recognized by the male world.
For example, the inactive Ma Bao husband and the increasingly fierce conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Others are busy with middle-aged love brains, old houses on fire, and screens full of "girl literature", completely regardless of the audience's life or death.
And looking at these domestic drama heroines, although their predicaments are different, there are only two perfect endings:
Or, look for single-minded love in men, meet scumbags and beat scumbags, stop and improve yourself in time until you find a better man to love yourself.
Or, try to maintain a shaky marriage with a man, marry and children, and use all your energy to mend all the shaky moments in the marriage, protect a family that seems happy and stable to outsiders, and finally get the medal of a good wife and mother.
These narratives never provide a suspended model of happiness, telling women that no matter how good, independent, smart, or beautiful, everyone must end up in the same way.
But, is that really the case?
Do women really have no choice?
Domestic big heroine
Life needs to be restarted
When the 30+ middle-aged women in domestic dramas are still tearing each other up with the same sex, saving their husbands, giving up their careers and going home to have children, the recent word-of-mouth Japanese drama "Restart Life" is already exploring another possibility -
The heroine in the play, Asami Kondo, 33 years old, the so-called "older single, unmarried and childless", her work is also mediocre, working as a grassroots civil servant in the government service department of a small city.
And she has two or three female friends who grew up together, all in a similar situation.
Not young and not yet married, this kind of label that can be called the standard for failure in domestic dramas, placed on this group of girls, but there is no sense of loser.
Life in a small city is stable and slow, and after work they get together to eat and chat, and talk about simple and happy little things.
But these topics never talked about anxiety about age and marriage and childbearing. It's as if this isn't something worth exploring.
In their life plans, it seems that there is no such thing as getting married and having children at all.
And the relatives around them, no one urged them to fall in love, get married and have children.
Everyone in the play enjoys every ordinary moment of life.
The only dramatic moment in the play is after work one day -
That day, the heroine Asami Kondo had dinner and sang with friends, and after the end, the heroine was ready to walk home, but in order to pick up a small piece of wet wipes wrapping paper, she died in an accidental car accident.
But found that he had come to the "posthumous reincarnation transit station".
Here, the transit receptionist informs Asami that in the afterlife she will be reincarnated as a great anteater in southeastern Guatemala. The reason is that her life is too ordinary, she has not made enough contributions to society, and the merit she has accumulated is not enough to be a person in the next life.
And if you don't want to become an anteater, the only way is to restart your life with all your memories and accumulate good deeds to get the opportunity to be reincarnated as a human.
Since then, the heroine has experienced 4 reboots, left the original circle, lost her initial friendship, fell in love, went to Tokyo's top TV station as a well-known screenwriter, worked as a scientific researcher who solved the world's medical problems, and even became the youngest captain in Japan, and saved the lives of the passengers on the entire plane.
It is also because Asami has made outstanding contributions to society and accumulated a lot of merit, and finally got the opportunity to be reincarnated as a human being.
But this time she gave up and chose to return to the small town, returning to the job of an ordinary civil servant at the beginning, living with her childhood friends until the end of her life.
In the whole story, there is no bloody love triangle plot, no suspicion, jealousy and comparison between women in domestic dramas.
The women in "Restart Life" are simple and ordinary, but they are comforting:
It turns out that women do not have to become excellent and dazzling, do not have to refer to social standards, and only rely on their own strength to live the life that their hearts really desire.
And this kind of life has nothing to do with men, about success, about material things.
It's only about how you feel inside.
Of course, such a story will not appear in domestic dramas.
Life is wild, not track
The story shines into reality, and the struggles of 30+ women in domestic dramas also reflect the common plight of many women in reality.
For example, a Kochi woman who graduated from Peking University, when facing the well-known female scholar Chizuko Ueno, asked only the question: "I got married and had children, am I still an independent woman?" ”
A female student in Tsinghua, under the banner of independent women, but the screen is full of kneeling praise for men.
But in fact, we have long had good samples of narratives on women's topics.
In the TV series "It Seems to Be in Love" N years ago, a group of 30+ women can live freely and freely.
The attitude towards life is crisp and neat.
For example, Ye Shen, a woman interviewed in the ancient interview show "Half the Sky", has been married to her husband for many years and already has a child, but the day before her graduate school entrance examination, her husband had a showdown and admitted that he had a young lover.
After Ye Shen learned this, she did not reprimand her husband angrily and did not confront her mistress, she not only successfully admitted to graduate school, but also divorced her husband peacefully.
Because she knows that deep down in her heart, she has never particularly loved this man, and her spirit and material are highly independent.
Without a man and marriage, she still has a wonderful life to live.
Why is it that more than ten or twenty years have passed, but they are driving backwards?
Finally, I would like to quote the verse of Hermann Hesse to express my blessings to everyone -
"A mature person has no responsibilities other than this:
Find yourself and be yourself firmly,
No matter where you go, explore your own path. ”
In a once-in-a-lifetime that cannot be restarted,
You don't have to be a good daughter, a good wife, a good mother, a good woman in the eyes of others.
But be sure to be the best version of yourself.